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kwick · 18/07/2016 18:58
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kwick ·
18/07/2016 21:35
I am not very eloquent karen but someone on another thread was when she explained what helps her when dealing with the good BFP fortune of others: try to remember that there is not some definite number out there of how many babies there can be, that someine else having a baby does not reduce the possible number or more specifically your number, that you still have all the chance in the world. I find this thinking helps me. 
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pickle162 ·
18/07/2016 21:39
Oh sweet pie, I totally get it but as kwick is her wisdom once said to me... There isn't a limited number of pregnancies that happen, her being preg won't stop you being preg. My sister and best friend are both preg and a girl at work just had a baby (who wasn't even trying
) so it's like everyone has what I so desperately want and it's frigging hard but we just have to keep in our mind it might just happen for us too and all this hard time and stress etc will all be worth. We are all here to get you through this tough time Karen xx
INeedNewShoes ·
18/07/2016 22:37
INeedNewShoes (not because I'm a shoe-aholic but because I desperately need a new pair of shoes and can't find any that fit properly)
TTC since January. Two 'successful' non-medicated IUIs in that I got BFPs but miscarried both (the first after only a few days, the second a MMC discovered at 11 weeks then surgically managed)
Using a clinic in Denmark that I love but now that it's the summer holidays is a right pain to get to as all the flights have sold out!...
May be having IUI 3 this week.
So, when it got to the point where for Wednesday and Thursday this week there was only one remaining seat on one flight out of a London airport on Wednesday to Copenhagen I booked it because otherwise it's game over for this month. I think I should get my LH surge on Thursday so IUI on Friday morning then I'll fly back, but (as experienced once before) this is a risky way of doing things and I may well have a city break to CPH with no IUI to show for it if my timing is skewy. AAAARRRRRGGGHHH!
Teensy bit stressled 
(that's a manic grin, just in case you're wondering).
INeedNewShoes ·
18/07/2016 22:44
Karen 
It's hard I know.
For me, I can cope quite well with the pregnant women around me (of which there seem to be hundreds at the moment!) but I had a right old wobble last Friday on the day that my 20-week scan had been booked for. It's so frustrating and upsetting to think that we could be half way through our pregnancies by now.
The thing bothering me most is the uncertainty. I think if somebody could say to me 'within the next 12–18 months you will give birth to a healthy baby' that'd be fine. I could be patient if it was all more certain, but I know I may have difficulties getting another BFP and who knows whether I'll have a third miscarriage.
But, we are strong ladies. I am constantly amazed at the strength all of us show on this thread when we've had bad luck and things have just seemed so unfair. We pick ourselves up, and we plan our next attempt. My friend (who is lined up to take me to Heathrow on Wednesday) said to me today 'keep fighting - it will all be worth it' and it will. We have to hang on that.
kwick ·
19/07/2016 08:49
karen hope you are feeling better. This is a long road we are travelling - and I take comfort in that although I am doing this "alone" I really am not - with all you lovely ladies to support me.
shoes I know it is really hard to but please try and stay calm - the stress might interfere with ovulation etc. I will keep my fx that the timing all works out.
Luckily the fact that I have never been very good at numbers means I really have to stop and think and use a calculator to work out how far along I would have been...
Just did blood tests at clinic - 3 people had to stab me!!! I forgot how difficult I am. I also have baseline scan booked for 15 August - which does not feel that far away. I found out what the Norethisterone is for - to improve egg quality - which I am all for :)
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INeedNewShoes ·
19/07/2016 18:47
I got a nearly positive ic opk this afternoon, even earlier in my cycle than last month. If I get my LH surge this evening then the flight I booked for tomorrow afternoon will be too late.
So I'm sat at Heathrow having had a mad dash to get here and have used another load of avios points to get a flight. No sooner had I got through security when the flight was suddenly listed as delayed by 2 hours!
The pro (or possible con) of the delay is that I can test again before the flight so will know whether this was a good move or a ludicrous gamble that hasn't paid off.
One thing I'll say is that life certainly isn't boring at the moment 
Worst case scenario: spend a few hundred ££ on hotels over the next few days waiting for LH surge and enjoy the cooler Copenhagen weather! Just keep telling myself that's not the end of the world.
Lovely to hear that all is going smoothly hoping
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