TTC#2, what do I need to do?

[Nurszilla]

Hi all

Previous mnetter, back again to this place of comfort as I travel the previously unchartered territory of TTC.

I'm 26, DH 29 and DD 3. DD born out of some sort of freak-fertility in which we were going double-Dutch (implant and condoms), condom split 3 days before AF due to arrive so didn't bother addressing it and voila, baby. I'm not explaining this to brag, at the moment I'm full of self loathing and grief at how I took my fertility for granted and had no idea of the constant stress, anxiety and pee on my hands/legs/bathroom floor I would endure. I was so excited when we agreed to TTC and have been on our 3rd cycle, BFN's all over the bathroom and symptom spotting like a mad woman for the past week, only to find AF waiting for me when I took my 5th toilet break (check) of the hour when my colleague blurted out she was expecting and had only started trying the night she fell PG. genuinely happy for her, but wallowing in self pity

Last month I bought some ovulation kits (7) from sainsburys but gave up as the result just seemed to be the same each day, and I was testing in what I thought would be my most fertile week (10ish days after AF starts?) Today I bought one of those fancy clear blue fertility monitor press-screen things with 20 sticks to pee on, I guess I'll learn more about that when it comes? I've also bought some pregnacare, would you guys recommend that? Have been taking folic acid for ages anyways. I see things about charting your body temperature and luteal (sp?) phases or something? Sorry, I know I sound like an idiot but any advice you can give me I would be so grateful.

I'm petrified DD will be my only, I'm so grateful to have her but full of guilt as I completely took her for granted and didn't savour those baby years.

[Poppydm]

Hi Nurzilla, I'm in my first 'real' cycle after coming off the pill and I think I just got my first ovulation test positive on CD17. I just use the cheapie ones from Amazon, think it's something like £5 for 30. I also use the Ovia app to keep track of cm, DTD etc. I've been taking the seven seas pre-pregnancy vitamins for a few months now. We've DTD a fair bit this week and going to try again tonight/in the morning after getting the positive OPK. Some people track their Basel temp and others check their cervix so there are other things if you feel it would help you. I know it's hard, but as best you can try not to stress and worry. Got everything crossed for you

[Nurszilla]

Should probably mention that we are dtd every 2-3 days too

[Nurszilla]

Thanks Poppy, will download the app! Fingers crossed for you too

[Poppydm]

Thank you! Let me know how you get on