Too afraid to test

(12 Posts)
jpclarke Tue 24-May-16 19:55:24

Last month I had a very early miscarriage, I got faint lines on tests and then four days after my missed period I started bleeding for a week, longer than I ever normally would. I tested using opk's for ovulation and this too was a few days late, so although I am now on day 29 I am only 11 dpo but I am terrified to test in case the same thing happens. I also haven't really been feeling any symptoms bar the fact that my face is destroyed in spots. I did suffer with this problem on my first pregnancy. I just don't want to be dissapointed again. Although then part of me thinks if it is good news then I will be relieved. Anyone else in a similar position??

Whatevernext001 Tue 24-May-16 20:15:40

I'm not quite there yet but I'm dreading it all the same. I don't know about you but I'm not sure how I would deal with it if it happened again and although trying to think positive it has put a dampener on the whole experience.
If you can hold off testing until your really late it at help but good luck if you do,crossing my fingers for you and hoping for the best. X

jpclarke Tue 24-May-16 20:25:06

Thank you whatever, so glad to know I am not the only one. I am going to hold out until the weekend, although I did buy some first response tests today but I am not ready to take one. Hopefully we can help each other, and I hope you get the result you want this month fx xx

Whatsername17 Tue 24-May-16 20:57:42

I had a chemical which showed up.as a faint line in March. After that, I only tested at 14dpo using a digital test because they are less sensitive and are only reliable after 14dpo really. Therefore it is a yes or no answer. I was lucky this month and got a positive on day 14. The month before I got my period before I could test. Definitely the way forward for me. After several miscarriage at 13 weeks and a chemical it is the only way I can stay sane.

Whatsername17 Tue 24-May-16 20:58:06

Positive on 14dpo not day 14^

jpclarke Tue 24-May-16 21:04:56

I am so sorry to hear about your losses, that was a really tough time you have been through. But I am thrilled to hear that you have had a positive test now and I wish you a very happy and healthy pregnancy. Thanks for giving me hope. I don't think I can face testing yet.

Whatevernext001 Tue 24-May-16 22:15:09

I would try and hold off testing as long as possible. My DH has suggested we shouldn't test until I'm at least 2 weeks late,not sure I'll be able to hold off. It's so tempting to test early.
I have read that you are more fertile after a loss so hopefully that is true. X

Writerwannabe83 Tue 24-May-16 22:36:49

Me and DH are TTC for the first time following a miscarriage I had early March. My DH wanted to start trying again straight away but I just wasn't ready. It was only an early miscarriage, I had two weeks of really strong lines and then it was just gone, but it hit me hard.

I'm now 2dpo and keep thinking about what will happen regarding testing in a weeks time. I know I won't be able to hold out until the day my period is due. I think this time though I will keep it to myself a bit longer before I tell DH, just until I feel comfortable that nothing is hopefully going to go wrong.

When I was pregnant my first tell-tale sign was a break out of spots which I never have smile

jpclarke Wed 25-May-16 21:34:46

Well ladies, I gave in and tested this morning bfn. But I don't feel any af coming so I suppose I will just wait and see and maybe test again at the weekend if nothing shows up between now and then. I have a feeling my cycle days have been a bit messed up since the early miscarriage last month as I ovulated later than I would expect so I am hoping that it just means I tested too early. But I still spent the day feeling very down about it all.

Whatevernext001 Wed 25-May-16 21:57:25

Please don't feel too down, speak with your DH and have a rant I find it always helps! Your cycle may not be back to normal so don't count yourself out just yet. Keep positive x

jpclarke Thu 26-May-16 20:20:10

The dreaded af arrived today, so at least I only wasted 1 test. Ttc is costly business.

Trulyamnearanear Thu 26-May-16 20:28:14

flowers

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