TTC with PCOS (Thread lucky #4!)

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RoseBud2016 Mon 01-Feb-16 12:11:48

If you have been diagnosed with PCOS and would like a small group of very friendly ladies in the same position as you to talk to, then this is the thread for you!

You can find our first thread >>>>>>>> HERE

You can find our second thread >>>>>>>>> HERE

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stealthbanana Mon 01-Feb-16 12:19:56

Marking my place smile

<twirls on new thread>

VillageFete Mon 01-Feb-16 12:33:59

Bananafish I am so, so thrilled for you. Wonderful news!! I'm sure the others will agree that it really gives us hope. Can I ask, are you on clomid or anything?

Elle Totally understand what that's like. I've had a very uncooperative DP at times during the last 18 months TTC. It's such a drain sometimes.

So pleased to see so many ladies on here finally getting somewhere! It's game over for me this month as I didn't ov. A pattern is emerging whereby I seem to ov every other month (well it has been for the last 4 months) But that's just not good enough now, i've had enough. Looks like we will be going for clomid if nothing happens in Feb but I don't know much about it and a consultation for it is £180!! It says a consultation plus scan package (that includes monitoring for the first cycle) is £410 and then it says clomid for 3 months is between £15 and £45?

I see so many ladies talking about follicles on here and how big they are etc and I don't know what it means blush

DizzyNorthernBird Mon 01-Feb-16 12:40:47

Hello!

Place marking by saying a big congratulations to banana! star star star

amy saw your post about your psoriasis.....just out of interest you have any intolerance to foods?

Hope everyone else is well.

I've been feeling sorry for myself as I had my follow up appointment last week with GP and she's basically told me there's no point in giving me clomid or metformin and I should just keep trying. A bit frustrating but hopefully DP's SA won't be too far away and then we can get referred and take it from there.

I think I'm in the tww now so fx as usual Dream on dizzy for this cycle to be the one.

bananafish81 Mon 01-Feb-16 12:47:40

Place marking! <Waves pom poms> x

IsItIorAreTheOthersCrazy Mon 01-Feb-16 14:01:49

Rose wow, 12 eggs!! That is absolutely amazing. Im so happy for you and have my fingers tightly crossed. It seems to have come around so quickly!

I am in Prague for 2 weeks. I honestly wish my job was glamorous - I work in car insurance claims and am here scoping out some offices etc thats all. I've been before and I love it here.

How are you feeling?

Stealth how are you feeling after your trigger?

Elle I agree with other posters - every one of us has had an experience like you have with our DH's / DP's. I remember once arguing with DH then telling him we need to stop rowing and DTD - I even offered to carry on the argument later. He looked at me like this hmm and said no. I was so upset, I honestly would have done it anyway blush

Bananafish I don't know how to explain how excited I am for you. Its great seeing good news on this thread.

AFM, I don't really have an update, sorry. I have not had another cycle as I have not taken the tablets to bring one on. Me and DH aren't going to be in the same place at the right time for the next 2 months and I've had a little bit of mental health crash. nothing major, just struggling to focus on the positives. So we're just plodding on with diet & exercise so we are both as healthy as we can be before we start the madness again in April, and I am enjoying my time away from home to just get lots of fresh air and having some peace so I can relax.
I really really wish I had news though!!

ellewalk Mon 01-Feb-16 14:07:44

Thank you ladies, it is so good to know that I am not on my own and normal!

isit thanks for that story it certainly made me smile! Sorry no news for you, fingers crossed April is your month smile

VillageFete Mon 01-Feb-16 14:37:49

I have just got off the phone to the fertility centre that is part of my local hospital where I was having my NHS tests done, i'm no longer an NHS patient (been discharged) and I just asked some basic questions about clomid, is it right for me as I appear to ov every other month anyway etc and I was told a Dr will call me back tomorrow. We'll see.

Ladies, does anyone mind sharing their BMI? Looking online it seems clomid is more successful if you have a BMI of 25 or under. Mine is 27.2. I am trying to lose weight but I do find it really hard. I have to practically starve to lose anything and I guess that's down to the PCOS? I'm worried that clomid won't work for me due to my BMI. Also looking online the success rates don't look that great anyway sad

I'm scared today. I would never admit it to anyone in real life (besides DP) but i'm so scared that it's just not meant to be. It's like someone is punching me in the stomach when I think i'll never get to hold my newborn baby. I suppose it's not helping that 2 people extremely close to me gave birth last week. Don't get me wrong, I am so, so, so happy for them, but I guess it made me face reality that this is not going to be easy for me.

chandelierswinging Mon 01-Feb-16 16:23:55

Helloooooo Thread four!

Quickly placemarking... Will read last few posts on previous thread then be back later smile

Dunlin1987 Mon 01-Feb-16 16:59:07

Place marking! Will write a proper comment later. Xx

stealthbanana Mon 01-Feb-16 17:00:10

Isit - enjoy the break, it feels good not to be thinking about boring bloody fertility crap the whole time doesn't it! Take care of yourself. No side effects from the trigger shot, in fact that has reminded me to poa opk next time I need a wee, just to check it is working! (I assume it jacks up your LH levels pretty quickly?) In fact the only symptom I've had over the last 24hrs is some twitching and popping on the right side...which is on the OTHER side to the ovary that the big follie was on. Hopefully it doesn't mean a few little follies have matured - don't want to be Octomum!

Elle - I can completely relate to isit's story re arguing and dtd ing simultaneously. I'm ashamed to admit that I've been about to blow my top then gritted my teeth and thought "no, you can pick a fight AFTER DTD"blush Ofc the good thing about sex (even DTD sex) is that it's hard to stay mad!

Village - fx you get your clomid. I have a low bmi, when I started ttc ing it was 18 but I have managed to get it up to 20ish with a concerted effort to eat more and a load of strength training. I do think that the impact of being at a healthy weight is quite profound for us pcosers so if you can motivate yourself to approach weight loss you might find it pays dividends. And flowers on the Fear - I get it too, and it's awful. You have to just keep reminding yourself that it's not a race, and that you will almost certainly get there in the end. Probably a lot wiser and more compassionate for the journey too! wine and cake for you x

Ain626 Mon 01-Feb-16 19:47:14

Feel a bit cheeky sliding back in here... (I started the first thread, but have been awol for quite a while!!!)

I have nothing new to report despite being absent all this time... apart from I have a fc appointment lined up for march.

I think I may have ov'ed this month on around cd43/44. Currently on cd57 and hoping for af (or bfp of course! But poas today and bfn). If I do have af it will be my first natural one in years!

Dunlin1987 Mon 01-Feb-16 19:58:26

Rosebud hope you are feeling ok and are being looked after by your DH! 12 eggs is amazing! Well done smile

Elle my DH has had quite a few rows with me lately as my stress levels are through the roof (obviously not helping matters) he says he does not want to DTD when I am behaving so erratically (again I understand why) but that does not often help calm me down!! I never even get make up sex either. What I have to keep telling myself is that when I do have a baby, I don't want to think that it was conceived in a moment of hate or dislike.

Banana sounds like a definite positive to me. Sore breasts is definitely a huge sign!! I have everything crossed for you!

2016 is going to be our year! I feel very positive about that.

Villagefete my BMI is 30. I desperately want to lose weight but really struggling. I have signed up to weight watchers now though to make sure I lose weight. I also know they won't perform IVF unless you have a BMI of 30 or under so want to make sure I am safely in that bracket just incase the Clomid does not work.

A week on Thursday I will hopefully be starting treatment! Not looking forward to the side effects though. Is Clomid quite successful. Has anyone had it who is on this thread?

Dunlin1987 Mon 01-Feb-16 20:01:41

Ain626 are you on any treatment or have you just been trying naturally for the last year or so?

Lucinda15 Mon 01-Feb-16 20:08:41

Hello - newbie here! Have just been diagnosed with PCOS. TTC #2 for 12 months. Had 2 mc's along the way - which I guess is kinda positive that I HAVE got pregnant twice in a year? Just had a scan as I felt something not quite right and was sure I wasn't ovulating regularly. And got the PCOS diagnosis last week. Having day 21 bloods tom. GP said if not ovulating can then discuss meds, he mentioned metformin.

Was feeling hopeful but having read some of your posts I'm wondering how easily then prescribe these meds? Do I have to fulfil a certain criteria or show 'x' no. Of months without ovulation? Also - my BMI is 29. Got into good shape a year ago with decent BMI to fall pregnant. But then put on a lot of weight since falling apart a bit after first mc! Kicking myself now that it cld be hampering my chances now and I'm on slimming world but it is slow progress. Has anyone got experience of high BMI and being prescribed/success with the drugs?

village - I am also feeling scared at the moment. I know I am so lucky to have my DS (a very happy unplanned pregnancy) but I have wanted to try for #2 for over 2 years now, waited for financial reasons and then spent the last year TTC and losing our pregnancies. It's been heartbreaking. I have really felt like a failure. Firstly for losing he pregnancies and now for finding out I'm not ovulating. I feel defunct. There are also Lots of babies being born around me and I am very happy for them - but it stings. And I am so scared that perhaps it won't happen for us a second time around.

I've been finding the whole process of TTC and the 2ww and the disappointment of BFN very painful and Some days I think I should be grateful for what I have lets stop this now and save ourselves from the hurt. But - I can't seem to give up trying. It's so hard to know what to do.

Fingers crossed we get somewhere with the meds....I really hope the GP is able to prescribe them.

Dunlin1987 Mon 01-Feb-16 20:17:28

Hi Lucinda welcome to the thread! Not nice though it is for horrible reasons but we can all stick together. I don't ovulate and I will be given Clomid next week with a BMI of 30. If you don't ovulate you will likely be given Clomid but they may want to do some tests first I.e a Hcosy to check your tunes are not blocked or damaged. I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I can't imagine how that would have felt. As you have miscarried they will probably more likely run a scan to see what is happening down there.

Dunlin1987 Mon 01-Feb-16 20:18:09

Hycosy and tubes not tunes smile

Lucinda15 Mon 01-Feb-16 20:23:25

Thank you dunlin - good to know what could be in store. I have had an USS which shows everything alright as far as that will show. I hadn't thgt I might need further scans confused the GP was actually rather blasé about the whole thing and just said we would discuss meds if day 21 came back to show no ovulation. I just have to wait and see I guess, but feel a bit uncertain and overwhelmed with it. Everyone keeps saying PCOS is so common and many women with PCOS have babies etc etc. It just dsnt feel as easy as that.....and sorta feels like a big deal to me at the moment! I'm just very disappointed I guess.

I am also trying acupuncture though as someone recommended - has anyone tried that?

VoldysGoneMouldy Mon 01-Feb-16 20:24:39

Place marking smile Thank you!

Dunlin1987 Mon 01-Feb-16 20:31:01

1 in 10 women have PCOS! You should never feel alone in this. I can't believe how many women I know have had problems TTC! The truth is most people stay quiet about it but I think if we all spoke about it more we wouldn't feel so alone and upset with ourselves. It sounds really positive Lucinda in your case. Your doctor obviously knows you have conceived before so may start you on meds straight away. Stay positive!!

Lucinda15 Mon 01-Feb-16 20:47:30

Thank you dunlin means a lot! Was feeling a bit teary this eve, its really helped to hear some encouragement and get some support. flowers feeling positive!

Dunlin1987 Mon 01-Feb-16 21:02:38

No problem smile we are all in this together xxx

Ain626 Mon 01-Feb-16 21:12:59

dunlin we've been ttc since August 2014. I've been on metformin for over a year now. I am overweight, by more than I'd really like to admit but am working on it. 20lbs down. I'm pretty short, so my bmi is pretty high atm. blush recently joined slimming world though, and got slimmer of the month for January, so I really am trying!

Other than the metformin and losing weight the doctor also gives me norethisterone every 3 months to bring on a bleed (after being told to do so by a gynecologist). My fc did promise clomid if I could get my weight down a bit. I'm hoping I can get it to something they will be happy with by my appointment on march 21st.

In the meantime, if I did randomly ov, and af does appear in the next few days this would mean that this would be the first natural af in years. I'll take that if that's the case!!!

Dunlin1987 Mon 01-Feb-16 21:56:19

That's brilliant Ain626 you have been trying a while. Hopefully they do give you some meds in March! Yes I was given Norethisterone to induce a bleed a few months ago as I only have 1 a year. Hope you have ov'd!

Ain626 Mon 01-Feb-16 22:05:19

Thank you for the positive post dunlin it seems everything to do with ttc is quite negative at the min even though I'm trying to remind myself of the positives!

I will need to come here more often I think. smile

been feeling very emotional today, even cried at a friends episode that I've seen a thousand times before.

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