2 miscarriages, when will it finally happen

(7 Posts)
LRtheaks Tue 29-Dec-15 16:12:00

Hi people on mums net, I was told by a friend that this site might be a good place to go for help and support. I'm feeling so low, currently off work for Christmas break and I should be full of Christmas cheer! But I'm not!!
I am 32, 33 in April. I had my first natural miscarriage on the 28th December 2014 and my second loss- a missed miscarriage on 4th August 2015. I would have been 9 weeks and we lost our baby at 8 weeks. We both was devasted!
Since the second loss I have been suffering lots of pelvic pains, had a scan and was told everything was fine. This news is great but If everything is fine then why is it not happening? Every time I hear people announce their healthy pregnancy my heart breaks more and more.
I really want to be pregnant- but equally scared that it might happen again.
Anyone in similar situation?

Junosmum Tue 29-Dec-15 16:21:14

Sorry for your loses. I don't have much personal experience (I had one loss several years ago) but my friend had 7 miscarriages for 5 - 11 weeks and was told it was unlikely she would every carry to term, but there was no reason for it. She now has a beautiful 4 week old little boy. He was worth the wait!

LRtheaks Tue 29-Dec-15 16:27:15

7 losses, I don't think my heart could take it. What a brave lady continuing to try for her boy after being told it might not happen.

AngelsWithFilthySouls Tue 29-Dec-15 18:48:06

So sorry for your losses. I had 4 missed mc in the space of 18 months and it was horrendous. I genuinely thought I'd never carry to term despite our tests being clear. However, I now have a 14 month old who was born just over 2 years since the first mc so it can happen.

With the successful pregnancy I was on a treatment plan despite no issues being found so it may have been that or just our time finally.

I really hope everything works out for you flowers

LRtheaks Tue 29-Dec-15 19:07:08

I'm sorry for your losses but happy that you have your little one. I feel reassured that even with multiple losses there can be a happy ending. Just so frustrating seeing friends and colleagues have healthy pregnancies first time round and extending their family easily.
Thank you

Lucinda15 Tue 29-Dec-15 20:24:27

So sorry for your losses and that you are having a bad time. I had 2 miscarriages this year. One v traumatic at 11.5 weeks and another v early at only 4.5 weeks. I have found them difficult to move on from and TTC has been very frustrating and scary. I'm also petrified it will happen again. It's such a strange feeling to want something so much but for the idea of it to fill you with fear!!

There are a few friends and family around me who are pregnant, 2 with due dates within days/weeks of when my first mc would be due. I have been genuinely happy for them but also feel heartbroken watching them grow and see their excitement. I get an ache in my belly for what could have been. And with every month that passes it feels harder and harder TTC. I try and switch off and not stress bout it like everyone says,but it's near impossible!!

The miscarriage association have been great, and the chat boards on here have really helped me through some dark times. You could try the miscarriage and pregnancy loss chats on the body and soul board to speak to more people who have had similar experiences.

I send u a massive hug and lots of baby dust your way for a BFP very soon!! flowers

Theaks Tue 05-Jan-16 16:18:01

Thank you so much. You have been through quite a rough patch too. It really isn't fair.

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