I am currently using contraception. But I toy with the idea of coming off it, not telling DH and seeing what happens :( I know that is awful and selfish and wrong and a massive breach of trust. I know it could ruin everything, I don't want to do it and I doubt I will. But I want too. And thats awful.
We are both 30, financially OK, social support isn't too bad. Physically fine, mental health good, but hasn't been great in the past and because of that we have decided to wait until I'm 32 to have a good few years of stability behind us. I know logically and sensibly waiting is for the best. But there is this whole other part of me that is convinced I'm infertile (all female family members have either not concieved/adopted or it took an insane amount of time, 17 years for my mum, I've been a bit lax in the past with contraception and nothing) and I just don't think I have the luxury of time. Ive always wanted children since I was about 15, I can't get to 35-36 having tried for 3 years, i just can't.
I know I can't predict anything and could fall pregnant in a month but I'm just so convinced it could easily take years that I want to start now to give myself a fighting chance.
Clearly I need to speak to DH. This sounds so awful but I'm not doing so because I know if I did he would keep a closer eye on me using contraception . Ugh, i really hate myself for this. Please tell me to stop flirting with this horrendously immoral idea I have that is borne out of fear and impatience. Fear and impatience are not excuses to take someones choice away and bring a child into the world. How would I feel if he had the snip without telling me?!
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AliceScarlett · 15/09/2015 00:18
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