TTC way longer than 10 months past & present

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joycep Fri 25-Jul-14 17:41:00

A group of lovely ladies who've seen it all

joycep Fri 25-Jul-14 17:43:40

Critter &fox - thank you!! Exercise is a grand idea and may just punch myself in the stomach a few times too over the weekend. My diet has been shocking and I don't think this will have helped.
Fox - yes and yes- I feel jet lagged. So it is the drugs.

joycep Fri 25-Jul-14 17:50:44

Oh and critter , they noted down I had a cyst in Jan but the doc didn't write down the size. So I do need to just clarify if this is the same one. Thanks for chatting today ladies. Been one of those days where you feel the need to offload to a friend who understands which is difficult when all friends have newborns. X

foxinorangesocks Fri 25-Jul-14 18:18:54

Agreed joy. Thanks for starting thread one billion! We really have seen it all I think. Except I haven't seen a baby anywhere in my house! One day...we will get there! Sometimes new threads get all lucky don't they.

SweepTheHalls Fri 25-Jul-14 18:23:15

Can I come and join you? I am a bit of an interloper as I have 2 delightful children, but have been unsuccessfully trying for no. 3 for 24 cycles now.

CritterPants Fri 25-Jul-14 18:27:12

joy offload away... today has been a crappy day indeed. I love euro's 'Operation Burst Cyst' plan!

fox interesting thoughts about your donor. I just think it's amazing how the egg really is just the genetic starting block. So much happens during pregnancy, with your body nurturing the little creature and growing him or her. Oh one other thought - do you think you'd transfer two or one?

Something great happened today - my mum found our family photo albums which have been lost for ten years! They were in the garage. All my (and sister critter's) childhood pics and pics of my parents when they were dating and 70s newlyweds. So relieved as we thought they were gone forever.

CritterPants Fri 25-Jul-14 18:27:59

Yay a newbie! Welcome sweep, lovely to have you hear. Pull up a pew! cake

CritterPants Fri 25-Jul-14 18:28:30

'here' not 'hear'. Good heavens! blush

SweepTheHalls Fri 25-Jul-14 18:35:09

Thank you for the welcome! I've been watching ypur thread from afar grin

raydown Fri 25-Jul-14 18:51:49

Yes, we've seen it all. Although I've never seen my bfp, bump or baby sad

Thanks for the new thread, joy. I can't believe your cycle is cancelled. You must be right peed off (understatement) and after me talking about cysts as well. I'm so sorry. It's crap of the highest order. The cyst I had zapped in the lap was a blood filled one. I'm not sure what to think about them saying it will go on its own because I had mine for at least 2 years and it showed no signs of going on its own. I noticed a change in my periods. They got stupidly heavy and extremely painful and that happend about two years before the lap. The first gyn I saw spotted it on the scan and said it would go by itself. A year later second dr spotted it but thought it was a fluid filled tube hence the lap. I hope yours is a short term one. Could you get a second opinion? I had brain freeze too. I remember posting here saying I felt a bit out of body, that was on the oestrogen. It was the weirded sensation and I did worry I was going mad. I wish I could take you out for a big glass of wine tonight.

Critter, like joy I often think of you. I know the urge to go again is so strong but if you did wait until after the trip then at least you would be without the constant worry while you were away. Your mum must be so worried about you, it must be hard for her not to be able to fix it for you.

raydown Fri 25-Jul-14 18:56:12

X post with critter and sweep. Welcome sweep! Have you had any tests done yet to find out what might be going wrong? We're your first two easily conceived?

Critter yay to photo album find. I love looking at old photos. My mum always had a camera out when we were young so we have lots of nice records of our childhoods.

eurochick Fri 25-Jul-14 19:00:49

joy that is excellent news about your AMH. Mine went up (apparently) from 12 to 15, so who knows what it all means. I'm so sorry that your cycle has been cancelled though. Pesky cyst. I think the scratch is "valid" for 3 cycles after it is done. I'm not sure about that though.

buzz we had the storm too. We got drenched on the way back from hospital, just running from the cab to the house! And then I remembered I probably shouldn't be running...

critter I completely understand your wish to push on. Flying isn't supposed to harm anything. I was due to fly to Ireland to see the in-laws during my 2ww and I was fine with it (although in the end I cancelled but only because of how manic the visit was becoming, not the flying part).

Thanks for asking. Centime is doing well. Finally putting on weight - just a few grams a day, but you can really see a bit of flesh coming on her tiny bones. We have finally decided on a name. We just need to tell the grandparents and then we will announce it more widely. I can't believe we took a week to decide between X Y surname and Y X surname. To be fair, we were massively sleep deprived and getting over the shock of everything that had happened in recent weeks, and our decision-making powers were not at their strongest!

Welcome sweep. This has been a wonderful supportive thread for so long.

SweepTheHalls Fri 25-Jul-14 19:43:38

First 2,9 and 6 months respectively no issues. This time just an early miscarriage on cycle 18 and nothing else. GP says they can't /won't investigate as I am lucky enough to have 2 already. Which I know I am, but there is titis little corner in my heart allocated to 1 more.

crashbandicoot Fri 25-Jul-14 19:47:47

Hi there, I wonder if I could join?

Age 34, ttc#1 cycle 12. currrently on a 'mental health' break from ttcing however.

Cosmonaut1 Fri 25-Jul-14 21:07:22

Grr lost post. Euro that is amazing news that centime is beginning to fatten up. She will be a big fat bouncing bony lass making your arms ache before no time. Looking forward to hearing of the name.

Joy I seriously can't believe that has happened, why is it all the crap time-wasting, 'exceptions to the rule' happen on this thread? I am praying for a burst cyst for you. And what rot about the AMH! I remember the hurt that caused! It makes me so mad!! And so sorry for the tears, the hormones make everything so much harder, and you've been through the mill for so long you really really deserve a break. It WILL happen for you, I'm so convinced that you're close to cracking it, this is just an annoying setback.

Fox my goodness you've coped with this mammoth downregging incredibly well, it's gone on forever! I feel so excited to hear about the lovely lady's scan next week. She is a lovely marvel and how apt! Come on follies, get nice and fat.

Ray interesting about your cyst, that went on a long time. I hope you're having a lovely relaxing time if you're still where you were, photos were beautiful.

Nelly what great news about Mr N! What a relief. I hope you weren't too worried and are fully reassured now.

Critter good luck with getting started again whenever suits you best. I guess there are pros and cons, the 2ww whilst away might be a good distraction. Whatever the docs and you decide I will be cheering you on. My mum always called me her 'golden third'. I sincerely hope the next twibling will be yours.

Sweep and Crash welcome both. Sweep we've had thread friends in the past who've had other child/ren when trying to conceive, difficulties seem like they hurt and are difficult whenever they happen. And Crash you are so right, it's a definite mental challenge. Breaks along the way are really beneficial for helping to keep sane and keep going. A lot of us found the first year to 18 months the hardest.

Had an announcement this week from one of my closest friends. Not exactly stabby as she really has been amazing to me and I know how much she wanted it. Just another change to deal with I suppose. I know I'll enjoy hers, but oh to have that joy for myself.

Buzzybee123 Fri 25-Jul-14 22:34:43

euro no running for you, Mr E should be there with a brolly for you, yay to centime gaining weight, every bit counts, she'll soon be a chunky monkey like BB although her thunder thighs have taken months of dedication to drinking more formula than she should hmm I shall step up my FB stalking in great anticipation of the name smile

critter yay to finding lost photos, I often think I need to scan some of my old photos as I would be upset if I lost them, I can understand your mums worry but I don't think there is any evidence of flying being a problem, there are a few women from the West Coast of the USA fly over to Brno for treatment and all fly back PUPO and some have beautiful
babies to show for it. You have to do what feels right for you, I know when I miscarried I just wanted to be pregnant again and the longer it took the more stressed I became but could understand that a rest for my body was also good.

sweep and crash welcome

foxy I suppose I do think about her in a 'thank you for making me a mum' kind of way, not a 'I wonder what she is like as a person, what does she do' not sure why, maybe because I don't really think of her as being apart of BB, yes its her DNA but everything else is Barry and I. One of my NCT girls said 'I know this will sound strange but I think she does look like you, I don't know what it is exactly, you have similar facial expressions' and I suppose that it is true, its my face that she looks at so it will be that she will mimic, it also comes down nurture vs nature. I suppose until recently I hadn't really thought about whether she wonders about what becomes of her eggs.

I think I have moments where the donor thing comes to the foreground, perhaps more when I was pregnant and in the early days, now hardly ever, its not that I'm not grateful or anything and it is important but I suppose I don't want it to be a main focus, honestly you'll be so busy loving your baby that you won't have time to think about it much smile

Yes I do chat to other donor mums, there were 2 on the IVF worriers thread, one had twins, we now chat on a private fb page, funnily enough we talk about everything but them being donor/ have never discussed our donors or where they had their treatment strangely enough. I also belong to fb group related to my clinic which is busy busy with over 100 members now

Buzzybee123 Fri 25-Jul-14 22:43:24

foxy when you finally hold your baby you will think about the amazing/shitty journey you have traveled to get to this stage, you will when things quieten down think about your donor, but it is your baby and you will be the mum and that is all that matters smile funnily enough on the Reprofit fb page someone has just asked if we ever think about the donor

MuddyWellyNelly Sun 27-Jul-14 22:39:41

Just a quick post to mark place on new thread. Been away for the weekend. Very lovely it was too! Can't believe shite continues in the form of cysts and cancelled cycles and way too many drugs.

Hello to new people. May your stay here be short.

Euro, love the name smile hope she gets home very soon.

joycep Mon 28-Jul-14 12:23:17

Cos - sorry about the announcement. It's never wonderful however great a friend has been but I truly truly believe you will be able to tell people good news in the not so distant future.

Welcome to the newbies .

Euro - love centime's name. I hope she is thriving.

So this round is definitely cancelled. That beast of a cyst is still there. They'll scan me in a couple of weeks and if still there they'll wait until the next cycle. If still there they will down regulate me to try and get rid of it and if that is no good, it will require a lap to surgical remove it. And this is nothing to do with the cyst they saw in Jan. this wasn't there a month ago and i am blaming the neothisterone because they said it's an unburst follicle that filled with blood. I started taking the neo just before i would have ovulated. I don't find it comforting that apparently it's rare a cyst stops a cycle. Anyway at least I can stop the drugs.

foxinorangesocks Mon 28-Jul-14 12:33:53

So sorry joy. I'm all too familiar with curveballs (and indeed have had ovary pain for a few days now - agh) and it is the pits. Fingers crossed it just goes with your period, that could easily happen. Have you found any stories online of similar happenings? Get the drugs out your system, have a glass of wine and go and scream on a fairground ride! Your cons sounds v thorough so I still feel v v positive for you. Have to go to meeting will be back..

CritterPants Mon 28-Jul-14 13:03:32

Argh joy so sorry. What a huge pain. Fox is so right, it's the stop starts that are just the pits in all this crap. But it does sound like they have a plan of action going forward which is good. But the hormones and stress are no fun at all. So sorry honey.

Euro what a beautiful classic name for your baby girl.

Welcome crash! Hope you're here for a short stay, in the nicest possible way!

Fox I hope that ovulation pain goes away. Your body is such a little rebel! We need to get your ovaries a little bandana and miniature motorcycle so they can roar off into the sunset, they clearly don't like being told what to do! Paw squeeze.

Hope everyone had a nice weekend. Am traveling for work for a few days so will check in now and again. Love to all.thanks

raydown Mon 28-Jul-14 13:45:11

So sorry joy. That's pure shit. Why is it the ten plussers that have these rare things happen? I remember when I was all rating to of for my first ivf round and then went for the pre start scan and the dr said we couldn't go ahead and I needed the lap, I felt so shit. I guess it's similar for you now. We get ourselves reved up and then wham. Fingers crossed your cyst will do one. I think they do mostly go on their own within a few months.

Cosmonaut1 Mon 28-Jul-14 19:31:10

Joy how utterly frustrating and disappointing. I hope the cyst disappears quickly on its own accord, but very glad they have a management plan for it just in case. Onwards and upwards. Big squeeze.

Cosmonaut1 Mon 28-Jul-14 19:32:04

And oh Fox, what does that mean I wonder, what is going on? Will they scan you again?

eurochick Mon 28-Jul-14 19:39:34

I'm so sorry joy. What a pesky cyst! You are really not having an easy run of it.

critter have you decided to go for it in August?

fox I hope you ovaries are behaving themselves.

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