Eggsellent Egg buddies! For those having ivf during April, May and June and any others still around :-)

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starsandmoonandback Mon 28-Apr-14 17:16:46

Couldn't see another thread so thought I'd make our new one smile

Smidge001 Wed 13-Aug-14 02:39:00

Hi there. I had the official blood test this morning and they have confirmed that it's a negative. sad

The doctor is supposed to call me today/tomorrow to talk about next steps/whether they'd do anything differently etc. though given they monitor hormone levels throughout the process and can up doses if they need to, I suspect she'll just say it's just bad luck and she wouldn't do anything differently next time. Just scared coz we only got 1 blastocyst from 10 eggs. What if next time we only get 7 eggs... Or fewer.. So many things can go wrong in the process, I don't think I realised this before we embarked on it. I kind of (naively) just banked on IVF being the fall back plan!

Will report back when I hear more. FYI did the hpt on day 9.5 post 5dt. So 14.5 days po. BFN. Blood test was 11dp5dt and confirmed it.

starsandmoonandback Wed 13-Aug-14 09:29:14

Oh Smidge. I'm so sorry the blood test confirmed it hadn't worked. Sadly ivf doesn't work every time, but you can learn a lot from a failed cycle which can help the next cycle. I hope you get to talk to the doctor today and ask any questions you have.
Take care honey. I know it hurts like hell. Xx

AnnieHoo Thu 14-Aug-14 11:27:22

Sorry to hear your news Smidge sad. Not sure what to say. I hope you are OK.

I am due for catheter test on Monday and I don't know if it's cold feet or nerves about starting IVF but I keep thinking "do I really need IVF? Should we just keep going..?".

I'm also feeling the most fertile I have all year with a huge amount of clear EWCM over the last 4 years.

It is tempting to just DTD one last time but the clinic were strict about barrier contraception ( why blush? poss test could damage an embryo?). I'm due to start the pill on day 21 next week.

I feel it's too late to stop the process, it's paid for, my flights are paid for and I just need to get on with it.
Is it normal to feel unsure before starting IVF?sad

AnnieHoo Thu 14-Aug-14 11:28:25

*4 days

Smidge001 Fri 15-Aug-14 12:18:57

Thanks Annie.

I think I felt a bit similar, in fact I always seem to be very optimistic in the first week or so (pre ovulation!) and then it's as the 2ww draws to an end when I realise this month will be no different from the last and who am I kidding, that I would then think 'Yay for IVF, that will be the answer!'

I was lucky in that we could try naturally the immediate month before, so I didn't have to feel I was missing out on an attempt. Must say though even when starting the stimulation drugs they didn't want us to have sex and my OH & I both thought that was daft too - they're going to suck the eggs out before I ovulate so where's the harm.. (And if one egg secretly escapes in advance does it really matter if we get pregnant that way?) but we ended up following the rules. Well, sort of. We used a condom as we really didn't think that could cause a problem!

We did have to refrain before my hicosy though, and we thought maybe we were missing out on the one month it was going to work.

I guess you just have to decide when to draw that line in the sand. I reckon given you've already booked your flights you should be thinking "hurrah for being extra fertile and lots of ewcm, this means I'm going to make a massive success of the IVF!" As it can't be a bad thing being extra fertile in the run up. Consider it as an extra rest for your body before next month's big event. smile

AnnieHoo Sun 17-Aug-14 11:24:04

Thank you smidge for taking time to respond. It is so true about the cycle of thought. Going from sheer optimism to deep despair, up and down as the months go on with no progress to show for it. Having a plan B has been supportive in getting through every month. You are right my fertile signs may bode well for IVF and I'll look at this month as being a rest for mind as well as from the hormones. I found the Clomid very hard going emotionally.

Do you have a next step or are you waiting to see the clinic? Hope you are doing ok.

Tryingandimpatient Fri 22-Aug-14 13:03:41

Hi guys,

Looking for advice or stories from people experiencing similar.

Am so sad today I have just had my second round of ivf after 2 years TTC. Last try failed this time I had a positive test at 8dp5dt which have stayed nice strong positives.

Have had lots of beta hcg's which have been doubling every 2-3 days so was ecstatic!!

Yesterday I went for 6 week viability scan and they said there is a sac measuring 4.5 weeks pregnant a yolk sac and no fetal pole �� they took another hcg and sent me home to await a call.

My hcg came back as 3182 (it was 2001 3 days before) and I was called for a second scan this morn to look for ectopic.

It is not ectopic but again they saw sac, this scanner said no yolk sac or fetal pole.

Devastated as convinced this pregnancy is not viable. They said they need to scan again in 1 week and to continue all meds but I'm so disappointed and tempted to just stop meds to let miscarriage happen.

Has anyone ever had this and a baby grow??? If not I feel I'm prolonging the agony and just want it over so I can move forward.

Also how long will it take to miscarry once I stop meds (progesterone injections and crinone) or should I opt for d and c??

How long till I can cycle again??? Only have one frozen embie so want to give it the best chance.

AnnieHoo Fri 22-Aug-14 23:24:18

Hi Trying

I'm so sorry you are going through this horrible time. I hope you are ok.

Ive been through it twice so I really feel for you. It was a huge shock the first time as I hadn't heard of 'fetal pole' or 'yolk sac'. Unfortunately it resulted in mc both times.

The sonographer may not be able to give you a conclusive result at this early stage so keep taking the medication just incase it is there but too small to see yet.

Sorry to sound so negative. I really hope you make it through the week and have a heartbeat at the next scan... I think you just 'know' though...thankssad.

If you do mc then you only have to leave it a month before trying again naturally, not sure about IVF sorry. Xxxx

starsandmoonandback Sat 23-Aug-14 12:24:27

Oh Trying. I'm so sorry to read this. It's such a shock after getting your bfp. There are some success stories, but if I'm honest more likely as Annie said it will end up as a missed miscarriage. But I agree to keep taking the meds as you just don't know. The reason they scan again in a week is to be sure, they've seen things turnaround on occasion, so need to check with everyone.
When I had my mmc I had a blighted ovum which was a growing sac but no feotus. I didn't even have a yolk sac at all. hmm It's terribly sad and you must be feeling worried. It's so unfair. Sending you hugs xx

Tryingandimpatient Mon 25-Aug-14 16:06:02

Hiya girls,

Thanks for your support.... Am trying desperately to pick myself up which will be easier after d and c I hopeconfused

Just a quick question does anyone know the protocol for frozen transfer? Is it as long as with fresh?

Thanks

Xxx

starsandmoonandback Mon 25-Aug-14 16:42:07

I'm not entirely sure but think with FET you can do sooner than fresh cycle. Sorry you're going through this. Let yourself grieve your loss. No need to be strong. But I understand the need to keep going x

starsandmoonandback Sun 31-Aug-14 09:16:36

How are you doing Trying? Xx

Fabuluce Thu 11-Dec-14 21:24:06

Are any of the old egg buddies still around or have you all gone to the book of face now??

estelle6993 Fri 12-Dec-14 19:28:01

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