Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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Justonemoretime Thu 24-Apr-14 19:16:01

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative <<refuses to admit that's what I'll do>>
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

MrsGingerbread Sat 07-Jun-14 06:49:02

Treacle I'm so sorry that you had a tough day yesterday. I hope that you have a nice weekend, and that the party goes well.

Yes, my body seems to be doing crazy stuff. I am really glad that I am temping, as at least that might be giving me a hint of what is going on! Bleeding lasted less than a day,with no temperature dip, so maybe not af after all that.. grrrr! ;)

Boozle80 Sat 07-Jun-14 00:08:09

Whoop whoop! Great news - send some baby magic in this direction - I got the soul destroying one line staring back at me this morning - even when I squinted and held it up to the light the other didn't make an appearance - I tried to drink a beer this evening to consolidate but it just made me feel sick! Xx

bythesea82 Fri 06-Jun-14 23:23:27

Wahoo littlemiss and sighing great news smile

silverine Fri 06-Jun-14 22:44:29

Sighing muchos congratulations!!! What a lovely organised gallery of sticks!! wink

Chicas, we are going to need a new thread very very soon!

Not much to report here, cd7 today & dtd last night. Don't think dh realised it's too early in the cycle but good to keep the little boys fresh! wink

Treaclepie19 Fri 06-Jun-14 21:22:23

Thanks Mrsgingerbread smile

I think our bodies will take a while to settle down sad

I spent a lot of time crying at work today :/ I also have a cold. Ugh. We're hosting a party for DH's nan tomorrow too.

MrsGingerbread Fri 06-Jun-14 19:18:06

Hmmm, sure I ovulated 2 days ago but bleeding a bit more. sad Think it will take a while for everything to settle down.

Treacle glad your chat went okay today.

Treaclepie19 Fri 06-Jun-14 17:45:11

Congrats sighing smile

I spoke to the head and deputy and they are happy for me to get my work done in the day and just take it easy.
Phew.

Tmi but today I had a massive blob of cm, sort of a light brown. Guessing it's just the tail end of the mc but ew!

TallGiraffe Fri 06-Jun-14 17:24:23

Sighing that's a wonderful sight! Congratulations!!

Sighing Fri 06-Jun-14 07:53:04

Very gentle squishes to so many going through the crappy. X
Marshmallow - i shall hold out some hope (and i am totally not above perching on a loo at Tesco on a made up reason to nip out of parents house).

Seeing a highchair must have completely thrown you smiling.

Treacle - i am egging you on for that meeting with the head today. Save the guilt, you have many years of teaching and/ or parenting for that :-)

And. I am guilty of breaking the Friday rule. So terrified. Especially as I am sure water retention has stopped:

smilingthroughgrittedteeth Fri 06-Jun-14 06:47:35

Am just getting ready to go to work.

I did 3 hours yesterday and sobbed all the way home sad

the temporary nanny they had covering for me is still doing 1 day a week so that I can do a gradual return, she has a 1 year old that she takes with her and the house is littered with baby stuff, a highchair in the kitchen, a travel cot in the spare room, baby toys, its so hard to see them because my baby should have been the next baby in the house.

my charges are both at school so walking in to see the highchair was a huge shock on monday and its pushed me back to the dark place I was in after the erpc. I can manage to fake cheerfulness until I leave then I cant stop crying, thank god I have my counselling session tonight.

marshmallowpies Fri 06-Jun-14 00:45:33

I have been lurking for a while, after having my first period post-MC about 4 weeks ago.

So am just coming to the end of my 2ww - the first time I've ever had to count the days! - and been feeling weepy and grumpy all day (classic premenstrual symptoms but could also be early pregnancy?)

Having counted the dates, IF I have a 28 day cycle the period should have started yesterday. But I have never tracked my cycle before so it's all new to me.

Saw a tiny brown spot on panty liner when I went to the loo earlier and thought 'oh well, that'll be it, then', but no sign of anything more. No chance to POAS tomorrow as too busy to get to a chemist, we are away for the weekend & don't want to get caught doing a pregnancy test at BIL/SILs house (though it could be quite funny...)

Good luck to all the other new joiners on this thread & (hugs) to you all.

Treaclepie19 Thu 05-Jun-14 23:27:02

Thanks boozle, like you say it's so hard to just not think about it.
I'll talk to the head tomorrow and let her know how I'm feeling.
Thanks for the support, it feels better to know I'm not being unreasonable. Like you say, guilt is a part of teaching :/

Thanks again xxx

Viperama Thu 05-Jun-14 22:38:01

Ginger I ov'd 14 days after mc according to opk, but I mc very early. Depending on how far along you were, I think your body needs longer to recover x

Cakebaker35 Thu 05-Jun-14 21:43:49

Fantastic viper and littlemiss flowers

Boozle80 Thu 05-Jun-14 21:38:25

Absolutely! That's really hard - the parents and children will be fine - I'm sure they'd rather you went off again until you're sorted and your deputy will have to live with it (easier said than done I know!). If you're worried go and see your doctor - even if they don't like it they have to accept a sick note with good grace. It's impossible because you're preprogrammed never to go off sick! We should get Gove to cover your class and then perhaps he'd realise what we have to deal with on a daily basis whilst trying to pretend our heads aren't all over the place! I really feel for you, all I can say is this is the time you need to think of you and no one else or it'll eat you up. Massive hugs to you xx

Treaclepie19 Thu 05-Jun-14 21:28:19

Thank you boozle, i feel like it's worse cus I've been back. The parents and hidden have been lovely and I don't want to leave them in the lurch. My deputy isn't very supportive though and the head follows her lead.
Can I just sleep til July???

Boozle80 Thu 05-Jun-14 21:17:53

Thanks Monten - it's been a bit of a roller coaster! I just really hope things are evening out soon and the tables are going to turn for us all super soon!

I'm a teacher Treaclepie and with all the complications ended up having 9 weeks off work - I missed SATs, reports, transition, the lot! If it helps at all, I went back this week and it was like I hadn't been away (apart from a stupid amount of paperwork...) can you rearrange the home visits for the new starters or could someone go in your place? Not ideal I know but one thing I've learnt is that you are more than important than the job and the kids will be over the moon to see you when you're fully better and on top form smile. I think guilt should be part of the job description!

broodylicious Thu 05-Jun-14 21:06:34

Yay! littlemiss big congratulations to you! Fx all goes fabulously - you'll be holding your little littlemiss or littlemister in nine months time smile

ginger I don't know for sure but I think you can ovulate in that first month after mc. However, I think the line on a pg and/or ovulation test would appear, complicating things, because of the hormones still in your system? Like I say though, I could well be wrong so don't take my word as gospel because I'm certainly no expert wink

Carly6971 Thu 05-Jun-14 21:05:08

Huge congrats littlemiss I was also naughty but got a bfn sad x

Viperama Thu 05-Jun-14 21:01:44

Awesome news liitlemiss great big optimistic hug for you.

missgingerbread sorry for not reading back, how long has it been? That time waiting for the bfn is heart wrenching. Hang in there it'll come soon xx

Monten Thu 05-Jun-14 20:57:23

Congrats LittleMissSunshine33!

Boozle80 - am so sorry, what a time you've had. After a MC and an erpc, the absolute last thing you need is complications like that. I didnt have anything similar I'm sorry, my first AF was heavy and long. It could well be though, every body is different.

MrsGingerbread Thu 05-Jun-14 20:44:03

Sighing No negative test at all. This line is definitely still related to the mc.

Treaclepie19 Thu 05-Jun-14 20:37:55

Huge congrats littlemiss smile

LittleMissSunshine33 Thu 05-Jun-14 20:35:35

Congrats Viperama!

I have been naughty and POAS tonight as I am having similar feelings to what I had with previous pregnancy. It's still very faint but there is a line!! Its a BFP yay yay yay!! My OH is away til Sunday which is going to kill me each time I speak to him but Im going to look for a creative way to tell him!

Viperama you are so right in saying 'cautiously optimistic' that's how I feel. Scared to get too excited.

Baby dust for others I will be staying around!! smile

Treaclepie19 Thu 05-Jun-14 20:17:50

Congrats viperama smile

Thanks everyone for the advice about work. I don't really know what im going to do. It's like i said to DH, if I have a other week off it won't help as when I go back ill just be further behind and have missed induction visits from the new children.
If I ask for help all the other staff get bitchy.

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