Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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Justonemoretime Thu 24-Apr-14 19:16:01

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative <<refuses to admit that's what I'll do>>
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

FlorenceandZebedee Sun 18-May-14 20:38:58

Congratulations cake, such lovely news, what a great way to end a holiday smile

Fergie11 Sun 18-May-14 21:49:02

Congratulations cake fantastic news xx

Littlelady33 Sun 18-May-14 22:51:17

Wonderful news cake!

Tranquilitybaby Sun 18-May-14 22:53:00

Congrats Ellis and cake - lovely news x

HollyBen Mon 19-May-14 07:54:09

Congratulations ellis and cake smile

english hope the move went well. how are you?

EnglishGirlsReturned Mon 19-May-14 08:01:08

Hi guys!
Thanks Holly smile The move went pretty smoothly. A weekend of unpacking and we're all settled! Just did my second cb digi which has moved up a gear so feel a little more positive. Still early days though. Seeing my gp tomorrow so hopefully he'll refer me for an early scan. Still don't particularly feel upduffed!

Lots of BFPs here this week. I really hope to see some more over the next few weeks, especially the long termers.

Cakebaker35 Mon 19-May-14 08:02:08

Thank you all so much for your kind messages, it really means a lot. I've had such great support and laughs on this thread that I just want to see you all get your bfps so much. Sorry if I've missed news from anyone, but I'm going to be lurking here for a while as well aware things could all go pear shaped.

office and metal if I could rub it onto you I would however wrong that sounds! smile

I'm feeling completely scared to be honest and just keep thinking well I could be having an mmc right now, had no idea before until weeks later so could be the same again. I just don't know how not think like this at the moment. I don't want to be gloomy and I need a big fish slap I think.

sebs how are you? Been thinking of you.

Metalhead Mon 19-May-14 08:35:43

Haha, that does sound quite wrong cake! grin

If you're one for statistics, according to the Miscarriage Association the risk of having another miscarriage after 1 previous mc remains the same as for everybody else. (Even after 2 mc it is only slightly higher.) So have a little sardine slap from me!

I think I'd be the same though, I am generally quite pessimistic and think I will find it very hard to stay positive if and when I conceive again. Just try taking it one day at a time, and if you're really struggling maybe ask your GP to refer you for some counselling, or try some yoga or meditation? That's what I'm planning to do anyway.

In the Metal house AF is due Wednesday, but I still have no signs of her imminent arrival. No pregnancy symptoms either though. In fact I'm completely symptom free, which is most odd confused.

bythesea82 Mon 19-May-14 08:50:55

Morning all,
english glad move went well and things seem ok, good luck with the dr tomorrow.
cake a little minnow slap, but we all know how you feel!

So AF arrived Saturday so trying to enjoy the sunshine and remember it's the 1st proper month since mc so ok to have a bit more time. Off to Spain at the end of the week so maybe the holiday magic will work wink

Ellisisland Mon 19-May-14 09:05:57

Cake - I know how you feel. I keep waiting for something to go wrong again so am not getting to excited about it yet. I have a midwife app on 4th June and the midwife I spoke to on the phone said they will book me in for an early scan so fingers crossed I guess

Hope everyone else had a good weekend and enjoyed the sun!
English - glad to hear things are ok and fingers crossed you get a scan soon to put your mind at rest

Littlelady33 Mon 19-May-14 09:21:17

So happy for you ladies English thrilled to see that you are reassured.
Fish slap please could not resist a sneaky poas yesterday and obviously got a bfn. Wasn't fmu and technically not due AF until tomorrow but still pretty disappointing. hmm Hope your good luck rubs off on us all!

Cakebaker35 Mon 19-May-14 09:37:51

Thank you ladies for the fish slaps smile

ellis how far along are you? I'm not planning to go to gp or midwife just yet but if there's a chance of an early referral for a scan perhaps I should? I'm only about 5 weeks and cracking myself as my mmc probably happened around 5/6 wks but I only found out at 10.

bythesea hoping the holiday magic works for you x

metal you're not out til the witch arrives, keeping it all crossed for you. I'd like to try some sort of meditation/relaxation as I am definitely more anxious than I used to be but not sure where to start, I'll do some googling. X

Ellisisland Mon 19-May-14 09:59:40

Cake I'm the same as you 5 weeks. I wasn't going to contact the midwifes but I decided to because I thought if something goes wrong again then at least I have been in the system so if I need to get help at any stage they have a record of my miscarriages iykwim ? When I rang the midwife I spoke to said I could have an early scan as I had a previous mc and they will discuss it with me at my 7 week app.

I mc at 10 weeks last time as well so will be a nervous wreck till I make it past that stage I think. Then I am sure I will find something else to worry about! Thing is with my pregnancy with DS I worried about everything little thing and I had a good pregnancy and healthy boy. With my mc pregnancy I decided to sit back and go with the flow. So this time I am going back to worrying about everything!

My DH has told me to calm down though or he will be having me sectioned ! grin

GailLondon Mon 19-May-14 10:08:15

Hey Guys,
Little small sardine slaps for you but still crossing fingers that AF stays away.
Metal good luck for you too!

Cake something I've been trying this month is listening to hypnosis tapes when I go to bed, there are loads on youtube and you can just start one going on your phone and leave it running. Ive been listening to a fertility one, and a relaxation for sleep one, and I've been having the most relaxing lovely deep sleep ever! (when DS doesnt wake up at 2 asking for milk that is!)

Well, 8dpo here and no symptoms but feeling quite relaxed and happy. Will be poas'ing on Friday if no AF

Littlelady33 Mon 19-May-14 11:51:43

Thanks Gail I'm actually hoping AF does show so that I can move on and start a new cycle? Tbh my cycles are so long just now I wonder if I'm ov ing way later than I think? Have given in and ordered a ton on ic OPKs from Amazon!

Littlelady33 Tue 20-May-14 07:09:20

So I'm feeling like I've really had it with these crazy long cycles now and have heard good things about acupuncture for regulating and balancing hormones. Bearing in mind I'm in London and will pay through the nose for it. I don't suppose any of you have tried that? Also - agnus castus: good idea or dangerous self medicating?? Metal hope witch stays away today smile

Metalhead Tue 20-May-14 08:11:40

Thanks little but I'm out - just poas'd (I know, fish slaps please!) and got BFN. Bah. I knew it really, as my boobs are so un-sore but still... Just awaiting the arrival of the witch now. So fed up I could scream!

I've got no experience with acupuncture or Agnus castus I'm afraid, but hopefully some of the other ladies on here can help.

cavamonster Tue 20-May-14 08:33:02

littlelady I have recently just started accupuncture (10 days ago) so no idea if it works or not but I'd read a lot of reviews that said it was my helpful.

I am taking the attitude that for 1-2 hours a week I am going to enjoy the relaxation it brings because I am permanently stressed out over opk's, dates and symptoms and if it improves my fertility as well then brilliant. My guy is specifically focusing on improving the quality around ov and recurrent miscarriage. I am usually quite sceptical but am really trying to buy in to it all as believe positive thinking can only be beneficial.

My accp also prescribed herbal tablets which cost a fortune but again in for a penny for masses pound! Being in London as well, I know it can be expensive, if you do decide to go for it, shop around, have a couple of free consultations with people and see what you think.

Ellisisland Tue 20-May-14 08:52:53

Little I had acupuncture and went to it with the same attitude as Cava. It was a way to relax from all the pressure and if it helped then great.

tannyLoo Tue 20-May-14 09:32:20

I've been having acupuncture fortnightly since Jan. The effects I've noticed have been that my cycles are pretty much clockwork now, with a 14 day luteal phase and my hormones are less likely to throw a curve ball. She's also been working on my anxiety and fear, and I am significantly calmer when I've seen her. She is working on my kidney energy and we are planning when to get back to ttc together (poor dh doesn't get much say) and she'll do more work on egg quality and implantation.

I've invested quite heavily in it, but do believe I can feel the benefit. With my history, everything counts!

I've also started taking my supplements again. I take maca root, omega complex, royal jelly, folic acid, b complex and aspirin. My pee is the same colour as an energy drink!

HollyBen Tue 20-May-14 09:46:50

I am also trying acupuncture. I have been for 5 sessions so far. Working on earlier ov and keeping temp high after ov. This month ov has gone from cd20/21 to cd 17. They recommended dh and I are take zita west vitamins and fish oil (leading to fluorescent yellow wee for me too tanny). I have also been given advice on nutrition with the suggestion of seeing someone specialist - I have declined as I think my diet is genetally ok. I was sceptical (and still am to a degree) but nothing ventured nothing gained.

HollyBen Tue 20-May-14 09:48:02

Oh and english let us know how you get on with your gp.

EnglishGirlsReturned Tue 20-May-14 10:04:01

Just back from Dr Tanny. She was very nice. She's called local epu for an early scan - just waiting to hear back. She couldn't really say all was fine, but equally she said that the brown discharge is quite common. And she made a note of the mc that I had in Holland so that its on the system. So all in all, I'm glad I have the scan to hopefully put my mind at ease. Thanks for asking smile

EnglishGirlsReturned Tue 20-May-14 10:04:35

Oops....Holly - not Tanny, wink

Ellisisland Tue 20-May-14 10:27:43

English - glad to hear you are getting an early scan. Hope everything is ok. How many weeks will you be at your scan ?

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