TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

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mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 17:45:02

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 17:49:23

I will begin with my stats:

Mama31 TTC 2 cycle 10

I have been referred for further tests/scans but there is a 5month waiting list which would bring me up to August for my initial consultation. DH is waiting on a sperm analysis which should be done in the next couple of weeks. I am hoping and praying that I have my bfp well before my appointment comes up in 5 months time!

I am also a spotter which drives me mad. I am trying vitex to see if this helps.

Please join me and share your story. I hope we can help eachother.

onelifeonechance Tue 04-Mar-14 18:22:50

Hi mama, well done for starting this thread, I'd like to join please, in need of all the support and understanding I can get!!

My stats are:

Onelifeonechance, ttc #1, cycle #10

My tale of woe (!):

No joy from the conventional method so far, saw GP cycle 9 as just felt something wasn't quite right (and I was --still am--a blubbing wreck each af) I had day 21 bloods - all ok, dh had SA, came back with teratozoospermia (aka 'monster sperm' - funnily I haven't told him the literal translation!! But for those wondering it is to do with issues about morphology/shape of the sperm and concerns that abnormal shaped sperm are not able to penetrate the egg, although I am hanging on to the fact that it only takes one little normal shaped spermy to hit the jackpot, so you never know!!) His count and motility all ok. So we've been referred to the fertility clinic where I'm presuming we will have further tests. The appointment letter is taking FOREVER, been told we'll get it by the end of March but I'm sure my post lady thinks I'm odd as I race to the letterbox everyday when I'm home!!!

So currently I'm back to thumb twiddling to pass the time, seem to have done a lot of this these last 10 months!! So hoping we can all support each other through it smile

zippygeorgebungle Tue 04-Mar-14 18:39:30

hello. can I join. 12 months ttc #2. No 1 came along first cycle. Going privately mad trying to have #2, everything looks normal apparently re hormone levels now (bfing was causing difficulties with hormone levels before but apparently all levels look normal now)

good luck everyone.

onelifeonechance Tue 04-Mar-14 18:44:56

Love your name zippygb!!! The more the merrier smile

Must be hard if it was easy first time round, as makes even less sense this time round I should think? I've never been pregnant so had no idea what to expect <apart from that I would get up duffed the first time we had sex without protection as told to us all throughout our teenage and adult years, yeah right!!>

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 18:53:41

Welcome my beautiful onelife smile

And welcome zippy! smile agreed....fabulous name! I know what you mean, I fell pregnant (by accident) first time around 12 years ago. And now struggling for no 2. GP put "secondary infertility" on my notes, sounds harsh! But true!

This will be such an amazing thread when we are all starting to share our success stories! And we will! We will all get there, just have to be patient ladies but it will happen.

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 18:54:23

Zippy forgot to ask are you being referred for further tests?

m33r Tue 04-Mar-14 19:02:02

Well hello old friends!

I'm ttc #1; cycle 15. We've had 21 day tests and all fine. DH as also fine though on reflection morphology was a but low in first one and 'not measured' in second. Hmmmmm... Hoping that's ok. Our gp was too stupid for words so no point even engaging with her about it.

Anyway, we got referred in August and so have our appt on 2nd April. Two more chances to get pg by then.

In the meantime, I am religious with opks and trying to stay sooooo positive but I have some very low days and some days if just numbness...

Anyway, I am here to support and be supported!

FX for us all x

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 19:38:46

Welcome M33R! Great to see you here. I hope to see your progress over the coming months including your bfp! I hope your 2nd April appointment won't be required lovely. And if it is, we can support you and hopefully hear what may be in store for us.

Is anyone trying/tried anything different this cycle?? I am going to try and stick to every other day (think we might be at it too much!), also started vitex at the start of last cycle but apparently it can take up to 3 cycles for full effect. It did however make me ovulate a day earlier last cycle and I had a 26 day cycle instead of 23-25 so think it's starting to work. Also the spotting did come on at 5dpo-8dpo (which is unusual but may be vitex settling hormones) and then spotting went away from 9-12 dpo only coming back 13dpo the day before af started. So hoping spotting is further reduced this cycle.

I'm also taking maca up til ovulation, a handful of mixed nuts every day (both me and DH), pregnacare vits and I need to pick up some oil of evening primrose tabs as I've run out but will get those and grapefruit juice for ewcm.

I also take a berocca every day, but always did that before ttc. Just good for energy levels and vit c.

Not decided whether to do reflexology or not this cycle.

Anyone any tips or advice they have been given??

m33r Tue 04-Mar-14 19:49:20

Wow mama. Some great ideas in there. I think if I don't get my BFP on Sunday, I'll give some of that a go...

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 19:53:45

M33R it's probably overkill but I like to try things as makes me feel like I'm being proactive lol reflexology was good but I feel I've already spent a lot of money on ttc with vitamins, opks and preg tests....just would prefer to put the money in a jar now to save for my baby's eventual arrival ;)

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 20:13:46

Ps will be praying like mad for you for this wkend!

m33r Tue 04-Mar-14 20:57:28

I know it does get costly! I've been on preseed for 3 months too. Run out but am hoping there's no requirement to stock up...

I haven't symptom spotted in a lonnnnnng time but I feel different... I am so hopeful. 15th time's a charm! Will try to wait to Saturday to test but may fold on Friday depending on how I feel (usually know two days in advance that AF is coming) and will test if I think it IS coming - weird system but it works for me.

I should say, I feel like AF is due two days from now - body giving all the signs - but I'm 3 days early so hoping it's my little baby grabbing on!

I can't believe I'm setting myself up for this .... Cross everything!

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 22:06:21

M33R I'm definately crossing everything for you! In what way do you feel different? Hoping that's a good sign for you.

I always set myself up for it, I believe every month that it is the month....even 10 cycles in I'm still doing it. but I'd rather believe and stay positive because one cycle ill be right to have believed and it will happen.

I really hope cycle 15 is the one for you hon!

Martie1 Tue 04-Mar-14 22:12:24

Wow some great tips on here ladies. Just did some reading on grapefruit juice, very enlightening!

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 22:15:11

Hi Marie. Hoping to gain some more tips over the next while, we will try anything! Haha! Have you been ttc for long?

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 22:15:50

Martie not Marie lol

Martie1 Tue 04-Mar-14 22:40:04

mama31 what is maca? Im loving your information and Im definitely making a trip to Holland and Barrett tomorrow!

mama31 Tue 04-Mar-14 22:42:30

Maca is another herb that boosts fertility in males and females. Can help regulate hormones. I get most things off amazon, usually less expensive.

Jessewalt Tue 04-Mar-14 23:10:06

Hello lovely ladies.
I have met some of you in other very helpful threads but I would love to join.
Ttc#1 cycle 10.
Day 21 prog 43, awaiting first semen analysis results. Done on Monday.
I am also a pre-AF spotter. Also drives me mad.
Thank you for starting an excellent thread.

mama31 Wed 05-Mar-14 08:05:20

Welcome Jesse yes I remember seeing you on the bus threads. Wow we are in the same position at the moment only DH has not yet completed his SA but is about to. How many days do you spot for Jesse?

My day 21 prog was 33, GP said that's normal so I am hoping it is. She doesn't think spotting is related to fertility at all which is reassuring but I do worry about it still as it disrupts my LP.
Good luck for SA results, when do you think your DH will get them?

I just felt this thread would be useful for those who are beginning tests etc as we can share our experiences and alleviate our fears. I love the buses they are so fun, but it's hard seeing lovely lucky ladies pass through so quickly and it makes me wonder will it ever be me! I know it will of course and I'm so happy for them, but I just feel I need support right now from people in the very same situation.

onelifeonechance Wed 05-Mar-14 08:46:18

M33r! Jesse! Hello grin we meet again wink and hello to Martie smile We can all hold hands and get through this together! Well done mama <pats mama on the head for being all round fabulous>

M33r, eeeeee, sounding promising, so hoping for you, it is impossible not to get hopes up nearing testing time, especially when you read so often that lots of people with BFPs swear blind they thought their af was coming and then bingo. Good luck my friend, keeping everything crossed for you.

Jesse, how was hubby with it all? Glad it's over I should think! Hope you don't have to wait too long. My prog was 81 on my day 21 bloods, not sure if that's too high?? Would rather be average with things like that, feels safer there with the majority, lol. Where are you up to in your cycle?

I'm cd12 today, got my smiley face this morn so dh better watch out later wink no new tricks here this time! going for eod and lots of hoping!!! Have a good day all smile

Jessewalt Wed 05-Mar-14 09:30:06

I am also day 12! But I am not using opks this month, so we are just trying dtd every day or 2 days. Whatever we can manage!
Hubby was completely brilliant about SA. He had to take a morning off work. He was not embarrassed and took it in his stride.
I am nervous, but knowledge is power and we can progress once we know if there are any problems.
Will keep you posted x

GingerbreadBabyPlease Wed 05-Mar-14 10:38:10

Thank you for starting this thread Mama, brilliant idea!
Can I please somewhat negatively reserve a spot? I am on cycle 9 trying for baby number 2, DD was conceived on the second cycle over 3 years ago now. Went to see the Dr last month who was annoyingly calm and reassuring about it all, said she wasn't worried at all for me, but has at least booked me in for day 21 tests.
My plan this month is to give up! I did everything right last month with diet and timing and still no luck, so feel I just need to give myself a break over it all, so for the next two months I am trying my hardest to just relax and not care. <Hoping reverse psychology will work for me>
Anyway hello to everyone else and I will pop back when I have reached the 10 month milestone confused

mama31 Wed 05-Mar-14 12:54:31

Onelife!! Haha! I am not that fabulous, but ok ill take that! Lol smile

Ginger there's no rules here you can chat to us whether you have reached 10 months or not, if you want to. My GP referred us on but I think more because of the huge waiting list however she was calm and not concerned too much.

My GP also said "no one really understands fertility" she then told me 2 stories. One about a lady who tried for a year and a half with no joy, then she did IVF a few times still no joy. She give up hope and felt she would never have children....6 months later she was in the GP surgery announcing her natural pregnancy!

Another lady went through similar stuff, a lot of IVF, nothing worked. She decided to adopt and the morning her adopted child was to arrive she found out she was pregnant!

Nature is a funny old thing, there are reasons beyond our control as to why it's not happening right now!!! But it will happen.....soon I hope!

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