TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

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bonzo77 Wed 06-Nov-13 14:59:00

I am absolutely not going to go nuts about it this time like I did for no 2. Because my kids have each other and won't be alone looking after their ancient parents in years to come. But a 3rd would be a bonus. And part of me doesn't care either way, and another part cannot wait for a lovely little snuggly new born. And part of me is enjoying getting my nights back, and my body, and is worried about the money, the lack of bedrooms, the need for a bigger car, having another miscarriage, or high risk pregnancy, a 3rd CS, a baby in intensive care. But then 5 months of no contraception and nothings happening..... The baby is 11 months, and we said we'd start putting more effort in once he is 1....

Anyone in the same boat? Want to hang out and worry / pretend not to worry?

Passthebiscuitspls Wed 23-Apr-14 09:31:52

Bonzo; how's things with you?

I'm now 10dpo and checking my boobs constantly to see if they're sore! ;) what a loser! They are sore but not as much as they should be if I was pg so thinking it's not looking so good for me so far. Maybe they will get worse over the next few days, fingers crossed!

How's everyone else doing? Anyone clock watching in the 2ww like me?

Xx

BeginnerSAHM Wed 23-Apr-14 10:11:15

Yes, I was wondering how bonzo is??? How are you? Hope DH has softened.

I am (currently) pregnant with a faint positive superdrug test since Monday. Only 9dpo shock. Still have a line today though - bit darker. I felt v sick on Sunday and on Monday morning but that may have been a coincidence.

I have slightly achey boobs but not much. Pretty similar to how they feel just before af starts... Anyway, fingers crossed this isn't a chemical. Due on Friday so that will be the first hurdle to pass! Am delighted though and quietly optimistic...wink. Can't believe husband only decided he did actually want another child just over 2 weeks ago AND we caught my ovulation. Ridiculously lucky - feel like a bit of a fraud. Have my fingers crossed for you all and will keep checking in. Might be TTC again soon but I hope not.

busyDays Wed 23-Apr-14 10:19:16

Lol, Beginner you are lucky you didn't live back in the days before contraception was invented. You would have had babies coming out of your ears!! That's pretty fast work, you must be super chuffed. Congratulations smile

bonzo77 Wed 23-Apr-14 13:53:29

OMG beginner. Quick work! IME a BFP this early is a good sign, strong hormones etc! With my MMC the BFP only showed up once I was already late, and it was super faint. With DS2 I had a strong BFP 10dpo. Not sure what would have happened if I'd tested early with DS1 as I didn't test till I was about 7 weeks, as I'd just come off the pill and thought my late period was my body adjusting, and the MS was a bug I'd caught on honeymoon hmm.

DH and I had a chat. it's not in his nature to "not allow" me to do something. he just feels that it will add a lot of strain (financially and otherwise), and mean that we cannot do some things we hoped to (holidays etc), will delay my return to work (hence the financial strain). And that he feels that it will stretch us too thinly as parents, that with 3 kids and 2 of us, one child will lose out. We are both from families with 3 children, his family really is a bit of a fuck up, his parents to put it succinctly are a bit crap, and all 3 of them suffered. My family less so, but there is a 12.5 year gap between my middle and youngest brothers (I am the oldest by another 2.5 years), so not your typical 3-child family with middle child issues etc. I pointed out that we do things differently, we will make mistakes but different ones, and having only 2 is not a guarantee of a happy family / childhood. He gets this.

DS1 got into our 1st choice of primary school, 5 minute walk away, and DH would now like to move out of the area so we can afford something bigger, with a bigger garden on a quieter street. When I pointed out how much of a hassle this will be, and how if we then need a nanny or childminder or au pair for me to go to work it might well mean them needing to drive, he started to talk about a school run rota. to which I replied that then we would definitely need a 7 seater car. so if we were going to get one anyway, why not have a 3rd baby..... ha ha. got him there (the new car was one of the reasons not to have a baby). And he wants a bigger house anyway, so may as well have a 3rd one. And we ae on holiday right now and the boys are sharing a room, they are loving it, so that's still an option.

So we are still kind of trying, and I will still go with the NHS investigtions as to why I am not getting pregnant. Because if they say it's not likely to happen, at least we can write if off and get on with other stuff (I really really want a horse of my own, have done since I was 5...). In the mean time I'm going to be even more low key about the TTC. I have a stock of OPKs (which I don't really bother with anyway), and have binned the out of date stash of pg tests. I'm not temp charting this month as I didn't bring the thermometer on holiday (don't get excited, its a month in Blackpool in my in laws' flithy holiday flat, luckily they are not here with us so if we fancy a shag we can).

BeginnerSAHM Wed 23-Apr-14 15:54:08

Oh good Bonzo. Sounds like you have a nice thoughtful husband...wink. Mine is pretty anxious about finances, working for another 5 years (! think that's not necessarily right shock) and seems quite shell shocked. Bless him. He's been adamant for nearly 4 years that we are sticking at 2 and that upset me hugely. So it's a bit much for him to come round to the idea, finally, and then find he's got me knocked up in 2 weeks flat shock. Obviously I'm not complaining and am extremely (nervously) pleased. And I really feel for you Bonzo. Really hope it all works out and you DON'T manage to get a horse wink. But, yes, I understand what you mean about wanting to have things settled so you can get on with life, rather than being in limbo.

We did have a (genuine) accident a couple of years ago and it caused huge heartache. It ended in a v early miscarriage - chemical pregnancy almost - which I feel terribly guilty for because of all the stress I felt. I always wonder if the stress caused it. My husband remained of the view that we should not have a third throughout the whole thing, which really upset me.

Anyway, I didn't mean to bang on about myself. I just hope everything goes well for you Bonzo.

Sending positive vibes your way! (Refuse to send babydust, sorry wink.)

Passthebiscuitspls Wed 23-Apr-14 16:04:45

Bonzo; that sounds a much better place to be! I'm so glad you feel better about things and your DH has come round a bit to the idea. He just sounds a bit scared of the unknown. Back to the thought of the third child being a much bigger decision than the first two! ;) I'm glad your still trying anyway and I also hope you don't get to have a horse! ;)

Somebody slap me... I'm constantly symptom spotting! Xx

BeginnerSAHM Wed 23-Apr-14 16:16:56

Consider yourself slapped!! (Am a TOTAL hypocrite.)

(Try superdrug or FRER test on friday if you can't wait until Sunday....) (I know, I know, baaaad Beginner, encouraging impatience...) (But don't lose hope if it's negative.)

bonzo77 Wed 23-Apr-14 19:57:17

passthebiscuits here's one from me too <thwaaak>. Stop it now. You know all those symptoms are from progesterone, which will be there after you ovulate even if you are not pregnant. I get them most months.

Passthebiscuitspls Thu 24-Apr-14 13:34:26

I know, I totally know but I can't stop thinking about how sore my boobs are all day long! ;) still only 11dpo so still time but convinced they're not sore enough to actually be pg.

Xx

BeginnerSAHM Thu 24-Apr-14 15:54:50

My boobs are weirdly sore. Sure that didn't happen last two times. Good sign maybe passthebiscuits?? Then again, i agree, progesterone can do that!

What tests have you got lines up for d day?? grin

Passthebiscuitspls Fri 25-Apr-14 11:02:49

AF arrived this morning, damn it!!

So... I'm trying to look at the positive's! No Xmas baby which is better, and I can drink lots when we go away, Yey!! My cycle was 32 days which is less waiting than 34, let's hope that stays!

Onwards and upwards. I knew I wouldn't fall on the first cycle, I'm just not that lucky!

Good luck everyone else still in the 2ww, I'm crossing my fingers for you.

Xx

BeginnerSAHM Fri 25-Apr-14 12:43:20

Awh, sorry... But, yup, definitely better to avoid a Christmas baby. Think that's the worst time of the year.

xx

Passthebiscuitspls Fri 25-Apr-14 12:48:02

In some ways beginner, but if it's a week before or further away then that, I think it would be lovely, everyone's festive so up for drinks and a party etc. if I'd got a BFP it would've meant delivering on 23rd dec so I wouldn't be home til Xmas day, now that would be shit! That's the silver lining! ;)

Have you tested again today? Still getting darker? Xx

BeginnerSAHM Fri 25-Apr-14 13:25:20

I suppose so. Obviously, I am v pleased and don't mind at a that it'll be a Christmas baby if it sticks. Been testing every day - seems to be getting a little darker. Did a digital today - 1-2 weeks (since conception). So will try another one next Friday if there are no problems before then. Been to see GP and due date given of 31 December. But only got to 38 weeks with DC1 and 36 weeks with DC2. So, probably before Christmas... If it sticks. And all is ok.

I still think a late jan birthday is better - everybody could do with a night out and some excitement by then and presents are slightly less likely to be 'joint'...wink

Anyway, fingers crossed for you and everybody else. Still can't quite believe how lucky we've been first time round - at 39 and all that... Keep thinking there must be a catch... But I'm not going to worry and just enjoy it. No sickness since Monday. Expect it'll kick in in about 10 days if all goes well.

pcbmc00 Fri 25-Apr-14 15:04:40

I'm going to go for it and start ttc for baby number 3 have been doing do much thinking back and forward.... But just going to go for it low hopefully....grin

BeginnerSAHM Sat 26-Apr-14 07:36:23

Hello pcb - how old are your two children?

pcbmc00 Sat 26-Apr-14 20:44:14

Hi dd1 is 4 and dd2 is 2... Things just getting calmer and easiergrin

bonzo77 Thu 08-May-14 20:58:25

Hi all. Anything I should know about? I had my fertility ultrasound last Wednesday which was CD17. And the sonographer could actually see me ovulating!! So today I'm 8 dpo. And here's the odd thing. I feel really bloody sick. But not light headed, which I have done before if pg. and we did have d&v last weekend. So it could just be that... Anyway, I've ordered some pg test strips from amazon....

Passthebiscuitspls Fri 09-May-14 13:18:59

Hey!
Bonzo; how weird that must of been that he actually saw you ovulating!! Amazing really! I reeeeeeally hope it's a BFP for you. Crossing my fingers and toes.

Bugger all to report from me. Coming up to ovulation, CD15 now so starting my regime of DTD, not that DH knows that's what it is, but it is! ;) luckily there's a holiday as well so DTD more will be easier. Yey! I really want it to be this month. Pleeeease!!

Hope everyone else is ok and has more exciting news than me!

Xx

busyDays Fri 09-May-14 16:18:52

Wow bonzo that must have been exciting. Fingers crossed for you. Are you going to test early or wait it out?

bonzo77 Fri 09-May-14 18:03:06

I ordered tests, they arrived today and obviously being a dick head I pissed on one as they came through the letterbox. BFN naturally. Seriously wtf am I doing that for at 9 dpo. But god do I feel sick. Either this is some cruel hangover from last weekends d and v. Or..... IMO seeking help when we are not getting pg ends up in me getting pg. with the mc DH had just sent off a jizz sample, and with DS2 I'd just booked an appointment with a specialist. So surely having an ultrasound and some blood tests can't but help!

passthebiscuits going anywhere nice?

Passthebiscuitspls Sat 10-May-14 20:33:25

Bonzo; sounds like fate to me! I'm crossing everything it is. Eeekkkkk! Give it a couple of days and then test again.
We're going to Cape Verde for a few days, very excited!! ;)
Xx

faibila Sun 11-May-14 01:08:42

hi.m new to this site ..hope all you mums r ok.i got married 4 year ago ....m gng to start from last year when i was near to 6 month preggo and got miscarrige ....that was very pain full moment of my life...and after that i try alot but no luck....but just a week before my doc prescribe me clomid m very happy bcoz i got pcos ovary and cant conceive naturally hopefully this time i ll get my little angel ..so worried for baby ,today was my first day of clomid my doc prescribe me 50 mg....

faibila Sun 11-May-14 01:23:35

plzzzz guys pray 4 me...that this time i ll get pregnant......m dying to have a baby..........may God give all of u baby.....

Passthebiscuitspls Mon 12-May-14 17:44:16

Hi faibila, good luck this month!

Bonzo; have you tested again?

Anyone anything else to report? I'm on CD18 so should ov in the next couple of days, Yey! Stepping up DTD to daily, I hope that does the trick ;)

Xx

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