OH wants to wait till after christmas :-(

(12 Posts)
newlytrying Fri 01-Nov-13 10:56:22

We have just gotten married and have talked about TTC, I have wanted to start ASAP but OH has always said to wait till after our honeymoon (over Christmas) to TTC as he wants a very active holiday and i think is worried i'll be glued to the toilet bowl with morning sickness.

But last month on a whim he said lets try! I was delighted, sadly AF arrived as scheduled so no baby for us on that cycle. he has now gone back to his 'wait till after christmas' thinking. Im gutted!!!

The main problem we have is that I live away from home 4 nights a week due to work. so looking ahead at my estimated ovulation dates there are going to be months that we wont be able to DTD on the correct days and will miss 80% of the fertile window. i have very regular of 27 days.

My best friend rang last night to say she was pregnant, first month trying. I'm genuinely delighted for her but gutted inside at the thought of having to watch her belly grow.

I think I'm just overly hormonal today as I am ovulating today (OPK were pos wed and thurs) so this is really getting me down,Ii told OH that I should by ovulating today and he said right so no sex for you! nice.

Manchesterhistorygirl Fri 01-Nov-13 11:03:10

Christmas is a month and a half away, it's really not long to wait. You can have fun ttc on your honeymoon then!

keepswimming1 Fri 01-Nov-13 11:09:47

Thats really not long to wait hun,

I have the same trouble as you with oh working away, this morning I had a very faint line on cb and if it does turn out that I am pregnant then we either conceived the day after ovulation or 4 days before, so don't go worrying yourself to much smile
The last thing you want is to be ill on your honeymoon x

BeigeBuffet Fri 01-Nov-13 11:11:50

Your life will change dramatically after a baby and your next Christmas will be spent waking up every morning, hangover or no hangover, skint and probably very tired. All worth it if you have a baby, but why not take your dh's advice and enjoy this Christmas, wear lots of sparkly dresses, have a drink or two, enjoy a lie in, relax and have lots of relaxed, for the hell of it sex!!

BeigeBuffet Fri 01-Nov-13 11:12:42

*waking up early

newlytrying Fri 01-Nov-13 11:17:17

I thinks its the fact I'm ovulating today! I will be home tonight! he doesnt want to TTC on the honeymoon, i have tried to explain that the hormones wont actually kick in till we are home and morning sickness also takes a few weeks but he wont hear it.

I was fine about waiting till after Christmas till he changed the goal posts last month and we started trying.

I've started temping and OPK so that i know exactly when i should ovulate that way giving us the optimum chances of conceiving when we do TTC as i will be away 4 nights a week.

cant wait to quit this job and move home. sorry I'm really not in a good mood today blush think ill have a large glass of wine tonight wine

VJONES1985 Fri 01-Nov-13 15:19:57

As others have said, you can still conceive even if you have sex only once, four days before you ovulate. And, of course, have unprotected sex doesn't guarantee pregnancy even if you do it at the optimum time. Chances are you won't be pg over your honeymoon even if you are ttc anyway (sorry to be blunt) so I think the best thing is to just wait until January. Keep your chin up :-)

BeigeBuffet Fri 01-Nov-13 15:57:11

I do know how you feel because I'm broody and waiting too. I'm trying to tell myself to enjoy Christmas and then start ttc. However, when chatting to the nurse at the clinic where I used to get my contraception from, i was told that the best thing anyone can do when TTC is relax. Your dh might be having a bit of a panic and setting things back a few months but if you panic too then you'll be less likely to conceive when he's ready, which I hope is sooner rather than later. Have a glass of wine from me

VJONES1985 Fri 01-Nov-13 16:00:14

Yes, relaxing is definitely key. I've been freaking out and stressing for the last few months myself and got nowhere, so I do think that's a good tip smile

FruitSaladIsNotPudding Fri 01-Nov-13 16:10:45

I think he's right about the honeymoon - of course you could be perfectly fine, but I was horribly sick, tired and grotty from weeks 6 - 18ish. Would have ruined a holiday, even a honeymoon.

Seriously, enjoy Xmas and have a lovely honeymoon.

shelterbelter Fri 01-Nov-13 17:34:43

So who does contraception lie with at the moment? Do you see what I mean? If it's no big deal for you waiting two months, why can't he come forward two months? No guarantees you will conceive straight away so may not matter!

Good luck x

superlambanana Fri 01-Nov-13 18:24:27

I'd wait til after Christmas - I'm 6wks and feeling rubbish! Enjoy the mince pies and mulled wine!!

We tried for ages, and stopped as it was getting stressful and upsetting. After a break we decided to just not worry and let nature take its course - we conceived first month of 'not trying despite only DTD once as we were so knackered that month! I think stressing over it really does make a difference. Don't put so much pressure on yourself smile

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