Roll up, roll up, come enjoy the BESH funfair!

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MyNameIsWinkly Sat 12-Oct-13 09:31:04

Come to the BESH funfair - we have a coconut shy, apple bobbing, dodgems and much much more. The prizes? Shiny new BFPs, of course. You can only go on the rides if you're a barren 30plus-er, the entrance fee is one completed BESHtionairre.

MyNameisBuggerlugsAndIAmABESH Mon 21-Oct-13 17:22:59

Thats what I think will happen. So the drucks will be sat in my fridge whilst I menkul away going slightly insane!!! wink

MyNameIsWinkly Mon 21-Oct-13 18:02:01

bugs that's exciting! It'll fly round. How does it fit in with the moving house schedule?

I'm ok at the moment, thanks for asking. It's not really sinking in or feeling at all real. I'll definitely pay for a scan, probably in just over 2 weeks, so I'll have a better idea of where this is going.

MyNameisBuggerlugsAndIAmABESH Mon 21-Oct-13 18:56:07

Jeff I seem to recall you paying for embryo testing and not needing it. I may of course be totally wrong - if I'm right can I ask why you didn't need it? We've also been advised to have it at a tune of £2800 angry

evilgiraffe Mon 21-Oct-13 20:08:16

Yeah, you've quite possibly got a chance at a boozy Christmas, bugs smile

What does embryo testing entail? What are they looking for? That's a hell of a cost too! shock

MyNameisBuggerlugsAndIAmABESH Mon 21-Oct-13 20:19:13

I'm not 100% sure but the consultant has recommended it due to my history of miscarriages. I'm not sure what the associated risks are. I don't want to regret having it / not having it.

I must stay away from other discussion boards. There are just so many women who've had 6,7,8 rounds of IVF with a whole host of tests and still no baby. I hope I know when to give up and walk away and look into adoption.

I've worked out when (roughly) I'll start stabbing............XMAS DAY!!!! Typical or what!!

At least we're a few steps closer now.

BESHerday Tue 22-Oct-13 23:01:06

All the best wishes for the coming scans driz and sinks

Excellent news bugs

Other discussion boards are odd bugs I have yet to figure out how to put together anecdotal information, how to compare my own body, my own story to others, how to choose among diet, supplements, and lifestyle advice, how to make medical decisions. There is such a disconnect between the riches of opinion issued by Google and the sparse, disconcerting office visit. Perhaps it is good that I, we, have an enforced few-week wait until The Dude's back.

hello to all

eurochick Wed 23-Oct-13 10:36:34

Bugs I thought 3 rounds of natural would be our limit, but here we are, planning on #4. I thought three rounds sounded like a lot/enough, but actually, it has all happened pretty quickly and I'm not ready to give up yet, although I am starting to contemplate a life post ttc. That starts at some point in the future though, not now.

BESHer I tend to look a lot at the signatures on other boards, searching for someone with results like me with a good outcome.

Without wanting to bring the board down, I just want to say this. Today is my due date. I never got to meet my baby but I loved him/her for the few short weeks I was pregnant. I think today will be quite tough, but I hope that it will bring me some kind of closure and freedom from the thoughts I have had since my mc of "today I should have been X weeks pregnant and Y should have been happening".

Hugs to all. I know a lot of us are having tough times at the moment.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake Wed 23-Oct-13 10:47:47

Oh euro. I am so sorry. Due dates are the devil's work. Have the cod of comfort, a sneaky hug and a big drink tonight. Due date did give me closure, for a while. But with things like this, it often takes a number of times where things are worse, before stuff is over. Handhold for today.

euro I'm very sorry and hope that you get through today ok. (Sneaky hug)

MyNameisBuggerlugsAndIAmABESH Wed 23-Oct-13 13:24:54

Ditto what everyone said Euro. I've had a couple of due dates and a first birthday and still have no baybee so im there, with you, at your side letting you know that every thought & feeling is perfectly ok. thanks

MyNameIsWinkly Wed 23-Oct-13 13:59:42

Handholding from me too euro, this is a horrible date for you. I hope it comes with some peace for you. Huge love.

eurochick Wed 23-Oct-13 14:10:41

Thanks all. I seem to be more snappy than melon collie so far. Sozzles colleagues...

MyNameIsWinkly Wed 23-Oct-13 14:14:58

Tisn't snappy, tis efficient and taking no nonsense - colleagues need to step up their game wink

evilgiraffe Wed 23-Oct-13 17:27:51

<silently hands euro the cod> flowers

Nokkie73 Wed 23-Oct-13 19:39:42

Just thought I would pop in to say hello again and saw euro's post. Days like this are so hard and so randomly unfair. You must be kind to yourself and just go with how you feel over the next few days. Those around you will just have to understand and give you whatever support you need, whenever you need it. Don't try to be too brave - grieve properly (however that manifests itself) and take all the time you need to get yourself into a good place to start #4.

Hi to everyone else. I am totally fine, thanks for asking. Still rooting for you lot from the sidelines like a demented trollop.

FizzyFeet Wed 23-Oct-13 20:15:43

(((((shameless hug for you, euro)))))

Nice to see you, nokkie.

I haven't much to report - been down regging for about 5 days now. Though I have been a total numpty and managed to leave the plastic cap on the sniffer bottle for at least 3 of those! I realised this morning and phoned the clinic in a panic. They were very kind though they must have been rolling their eyes at my ineptitude! I feel like a right idiot. Just hoping I manage the stabbing ok and don't stab myself in the face or something and lets not think about the suppository too much

JethroTull Wed 23-Oct-13 21:49:05

<passes gin to Euro>
<and Sturgeon>
<manly slaps back>

Bugs yep, you're right. We had planned to have genetic testing as SSG has a chromosome abnormality but as we only had the one embryo the clinic wouldn't risk it.

Fabuluce Wed 23-Oct-13 22:15:30

Hi euro, cuddles from me too. My EDD was last Monday and I was fine until Wednesday when I hit a wall and became an evil grump teary mofo. It doesn't help that in the last 4 weeks 6, yes 6 people I know have successfully managed to have their babies. I think it was getting the results of my immune tests that did for me. Am feeling much better now though - I'm with the others, let yourself run the gamut of emotions, it's far better to let them have their day and be done with it than to save them up. Cuddles again. X

SinkyMalinks Thu 24-Oct-13 08:55:28

How're you today euro? Are work/colleagues being bearable?

<Gentle slap with sole of sanguine-ness>
<and a tickle with some samphire>

eurochick Thu 24-Oct-13 10:29:40

Thanks for all the hugs and fish, hags. I'm feeling better now the date has passed. Aside from the somewhat hurty head from too much wine last night. Ow.

Sorry you have had the same sadness, fab. I hope you are feeling better now.

fizz how are you feeling on the drugs? Hopefully not too bad as you have mostly been sniffing fresh air? wink

KatAndKit Thu 24-Oct-13 14:29:45

bugs did you have karotyping blood tests on both yourself and GP as part of miscarriage testing? I would have thought testing your chromosomes in advance would make more sense than doing it on the embryo but if they did that test already perhaps it is a case of trying every option to give you the best chance.

KatAndKit Thu 24-Oct-13 14:35:16

euro due dates are tough, be kind to yourself and let yourself feel however you need to. I agree that once the date has passed it is a bit easier to move forward as you are past the time when you should have been pregnant. I felt like that after my first mc, although of course it is shit because you always hope to be pregnant again when the date comes round. Have gin and cake and chocolates

FizzyFeet Thu 24-Oct-13 19:11:47

Hope your headache has eased off euro.

I'm feeling ok - but as you say, I'd expect to. Ask me again in a week! I do have a headache but that's par for the course as I have a prior neck condition and a serious amount of work on at the moment and too long playing candy crush last night.

MyNameisBuggerlugsAndIAmABESH Thu 24-Oct-13 19:53:12

Thanks Jeffers. Yes Kat we've had all sorts of tests and our chromosones done but they still wish to do some sort of embryo screening. I'm not sure what it actually entails but I will be asking for more info at our appt on 7th. If it carries risks we'll have to seriously consider if we want it. We're also going to pay for this other thing (that I don't know the name of) something like embryocam or something where they look at the embroys under a special lens or something so not to expose them, or something actually knows fuck all!

I'm ovulating at the moment, my cycles are bang on 28 days since stopping clomid so i'm on a shagathon hoping for a natural diffment as I really want to avoid IVF if possible (doesnt everyone).

Euro glad you're feeling a bit better.

Kat how are you feeling / doing?

KatAndKit Thu 24-Oct-13 20:32:59

Happy shagging bugs my fingers are crossed for a FCFU for you. Once you get differ again will they give you clexane in case it helps?

i am feeling ok, a bit queasy on and off and rather tired. In de nile until i can get a scan which will be at least two more weeks. Constantly paranoid. Did get the.three plus on clear blue though so out of the chemical pregnancy zone at least.

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