Donor IUI?

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MinnieMooMoo Wed 09-Oct-13 15:12:27

Hello! Just looking for a group/quiche to join but not really sure where I fit it.

I'm intending to go it alone and have Donor Insemination by IUI starting in January providing my investigations all come back clear.

Any one else in the same boat, or has done it alone in the past?

I am very happy to see this thread has taken off in the last few days. Hello everyone!

In terms of costs, I had my unmedicated cycles at stork clinic in Copenhagen. I can't recommendmend them highly enough, a really lovely clinic. It cost about £1000 per cycle including flights etc, unfortunalty my cycles chose that time to go haywire!

I then had medicated IUI at LWC. I can't recall thr exact price but think it was around £2200 including the sperm from London Sperm Bank. I found the service variable to be honest (but much better than the first London fertility clinic I went to).

I have now got sick of waiting for a BFP so have started IVF at the Copenhagen Fertility Centre. I paid about £3500 for a short IVF cycle including medication, sperm and freezing my extra embryos. I also paid for my flights, accommodation and 3 scans in the UK. I didn't love the clinic but they were cheap and didn't require me to visit until the day of the egg retrieval.

MinnieMooMoo Sat 19-Oct-13 18:02:42

I'm very glad it's taken off too... admittedly another reason I name-changed is that I thought I'd get flamed as one of my very first posts 5 years ago was along the same vein and I got completely flamed!

CynthiaRose Sat 19-Oct-13 19:18:10

Why on earth did you get flamed?

Hope this doesn't sound judgmental or patronising, but do think really hard about the type of donor. I don't know what the deal is with donors from the US or EU. Now that my babies are here and I look at their little faces I do feel quite guilty about the fact they're going to one day wonder why they haven't got a dad. I am glad that I am at least able to give them some info about him and tell them they can find him when they're older if they wish. I've got some stuff he's written about being happy to meet them and following their dreams etc and I think it might be quite important to them.

MinnieMooMoo Sat 19-Oct-13 20:17:20

Well 5 years ago I was only 22/23 so I think they thought I was too young and just wanted to play dollies hmm funny how I still haven't met any one and still want a child.

I do feel guilty about not having a dad there definitely, but I suppose I see a lot of feckless dads about too and think well least I'm saving my child from that.

But Xytex do offer a good profile alongwith access to contact information when the child is 18 years old and I think I can pay extra to get a more enhanced profile.

CynthiaRose Sat 19-Oct-13 21:37:01

Ah, I see. Did the response put you off doing it for a while?

mrswishywashy Sat 19-Oct-13 21:44:55

Is it alright if I'm here even though I have a partner we are same sex so definitely need IUI. I'm also on fertility friends but its so hard to keep up with it.

For LWC we paid £145 for initial consult, half price as I signed for it at alternative parents show. Unmediated IUI is going to cost £750 plus sperm of £850 from the London sperm bank. We have looked at choosing from overseas but it will work out the same cost as LWC charge for admin and storage.

We have started looking for sperm and are concentrating on similar looks with my partner and secondly similar looks of me. We then look at their education and will choose as high as possible. Then height is probably last. We really need to get on and book but it so hard.

We also will always make aware to our child that they are from a sperm donor and I will make a story book relating this. I do hope in future years the child can get more info about the donor. And we will make sure that there are plenty of positive male role models in their life.

In regards to sperm donors imported from overseas they all need to be identifiable which the clinics should advise on.

Roll on 2014 and hope we are all blessed with babies.

MinnieMooMoo Sat 19-Oct-13 21:55:27

I don't think it put me off, I just was in the middle of changing careers so thought I better put it off a while any way and then other things happened and it's only now I've got back into a serious frame of mind. However I don't think I'll ever be 100% ready, I just have to go ahead and do it I think.

Of course you're welcome mrswishywashy smile I am on fertility friends but I prefer the atmoshphere on MN if that makes sense (too many tickers and signatures on FF!)

It's scary and exciting at the same time though!

CynthiaRose Sat 19-Oct-13 21:56:51

Yeah, FF was all a bit much for me too.

CynthiaRose Sat 19-Oct-13 21:57:49

Mrswishwashy - if you don't mind me asking, how did you decide which of you would have the treatment?

mrswishywashy Sat 19-Oct-13 22:11:22

I have always wanted a baby and I worn with new borns in my job. My partner says that she loves children and will love our children as her own even though she won't be blood related. I don't remember ever discussing it and making a choice it's just our personalities mean I will be carrier. I have made it clear that if she ever wants to try then she can. She is also slightly older than me at 39, I'm 35.

We've been together 2.5 years and were married in August in New Zealand, our home country.

libertyflip Sun 20-Oct-13 09:01:28

Hi,

Can I join?

I've just completed second (failed) cycle of natural IUI at London Women's Clinic. I haven't told anybody in RL so would be great to be part of an anonymous quiche.

I wasn't too worried when the first cycle didn't work, but found it really difficult this time. LWC recommended 3 cycles of natural but said I could try stimulated cycle earlier if I wanted which I think i will do.

Good luck to all of you, wishing us all healthy happy 2014 babies!

MinnieMooMoo Sun 20-Oct-13 09:24:54

Welcome liberty sorry it hasn't worked so far, fingers crossed for the next one!

CynthiaRose Sun 20-Oct-13 09:43:50

That's interesting Mrswishywashy, thanks for sharing! Hope it works for you.

Hi Liberty. Sounds similar to my situation, I gave up natural after 2 goes and have medicated, first one was a chemical pregnancy (I think), which made me feel better that it might be possible, then the next one was a success (so 4 goes in all). Think if I could go back I'd go with medicated straight away, but hindsight's a wonderful thing and all that..

TheMoonInJune Sun 20-Oct-13 10:59:07

I didn't have IUI but I am also using donated sperm and am 6 weeks pregnant with my first. smile

CynthiaRose Sun 20-Oct-13 11:15:09

Ooo fabulous, congrats! Are you single?

MinnieMooMoo Sun 20-Oct-13 12:52:39

Congratulations TheMoon !!

congratulations themoon- its great to hear from people who have been successful using donor sperm.

MinnieMooMoo Sun 20-Oct-13 13:12:34

My period was a date late this month, I hope it doesn't start messing about! I'm hoping it's because I was poorly earlier this week.

Three or four more periods and it might be my turn!

TheMoonInJune Sun 20-Oct-13 14:28:54

Cynthia - I am, yes. Will be 34 when I have DC1.

businessadmin Sun 20-Oct-13 17:01:49

Hi ive just ad a 2nd failed unsucessful attempt ov IUI unmedicated at the LWC Darlington using donor sperm. I dnt know wat to do next, i dnt know if i can afford to do anva round ov IUI. I was gna do IVF by egg sharing, wen i first went to LWC but i was scared ov the ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome, but then again i myt of been pregnant by now x

MinnieMooMoo Sun 20-Oct-13 17:04:58

Oh no businessadmin sad sorry to hear that. As you're near Teesside, have you tried looking at Cleveland Fertility? I think they are cheap compared to LWC and work in conjunction with James Cook.

Camsie30 Sun 20-Oct-13 20:59:33

@MinnieMooMoo I'm in London, decided against LWC as have friends with bad experiences there. I found a specialist who has clinics near my home and on Harley St which is near my office. My best friend suggested that I write a journal of this experience which I loved, so have started one this weekend. Trying hard to be sensible but can't help thinking of names!! I know what you mean about British donor, but I think that the level of information from abroad makes it far more appealing...
And yes, here is to 2014 blessings for us all!

january29 Sun 20-Oct-13 21:35:17

Hi, mind if I join, I am also 28, single and looking into becoming a single mum. I have also been researching the LWC and also some other clinics. Biggest thing for me so far is managing financially if I were to become a single mum I am just not sure how about that but guess you just manage. How are you planning on managing that? (being nosey!) It is all so exciting though! Anyone know if you have to wait a long time to get an appointment at LWC?

CynthiaRose Sun 20-Oct-13 22:11:42

I wanted a Saturday appointment and had to wait a little while, but think you can get a week day one fairly quickly. I went to one of their seminars first to find out about it.

MinnieMooMoo Sun 20-Oct-13 22:55:51

Ahh I had thought about writing a journal also! Definitely seem to spend a lot of time picking names for my non-existent children... confused

Hello january29, definitely welcome! I'm not sure how I'm planning to manage financially, I'm very good with money as a single person, I work with children as a career so hoping to take the child with me to work (probably outed myself!) so that'll save on childcare and will claim any benefits I'm entitled to...! I also have savings to fall back on although that's not feasible long term (they'll only last so long right?)

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