Been TTC for 5 months now, thought I had it all worked out with knowing when I ovulated, AF usually arrives exactly 14 days after I got EWCM. BDed on CD 8, 10, 12, 14 or thereabouts. I haven't tried temping or OPKs yet, as I thought my EWCM was pretty reliable. But it hasn't worked yet. (Might add that DP has potentially low fertility issues anyway, so it could just be that)
Just heard yet another story of a friend of a friend who had problems conceiving, then went on holiday, 'relaxed and forgot about TTC' and hey presto, got pregnant.
I wondered again why 'relaxing' would help you to conceive.. and pondered whether those of us who think they've got it right by timing BD with ovulation may in fact have their timing wrong and so are just repeating the same mistake month after month. Some posters on here are even more rigid than I have been saying "well I'm sure I ovulated on that day, so we did it that night and don't need to do it again...." and I just wonder are they inadvertently cocking things up for themselves (excuse the pun)?
So tell me, is there anyone out there who conceived on an unexpected cycle day, did you think you had it all worked out (like my example above) and find that you were wrong??
FWIW I'm going to give the 'every other day for the whole month' technique a go this month, as soon as AF leaves the building.
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Trying to time BD to the 'right days' - Are we just repeating the same mistake?
GladitsnotJustMe · 24/09/2013 14:47
Do it every 3 days for a couple of months as an experiment, and see.
I did that for dd1 & 2 and conceived straight away, timed it to a couple of days before ov for dc3, nothing for 3 months, went back to random bonking and caught straight away again.
And I have 30 day cycles so god knows what was going on in there 
maybe the sperm isn't at it healthiest because we don't do it for like 3 weeks then do it 5 nights in a row I think you might have something there allchat
My DP has potential fertility problems, so leaving it for 2 weeks then expecting super sperm at Ov time is probably wrong....
He's going to love it when I tell him our new strategy
Hi, we have had a bit of a journey over the last couple of years -after 16 months of dtd on what I thought were the right days (by calendar and EWCM) or every 2-3 days we had had no luck.
Used opks one month and did not ov until about day 19-20, got scared at prospect of short lp so ran out and got b6 as I had read this can lengthen it. Got BFP that cycle! - sadly this ended in MC at 8 weeks, but I am hopeful that this knowledge will help us soon.
I must add that we dtd EVERY DAY that month, was exhausting but might have helped too 
My advice would be to continue for a few days after you think you need to.
After a few months break we are back on ttc this month, so fingers crossed for us all x x
I found the app really useful- before TTC I had no idea of my cycle length and was amazed to discover how long it was (and how irregular it could be) It really helped us, and when I spoke to my GP she felt it was a great idea to use the tracking incase we needed any assistance further down the road. As it happened after 6mths of "trying" and probably only 2 months of really trying we were lucky enough to get that magic line.
It also helped me focus on symptoms without becoming obsessive and driving DH potty.
I agree though- its really important not to become mechanical and regimented whilst trying. We are fortunate in that "oi its a green dot day-get yourself upstairs" seemed romantic sometimes
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O think this is diffult. I track and my cycles are on the longer side and fluctuate slightly 29 - 34. If I used the FF calendar alone, then sometimes I would have missed ovulation by over a week.
I undrstand all the woo has of opks and temping can be stressful and affect ttc. However dtd EOD just isnt practical for everyone for the whole month or even a two week period!
Whilst I find it interesting and not stressful I am tracking, temping and opking. If this changes I will think about giving it up for awhile.
FX I won't have to wait long enough to have to test that resolve. I think it's easy to get to the point of stress and panic which is not healthy for you. But I definitely have the capability to get stressed so will likely have a tendancy towards it if this process ends up taking over 6months. Who'd have thought it was so complicated to ttc. Sometimes I wishwe had been less diligent about protection in the past! 
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