Anyone tried Softcups?

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murielspark Fri 06-Sep-13 10:24:13

Hello all,

I've heard good things about softcups for ttc. I was just about to buy some on amazon but then noticed that they're quite expensive. We've been TTC for 6/7 months now and we'd like to try anything that could help.

TMI, but oftentimes after we've done the deed, the spermies make a beeline for the exit and can be found milling around the wrong end of my vagina. This despite some expert anti-gravity sex positions and hubby staying in for a while after the event. So I figured popping a Softcup in there would keep them in the right place.

Do you think they're worth it? Any success stories? smile

Muriel you sound such a fragile, sensitive soul. Are you sure you're ready for a baby? <head tilt>

Ah, I can see you've calmed down a bit now, Muriel. Sorry for the head tilt and hope you get pregnant very soon.

KatAndKit Sat 07-Sep-13 07:34:32

I am sorry if i upset you it was certainly not my intention. It is not really easy to convey a tone of voice with words on a screen, my response was intended to be purely factual.

i do know it is tough when ttc takes longer than you hope. There is a whole industry preying on the desperation of women. Not everyone is scientifically minded and if you read enough threads on ttc forums you will see that there really are people who have given up going on top entirely, spend half an hour after sex with their legs in the air regardless of the time of month and spunk their hard earned cash on wacko potions and fake magic honey or whatever. People want to believe it will help. There are a disturbing number of people who have little knowledge at all about how getting pregnant actually works. The fact at the ebd of the day is that there are only three to five days per cycle when conception can occur. If you learn to identify them you can target your efforts better and have relaxed sex for fun on the other times. It makes it less of a headfuck.

i wish you all the best with ttc and hope it happens soon.

Writerwannabe83 Sat 07-Sep-13 09:18:22

Apparent I have a really difficult to find cervix too. When I had a smear done once the Practice Nurse was down there for ages ever she had to admit she couldn't find it and get somebody else to have a look!

Same thing happened when I had my Mirena Coil inserted - the Doctor had me lying in a very awkward and uncomfortable position in order to locate it! I had to have my hands under my bottom to raise me up and I had to twist to the left a little. It also took a few attempts to actually get proper access to it and said if she couldn't manage the 3rd time she would refer me to a Specialist to get it done. She managed it thankfully!

It wasn't a problem with conception though as it opened for us on our first month of trying. I have seen a really interesting video on YouTube about the difficulties of conception and it does say that a large volume of sperm will leak straight back out the vagina and it isn't just seminal fluid. Me and my hubby went for the 'legs in the air approach' where post sex I had a pillow under my bum and my legs up against the bedroom wall for 20 minutes. It may not have made any difference as to how I conceived but at least at the time I felt I was doing all I could smile

I don't know anything about soft/moon cups but if you think it will help then go for it!! Fingers crossed you get pregnant soon x x

valiumredhead Sat 07-Sep-13 10:09:27

I do too!grin

this study had findings that the pregnancy rates of couples who laid down for 15 minutes after IUI were much higher than those who didn't stay laid down (27% vs 18%). Whilst this would seem to suggest the lying down helps sperm to swim through the Fallopian tubes (as the sperm is pre place into the womb during IUI) and not from the vagina through the cervix as per normal intercourse, (so slightly different to the point on debate here) it would seem sensible, based on this, to stay still after sex for at least this reason

internationallove985 Sat 07-Sep-13 10:19:06

Am I right in thinking that soft cups are what you place inside you to hold the sperm in place. I don't think I could use one of those as I don't like anything inside me, erm apart from the obvious. I never used tampons. I've had one smear but never again. Why do I always insist on over sharing.
Good luck Murielspark. Hope they work for you. xxx

Tea1Sugar Sat 07-Sep-13 11:43:37

Re positions: I am currently upduffed following a quicky with me on top. I didn't lie down with my legs in the air or anything, just hopped straight off. We used preseed though which I now advocate!

Writerwannabe83 Sat 07-Sep-13 12:03:06

Tea - that made me laugh! I can just picture the scene, "Thanks for your sperm, job done, I'm hopping off now" smile

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