Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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alyant79 Thu 22-Aug-13 09:02:40

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative <<refuses to admit that's what I'll do>>
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

SeasideLily Wed 23-Oct-13 10:46:24

Nice story from my acupuncturist yday for those worried about time ticking-one of her patients just had twins...at 49.

P.s. Sal what about 'It WILL happen...just relax!' Rofl.

triplespin Wed 23-Oct-13 11:39:47

Hello all. Just got back from holiday. The best part being there were no pregnant women in sight lol. Usually I see an average of 5 a day at work or on the tube!

Sorry to hear about the RL pregnancy and birth announcements. It is hard to pretend to be happy and excited given our circumstances.

This is my second cycle in a row where I have had brownish spotting / discharge 11 /12 dpo and few days before AF. Was reading that this could be a sign of low progesterone. Has anyone experienced this? I never had this before mc. No spotting mid cycle or prior to AF. Thinking of visiting my GP next week to request some tests.

Bezza2508 Wed 23-Oct-13 13:30:31

Sorry about all the pregnancy chat fedup. It really sucks. I know what you mean about your career. I was all set for using my maternity leave to think about what else I want to do as I hate my job and now I feel like I'm stuck here trying to show enthusiasm for something I just don't want to be doing. In answer to your question about temping, mine usually rises slightly after ovulation but takes a few days to rise properly.

Sorry to hear you're back at work already daft. Not sure I could have done that. Hope you're getting plenty of rest at home.

Hope you had a good holiday triple. I have the spotting now but not before MC. Would be interested to know what your GP says. I've not bothered going to mine as I'm sure they'll just tell me I need to give it more time (I'm on my third cycle post MC).

NerdyBird Wed 23-Oct-13 13:58:04

Hi everyone

I've been rather low on the posifrickintivity of late and seems like lots of us are. It is hard when everyone else seems to get pregnant at the drop of a hat (or knickers!) and I think we all do really well not to shout 'it's not fair, why isn't it ME!' on a daily basis.

I am feeling better today though, I have acupuncture this evening and Dr appt tomorrow. I also feel up to tackling a few of the things I've been letting slide in my preoccupation with TTC, like work!

I hope I can hold on to this glimmer of positivity after Drs tomrrow.

alyant79 Wed 23-Oct-13 15:16:26

hello triple welcome back. Hope you're all relaxed feeling after a nice holiday.
i get spotting before AF too. never noticed it before mc. my AF arrives on day 11, and the longest spotting i had was when it started on day 9. I THINK that it may be getting less now, but i'm not certain.
it can also apparently be a sign of cervical erosion - got no idea what that means really.
Am also curious to see what your GP says.

sorry you've been feeling low nerdy sad but glad that you're a bit happier now. is your Dr appt ttc related?

NerdyBird Wed 23-Oct-13 16:10:13

Hi aly

It is sort of, AF is now two weeks late and I want to check and see why! I'm hoping they'll reconfirm my PCOS and give me some treatment for it to help with TTC. Obviously it would be great if the reason I haven't had AF is because I'm pg but I think that's unlikely.

Really hope they don't just fob me off saying it's stress, as that will make me stressed!

misschord Wed 23-Oct-13 23:03:38

Hi everyone,
Bezza, yes, my DH knows that I am upset about my stepdaughter's pregnancy, seeing I was curled up crying before he even got off the phone to her. But as with everything, the pain has started to ease a little bit, although I'm seeing her next week which I'm not looking forward to.
Is anyone POAS on Friday? We could really do with some posifrickentivity around here!
I have also heard of the benefits of aspirin, as well as preventing blood clots, to improve circulation and blood flow towards the uterine wall while it is building itself up. I started taking it two months before I got pregnant with my last baby, so think it might have helped. I just take a baby dose though, which is quarter of an adult (300mg) aspirin daily.

FiremanSamsWife Thu 24-Oct-13 08:28:06

Hello everyone,

I wondered if I could join you lovely ladies? I have a 2 year old DS and have been ttc number 2 for what feels like months. I had a medically managed miscarriage in May, should have been about 9 weeks but the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks (had early scans due to continuous spotting). I then fell pg again a couple of weeks ago (4 looooong months later!), but started cramping and bleeding only 4 days later and blood tests confirmed another mc.

I'm struggling to get over this one, I posted on the miscarriage boards and bakingtins suggested I come over here, so here I am! I will read back now to get to know you all!

Sorry to see there are so many of us in this situation, I'm currently trying to decide if I can bear trying again, although I already think I can't bear not to try... xx

Sal1977 Thu 24-Oct-13 09:48:48

Welcome Newbies!

Big fat fucking twatish temp drop this morning signalling g AF's imminent arrival right on time. Grrrrrr...

wingandtalon Thu 24-Oct-13 10:41:07

Welcome Fireman so sorry to hear that you had two mc in such quick succession. My heart goes out to you.

I've had super ovulation cramps the last couple of days and we DTD monday and wednesday so now the dreaded 2ww begins. Crossing everything, apart from my legs wink

NerdyBird Thu 24-Oct-13 11:00:32

Morning all

I have just been to the Dr. She has ordered some blood tests to check hormone levels. I think these will just give a snapshot rather than being something to diagnose a problem from, but at least it will be a start. It might be a while till they can give any treatment, because it can be hard to establish what's going on. I can't have the ovulation test yet because it has to be done at a certain point in the cycle and of course I don't know where I am! So for this cycle, I could have ovulated already, or it could still happen. Don't think I will POAS tomorrow as I did one this morning, just in case! But I might do it next Friday.

Hello * firemansamswife* sorry about your two MC, it must be hard. Hope you'll be feeling a bit better soon.

alyant79 Thu 24-Oct-13 12:01:34

good news nerdy for the blood tests - at least it is SOMETHING, rather than just a patronising "there, there, dear, stop stressing". I really hope that your cycle sorts itself out asap. Are you still temping? I always seem to notice a distinct dip just before ov, so if you are still going to ov this cycle to might be able to get a heads up that way.

BUGGER sal sad bugger bugger bugger.

welcome FMSwife i'm so sorry about your two MC. Hopefully you keep on with the trend of getting pg again relatively quickly (i know that 4 months isn't super quick and would have felt like a million years, but from where i'm sitting it looks quickish), and the next one decides to hang around inside for 9 months.

CD7 here, starting to think about limbering up for the shagfest next week. Hoping for early ov this month as my parents will be staying with us for a few days, starting on ov day. <<grumbles>> will need to get lots of swimmers up there as an advance party

DaisyDoo44 Thu 24-Oct-13 12:56:21

hello all. have been on various MN threads on these boards for the last 10 months ttc #2 but have taken a break recently as I needed the space to "pull my sh1t back together" after a 2nd MC/chem preg in that time...

anyway - i'm really posting to say to triplespin and others who were wondering about spotting before AF after MC... The exact thing happened to me too - had never had it before - was worried about progesterone levels etc too. went to GP, did the "day 21" blood tests (do them 7 dpo - whatever day that is for you - for me it was cd28!) and they all came back normal. I also started acupunture (now stopped going - long story) and basically the very irritating outcome is that the GP's original response "oh, it's just your body being slightly out of time after the MC - it'll sort itself out in time" was right! which is good, but annoying when every cycle feels like a year! I now have no spotting again - about 7 cycles after the MC.

Hopefully that helps? My hunch would be that your cycles will return to the right rhythm with no spotting in time. Hopefully that will be sooner rather than later for you.

although totally worth pressing the GP for tests just to ease the mental torture of waiting! ;-)

FiremanSamsWife Thu 24-Oct-13 13:28:32

Thanks for the welcome and good wishes. I have read back and sundance has inspired me to get back on the ttc bandwagon straight away, I'm so sorry you've had such a shit time, to get so far twice must be beyond heartbreaking. I hope the next one sticks for you.

Hope the blood tests show something easily fixable nerdy - good to see a dr doing something productive!

Providing this mc doesn't mess me up as much as the last one, I should be due to ov some time on the weekend/early next week, time to crack open the nice underwear again...!

NerdyBird Thu 24-Oct-13 14:08:48

As it happens, my Dr rang me and said she wants to wait and do the test when I get my next period. Technically that's what you're meant to do, so although it's a bit irritating to have wait longer, they might be more accurate. She did agree that if I didn't get my period by the time the next one would be due, that we would do them anyway.

I did an OPK and looks as if it might be positive. Two earlier in the week were negative. I've had a few positive ones at random times now in this cycle so I wonder if my body is trying to ovulate and just not managing it so tries again? Perhaps I'm just clutching at straws!

But anyway. Still feeling better than I did last week, so that's good.

aly I'm still temping so will check my chart.

Sundance2007 Thu 24-Oct-13 14:30:37

Thanks FMSWife - (and welcome !) It has been an unbelievably rough week but somehow I've managed to get through it without drowning myself in tears. The healing power of a Galaxy chocolate bar is never to be underestimated.

The most frustrating thing is knowing that I will have to go through this shite again before I can have tests done on the nhs, which is why I'm going to give the aspirin a go as well just because it won't harm to try even if it isn't a clotting problem I have.
misschord, I'm glad you mentioned the quarter of a normal tablet as I was thinking of doing this too. I'd read a few stories about people being quizzed by pharmacists when asking for low dose aspirin, and didn't fancy the idea of explaining why I wanted it!
This might sound stupid but I feel ready to ttc straight away - a 2nd mc is truly horrific and frightens me more that there is something physically wrong with me and the implications this could have on the next few years of my life, but I also have hindsight and experience to know that giving myself some time to grieve and rest is only going to prolong the inevitable, whether that's a successful or unsuccessful pregnancy. I'd rather just get on with it and let fate do it's job.

Come on ladies, we need some successful POAS news tomorrow.....and a new thread please!!!

CamomileHoneyVanilla Thu 24-Oct-13 14:31:01

Hi folks

Sorry to vanish and then shamelessly reappear asking for advice but not really having time to read back through the thread properly - apologies.

Here's the situation. I'm on a course this week, due to go home tomorrow. Home is 3 1/2 hours away. Got a positive opk yesterday am and this am. Will tomorrow be too late to stand a chance of little egg still being alive? Should I drive back tonight or is that a) also potentially too late & b) completely ridiculous?! I know I should just accept this isn't my month but its just so frustrating to see that smiley face and not being able to do anything about it!

Sorry for being a bit... you know.

Welcome newbies, though sorry you have to be here. Boo to Sal for temp drop.

alyant79 Thu 24-Oct-13 14:54:40

ooh nerdy that's good news about the possible pos opk.
bit of a bummer about the blood tests, but does seem like a sensible plan.

hi daisy think i've seen you around. thanks for the optimism re spotting.
sorry about your 2nd mc sad

alyant79 Thu 24-Oct-13 15:09:13

sorry, it took me a while to write my post, so i missed a few.

cam is it poss to drive home tonight? tomorrow might be ok, but probably pushing it. totally understand your frustration, the same thing happened to me but i was overseas so couldn't do anything about it. I thought that we might have just had a chance to catch the egg, but nothing happened so....

sundance i completely understand being ready to ttc straight away again. also, I assume you know the stats that 2 mc in a row is nothing to worry about, and almost certainly just very, very, very bad luck. So try not to panic yet. But I can completely see the rationale for getting back on the horse straight away to try and get a resolution one way or the other ASAP... if there is something wrong (which i'm sure there isn't) you want to find out as soon as you can, so you can try and get it sorted.

CamomileHoneyVanilla Thu 24-Oct-13 17:46:59

Thanks Aly. I agree tomorrows prob too late. I've decided to accept its not our month. I have to be here tomorrow and figured driving that far and back again tonight might place a bit too much pressure on DH which wouldn't be fair. Oh well - I will just keep my fingers crossed for the rest of you this month. Here's to loads of BFPs tomorrow to cheer me up!

SuzyBean Thu 24-Oct-13 18:40:49

Hi all, I've been a bit distracted this week as we were about to exchange on our new house and our buyers decided to pull out of buying our flat! We've managed to find new buyers but this has put the house we are buying in jeopardy as we are back at square one! Everybody cross Their fingers I can't bear to lose anything else this year.

Welcome all newbies, I hope your stay is short.

I have had some good news my 21 day progesterone tests came back normal. The only thing abnormal was my frolic acid levels were high probably from taking pregnancy vitamins for a year and a half !

Good luck for anyone poas tomorrow.

firsttimekat Thu 24-Oct-13 20:14:11

Seems a shame to join at this point in the thread... But can I? Sorry I haven't read all the old posts, but will read them next.

Bit of background, MMC in August, since we got back to DTD we've been sort of not trying to not get pregnant if that makes any sense, rather than actively trying, which I have to admit is a nice change. Not had a period since, but have PCOS so no periods are sort of par for the course.

Anyway and before this turns into an essay. I sort of feel pregnant but not the same as last time and plan on taking a test tomorrow, but I'm scared. Scared it will be positive and I'm opening myself up to all the uncertainty that might bring and scared it might be negative and the feeling that I still have no clue what's going on with my body. We thought about waiting, but I really don't think I'd feel different about this later.

Someone tell me this is normal and help me pluck up the courage to test tomorrow.

alyant79 Thu 24-Oct-13 20:14:32

oh my god it's friday tomorrow. who's POAS?
great news suzy about your progesterone, not so good about your house. Good luck i hope it all works out!

triplespin Thu 24-Oct-13 21:26:48

Hi all

Post #999! nerdy that sounds promising. Hopefully now that you are temping you will be able to confirm ovulation.

Good luck to poasers tomorrow!
daisy thank you for you post. This makes me feel much better. AF today also seems heavier ( and closer to pre mc) today do hoping that things will get back to normal eventually. Why did you stop acupuncture ? I keep toying with starting it but then the cost and time hold me back.

Feeling quite low and was actually thinking of attending a fertility show in London in a few weeks time. Kept feeling the need to be actively doing something to get pg; beyond just waiting for the fertile days!!

sal boo to the temp drop.

Welcome to the new joiners!

Sal1977 Thu 24-Oct-13 21:36:36

Just in time! Here's the new thread...come find a seat lovely ladies, the bar is open!!

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