Dadsnet - desperately wanting to conceive

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LJonesy Mon 08-Jul-13 22:38:49

I'm not sure how many guys post on here but here goes anyway ;-).
My wife and I have been trying to conceive for a few months now but no joy. She has recently been for a fibroids(not sure of the spelling) scan/exam due to having pains after intercourse, all came back all clear.
This month she said she had light spotting and is now two days late, we both would like children more than I ever thought possible but the test came back negative. It was a downer for her but I'm hoping that theses tests can't always outsmart the female body and we will overcome the odds. Nothing would make us happier than to be pregnant, I was wondering if these things can 'take time' and a couple of days is still early? Anyone had a few days pass and had the good news? Fingers crossed....but I won't get my hopes up though as good luck isn't always forthcoming at the moment.

Hi, yes for some people it can take a while before a positive test, but equally it is not unusual for a period to be 'late' but it not be due to pregnancy. This is because its possible/common to ovulate on a different day each cycle, with a period starting x days after ovulation. So, unless your wife knows when she ovulated, its difficult to determine if she is truly late iyswim
Also, it can take over a year for some couples to conceive naturally, which can feel like forever when its something you want very much. Good luck and FX for you both

RaRaZ Tue 09-Jul-13 09:38:02

Yes, absolutely I can. I was 6wks when I first got a +ve. Not sure how much you're up on the lingo, so hope I'm not patronising you, but 6wks means 6wks since my period and 4wks since conception. As a period arrives roughly two weeks after ovulation, you 'should' be able to tell if you're pg at 4wks/2wks since conception. But that doesn't always happen. However, HCG (the pregnancy hormone) levels rise very quickly in a healthy pg, so test again in a couple of days. Best of luck!

Is she certain she ovulated this month by the way? Not all women ovulate every month.

violetbean Tue 09-Jul-13 09:59:37

I had a few negatives early on before getting a positive a couple of days later. The first wee of the day was the best to test. That said, it could just be that she is late. Hope you get a positive result, either this time or sometime soon. Thinking of you.

LJonesy Tue 09-Jul-13 11:44:21

Thanks for the replies. We are both in our early thirties and my wife has said that her cycle is extremely regular and always has been since her teenage years. To be honest we are probably just getting ahead of ourselves and it just happens to be a tad late this month. I think we'll leave it a week or so and see what's what, if nothings happened then we'll try another test, thanks again.

RaRaZ Tue 09-Jul-13 12:00:47

Keep us posted :-)

By the way, not sure if the bit about the regular cycle was in reply to my Q, but a regular cycle doesn't guarantee ovulation. Did you use ovulation tests or anything?

LJonesy Tue 09-Jul-13 13:11:55

RaRaz, yes sorry about that, we did use an ovulation kit and it did show a positive result a couple of weeks back or so. Im not sure if she has convinced her body that she is pregnant :-)
She texted me today to say that she is now experiencing a clear watery discharge which is very out the ordinary. Not really want I wanted to hear during my lunch but hey ho, I'll keep you updated and thanks for being a friendly group.

LJonesy Thu 11-Jul-13 09:54:49

Well we did a test this morning and it appears that even the testing kit is now playing with us. The Clearblue test says "Not Pregnant 2-32wks" smile

RaRaZ Thu 11-Jul-13 11:57:46

WTF?! confused Go buy another quick!

getagoldtoof Thu 11-Jul-13 19:44:05

Call the helpline and get a refund...! Or try first response Early response. Usually quite reliable.

Livvylongpants Thu 11-Jul-13 19:51:42

Ooo go get another smile

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