Just starting out

(20 Posts)
ovenbun Thu 20-Jun-13 16:45:53

Hi,
Well I'm a bit nervous/excited/overwhelmed...OH and I have been thinking about trying for our first babya long time, and have kept putting it off for various reasons. This month we have started to try,
I am hoping that you'll have lots of advice for me over the next few months/years..I'm so freaked out!
G xxxx

TWinklyLittleStar Thu 20-Jun-13 19:55:54

Take folic acid and shag regularly. That's all. Don't start temping/charting/using ovulation kits, it's too easy to get completely obsessed. Remember it takes on average 6 months for a couple to conceive, and anything up to a year is perfectly normal although it feels like forever.

Good luck!

internationallove985 Thu 20-Jun-13 20:39:53

Good look oven bun.
Same as what Twinkylittlestar said. Although I much prefer the term making love rather than shag. xxx

AnythingNotEverything Thu 20-Jun-13 20:42:39

Enjoy lots and lots of sex grin

HadALittleFaithBaby Thu 20-Jun-13 20:56:50

Call it what you like asking as you don't start calling it baby dancing!

Yes regular sex, three times a week, every week. Eat well, exercise, take folic acid. Make sure you create intimacy with your OH - we found massage great for that - because sex can become a chore if it takes longer than anticipated to conceive. I'd keep track of your cycles - useful to know if the full flow starts after 3pm day 1 of your cycle is technically the next day - but TWink is right, avoid charting and OPKs etc for now. Good luck! smile

FriendofDorothy Thu 20-Jun-13 21:31:22

A good hard shag is much more satisfying that BDing anyway!

eurozammo Thu 20-Jun-13 21:32:23

I wish you could like posts on MN....

Writerwannabe83 Thu 20-Jun-13 21:43:16

Hi Ovenbun - me and my Husband have started to try this month for our first baby too!!!! smile

Fingers crossed it won't take us too long!!! x x

HesterShaw Thu 20-Jun-13 23:12:22

<snorts>

Good luck OP! And don't worry - shagging is positively encouraged round these parts whereas making lurve might be met with a few hmm faces!

internationallove985 Fri 21-Jun-13 00:32:36

Feel free to snort all you like Hester Shaw. However as a women ttc I don't shag I make love. xx If you're ttc good luck x

ovenbun Fri 21-Jun-13 00:54:28

Thank you all for replying,
smile pppffft! I think we do a bit of both on the sex front grin 'Baby dancing' sounds so cringey...also makes me think of the Evian adverts..tres offputting! Love the massage suggestion!

Writerwannabe83 it's so exciting isn't it..I'm just learning the abbreviations, hope you get a BFP soon smile

G xx

chillisbopper Fri 21-Jun-13 03:43:44

DH and I started trying at the beginning of July last year. BFP end of March this year!!

I agree with earlier posts, don't chart everything (except keep note of periods, it's handy to know anyway and I tested the FIRST day of period with a value brand test getting our first BFP -I then did 7 more non value brand ones haha) we started out 'trying' and it just stressed us out/I had a little panic about everything so we instead referred to it as 'not trying, but not preventing either, it will happen when it's supposed to happen'. Stressing about trying will ruin the romance of doing the deed. Our family planning doctor said "just have fun" grin.

There may come a point you get worried it might not happen, I started to in February as I realised it had been 7 months and I was scared something might be wrong but the nhs do say a year is normal. I say this so you can be prepared, I found our trying (yet not officially saying trying) quite an emotional roller coaster and I think it's probably normal to have a little freak out at one point.

I'd recommend telling your GP you have decided to try though, I know it's not nice to think about and I hope it never comes up for you but a very close friend of mine has been trying with her husband for a couple of years now and you have to have been trying for a year before nhs do tests/give you any help with it so if they know you've started should you encounter any trouble then they know how long it's been etc. thanks.

I read somewhere that the woman's pleasure so to speak is quite important for conception so it's a nice little excuse to have your OH pay that little bit more attention to you during foreplay etc wink.

Also try to be in good health, my husband was unwell (although I put it down to man flu grin) due to damp in our old house and we tried for 7 months, nothing. Then within 2 weeks of moving and husband being healthy again I was pregnant!

Good luck smile thanks Xx

chillisbopper Fri 21-Jun-13 04:04:31

P.S The romantic in me also prefers the term 'making love' although to be honest I do enjoy both as there is totally a difference between 'making love' and 'shagging' each being satisfying and enjoyable but different levels of emotional intimacy if you know what I mean x

alwyn Fri 21-Jun-13 07:24:15

'Making love' sounds so serious, like a scene in a movie that's all intense. I much prefer just 'shagging' - sounds like much more fun grin

Wineandchoccy Fri 21-Jun-13 07:36:09

We are starting this month as well to ttc #1. Finished the pill on the 14th June so on breakthrough bleed until tomorrow and then the fun can start!

We kept talking about trying and then something seemed to crop up, moved house, bridesmaid at a wedding etc but made a decision to stop the pill this month.

I am 32 and DH is 34 so we think we should get on with it before we look like its Grandparents at the school gate!!

Good luck to everyone who is trying ttc and let's hope we join that special club of being a mummy very soon.

HesterShaw Fri 21-Jun-13 08:26:53

InternationalLove, as a woman TTC for the last three and a half years I'm afraid we left the making love stage long ago! Went through the duty shagging stage, graduated from the Can't Be Arsed School Of Lovemaking and am well into the medical assistance stage. I'm still a woman ttc though, just like you, and if ttc-ers want to say shagging, they can smile

Hope everyone gets their win soon.

internationallove985 Fri 21-Jun-13 15:00:06

Hi HesterShaw. I wish you well on your ttc journey. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
However where did I say that other ttc=ers can't say shag. Who the hell I am to say what people can say and what they can't. It's just a word I don't like to say, To me it sounds horrible. Also if I want to call it making love I can. xxx

HesterShaw Fri 21-Jun-13 19:47:13

Oh apologies. I thought you were admonishing someone for calling it shagging. I was mistaken. Good luck with your journey too xxxx

eurozammo Fri 21-Jun-13 22:16:25

"Making love" makes me think of Swiss Tony from The Fast Show....

These days I have abandoned making love/shagging or whatever else you want to call it in favour of Mr euro wanking into a pot, someone shoving a knitting needle thought my vagina and some scientist types combining the results in a pot. <romantic>

internationallove985 Sat 22-Jun-13 15:07:14

Hi HesterShaw. Your Apology has been well and truly accepted. Although, there was no need to aoplogise you just voicing your opinion, which is allowed. xxx

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