We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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GuffSmuggler Fri 14-Jun-13 15:51:41

A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Misspositivity Sat 15-Jun-13 18:56:51

emki. Sorry you felt so rotten yesterday and glad you are having a better day. What is preseed and enjoy your trip away.

Still slightly crampy today with some sharp pain in left side. Not feeling very positive.

On the plus side my DP has won some vouchers for a 5* hotel in Ireland. So booked a night away on 8 July and I didn't even check if I would be ovulating. <pats self on back for behaving like a normal person>.

Hope everyone is feeling a bit brighter today

mummy and tins. Still thinking of you guys and hope your both doing ok.

Misspositivity Sat 15-Jun-13 19:06:23

alyant. How are you coping with our 2ww. I find it really difficult at least in the DtD window there is some thing practical to do.

Emki Sat 15-Jun-13 19:32:30

missp preseed is a fertility lubricant .... Some of the ladies here have talked about it and conceive plus .... I actually think I have conceive plus and not preseed ... Sorry - unintentional lie!

Fingers crossed AF stays away for about 9 months smile

Emki Sat 15-Jun-13 19:34:07

missp great news about the trip away ! And huge pat on the back for not planning around OV - we've not totally lost the plot! Xx

nearlyreadytopop Sat 15-Jun-13 19:35:19

hi,
hope you don't mind if I hang around, really not ready for joining a pregnancy thread. (and I really must know if the syringe workedgrin )

Tomkat79 Sat 15-Jun-13 19:53:21

Hi guys...have been looking at this SMEP. Today is day 8 but feeling about as sexy as a wet fish!

Bit worried that this is going to carry on all month. If I'm really honest, and you're the only ones who know this, I'm just so frickin terrified of being pregnant again!!

alyant79 Sat 15-Jun-13 21:38:11

missp i'm feel very very non-positive. Also been feeling crampy with a few pains coming and going.
AF due tue/wed according to my usual cycle (not due til friday if ov sticks were to believed and i have a normal length luteal phase), but i won't be surprised if when she shows up earlier.
Pretty ticked off about it, and even DH is a bit sad. He usually plays it cool and pretends not to care but I think that's because he also really thought it would be very quick. Kind of feels like a kick in the teeth - I know that I was lucky to get pregnant immediately with both my previous pregnancies but because of that i expected it to be quick this time too. I can't help feeling that something is wrong...

missp how exciting about the 5* hotel! woo!

emki i'm glad you're feeling better today

nearly of course you should hang around as long as you want

my new tactic for this next month will be temping. going to order a bbt as soon as AF arrives. I might toss cheap ov sticks into the mix too, but defo not getting the cb digi advance ones

GuffSmuggler Sat 15-Jun-13 22:07:45

I'm 5 days into the 2ww and time seems to be moving along so slowly, am already thinking how early I can POAS and then try and pull myself together with a big self-fish slap.

Missp the hotel sounds fab, but I would have already been counting my calendar and working out if I was ov!

tomkat I know what you mean, I'm desperate to get PG again but at the same time I'm terrified of the next stage of worry it will create but I try and focus on one worry at a time if that would help you! If you really don't feel ready then don't put pressure on yourself. Perhaps have some time off but don't take precautions and who knows??

Emki Sat 15-Jun-13 22:23:10

guff fingers crossed for you - I really don't like any part of this ttc!

aly fingers crossed for you too- we are really being tested in the patience area - I keep saying to myself 'ok so lets pretend noting has happened and I want to try for a baby' I keep trying to shed myself of the baggage I'm carrying around all the time

tomkat I know - I'm terrified of the thing I want most! But I agree with aly one worry at time - and all the ladies are here to give support x

Emki Sat 15-Jun-13 22:55:28

aly I too got pregnant straight away with first two pregnancies - and now following 2 mc it's not happening straight way - i feel like I'm in a tread mill and can't get off!!! But it will happen and your not out of the game this month xxx {hugs} to you xx

OneLittleToddleTerror Sun 16-Jun-13 06:39:51

I don't know why I POAS this morning. 14 dpo and I never have results this early. Ofc it's a BFN.

And yes I'm terrified of being pregnant again, but it's because I'm scared of having another MC. I'm constantly thinking that this is it for me, secondary infertility.

Hopefully others have more happy thoughts today.

flohs Sun 16-Jun-13 08:06:46

Hello! Can I join? 4th cycle since mc at end of February. We'd been trying for about 7 mths before that. Started spotting a few days early yesterday - queue tears and drama from me. So wanted to be pregnant again. Tried SMEP but it didn't work. So I guess I'm in need of positivity!!!

flohs Sun 16-Jun-13 08:07:42

Ps v scared of being pregnant again too! Getting that elusive bfp certainly seems just like the first hurdle

Rockchick1984 Sun 16-Jun-13 09:13:05

Sorry for BFN OLTT but hopefully it's just too early thanks <fish slap> for testing on a Sunday smile

Welcome Flohs sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Have you been actively trying again since it happened?

JBrd Sun 16-Jun-13 09:13:54

It's so sad that we have to be scared of being pregnant, isn't it?! I'm the same. Really want to be, but at the same time, I'm terrified. And I'm sure that next time I get a BFP, I will make sure my calendar is clear around the 8-week-mark hmm

flohs Sun 16-Jun-13 09:33:31

Yep been trying a lot since and nothing... hmm. Frustration is so much worse since than before we got pregnant. But I guess that's normal. Thanks for the nice welcome! grin

Penguinita Sun 16-Jun-13 09:55:59

<slaps OLTT with a trout for not waiting until Friday> But keep your chin up, results can change in the next 5 days.

Welcome flohs, hope you can absorb a bit of posifrickingtivity from the lovely ladies here.

I'm totally terrified of being pregnant again too. I was a bit scared last time, but mainly because of childbirth and the changes to my body. This time I have a whole heap of extra stuff to be scared about that in my innocence I didn't really know about before <sighs>.

And even though I really want to get a BFN so that I know I'm back to "normal" (hmm) again, I'm also dreading it because it will be back to square one and time to get on the treadmill again.

Will be interested to know if the cheap OPK sticks work for you aly. I got some as a "free gift" with my bbt thermometer off ebay. Haven't tried them yet as I'm rather sceptical about their quality! Although the free gift pregnancy test sticks that also came with it were brilliant.

RainbowConnections Sun 16-Jun-13 12:00:14

Hi all, including new folk. Like the new thread title.
Congrats nearlyreadytopop.

I had BFP a couple of weeks ago but still lurking, hope thats ok. Sorry the posifrickintivity has been low.

Just to share my very limited experience so far of being pregnant again. While it is every bit as scary as I thought, and more, there are still little joyful moments when I allow myself briefly to dream about the future that make it worth the worry.
Tomkat i think it was you who talked about having "faith" in the discussion re early scans. It came back to me yesterday and was wiser than i realised. Scan or not, I think its what you ultimately get by on.

DH and DS are at in-laws today and I'm lazing around watching embarrassingly trashy teen drama today. I hope some of you have good weekend things happening. x

Misspositivity Sun 16-Jun-13 14:41:51

Welcome Flohs. We had a chat on a SMEP before. It will happen for u all. You will find lots of positivity here

oltt. It's very tempting isn't it to poas. Don't feel bad but here's a big slap with a mackerel.

I am currently 10 dpo and normal cycle due AF Tuesday. Let's do some physco symptom spotting

Sore boobs
Nauseated
Dizzy when stand up
Tingly teeth
Stuffed up nose
Mouth ulcers (think we decided this was not a symptom)
No spotting at all ( I know this can be a good sign but with my only viable pregnancy I didn't have any at implantation and with 2 mc had loads and a lot of pain
Mild cramps and pain in LhS

Gut feeling is AF will arrive on Tuesday. But sure a bit of symptom spotting wheels me busy. alyant guff and oltt fingers crossed for you guys.

Tomkat79 Sun 16-Jun-13 15:35:44

Ha rainbow yep that was me. Rumbled. I can happily apply all of that logic to anyone except myself ;-)

RainbowConnections Sun 16-Jun-13 16:33:09

Its not easy. Don't rush. I'd talk lots more to DH about whether i was ready if I was doing it over.

Penguinita Sun 16-Jun-13 17:27:43

Tingly teeth?? That's a new one on me! grin

Misspositivity Sun 16-Jun-13 18:18:53

penguinita I think I might have made that one up along with the ulcer thing. <sighs>.

katatonic Sun 16-Jun-13 18:38:44

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

OneLittleToddleTerror Sun 16-Jun-13 18:46:56

katatonic all the best with next cycle. Like your positivity already.

And welcome to the new people. I can't scroll back up to see all your names since I'm on the phone. But hope you find the support you need here.

Thanks for all the fish slaps too. We have packed our bags today and have lots of luggage allowance left. So in going to pack my CBFM (and some tampons) if I don't get a bfp tomorrow. I know I really need slapping to plan on POAS tomorrow again. I think it's aly saying why I need to pack the CBFM. I won't be in my fertile window while on holiday. But I need to press the M button at CD1. And also turn it on once a day to advance the day window.

Though actually I haven't been turning it on since about CD18. So jopefully I haven't messed it up already. It is supposedly to learn my cycle, isn't it?

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