Advice from anyone going through ivf

(5 Posts)
tametortie Thu 13-Jun-13 11:49:34

Just let her know you are there when she needs you but you dont want to keep pestering for news. She will appreciate the extra level of thought. Perhaps send a bunch of flowers??? Or a card with a few choice words about hope and dreams??? Nice to be in someones thoughts without the need for words or reciprocation.

Thanks, I felt space was the right option but she hasn't told many people and I didn't want her to feel she's alone or that I wasn't bothered now or that it had slipped my mind

tametortie Thu 13-Jun-13 10:19:14

Space.

My friends that kept texting have been dropped by the wayside. Its stressful enough without having to manage everyone elses feelings as well. I know its harsh but you have to remember who is going through it.

My best best friend said call me if you need me, otherwise ill leave you to it. Love her for that.

EuroShaggleton Thu 13-Jun-13 10:15:32

I preferred to be given space. Even when it had worked I wanted time to get my head around it before having to discuss it with others.

So a really good friend of mine is comming up to finding out if her 5 th cycle of ivf has worked, she currently has no dc and has paid so much for this to be done at a special place in London, I have been texting for regular updates while she's been there and know what's been going on and that she had 2 5 day transfers put back in, what I'm wondering is whether to keep texting now or to give her space? I want so desperately for it to work for her but if it didn't would it hurt more getting msg's asking and having to put no? Would it be easier to give her the space to do what she finds easiest? I'm torn between wanting her to know I'm thinking of her and yet not wanting to make anything harder for her, what would you do?

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