I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 11:25:35

I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods... grin

PurpleGeekyGirl Fri 03-May-13 17:40:48

Chips I don't stop drinking at ovulation time. I just carry on as normal in the hope not thinking about it will make it happen. It hasn't yet wink

Thunder totally understand if you need some time out. I left the boards at Xmas because I was obsessing too much and the break helped my sanity levels.

Is anyone else fed up with taking folic acid everyday to no avail? I'm trying so hard to be zen about things but am definitely fed up at the moment! I'm 39 and went through a real period of I don't want another baby with such a large gap all this week... BF will make a fantastic dad but I'm so torn with what to do. Obviously if I got a sticky BFP I'd be over the moon but I am trying to come to terms with it not happening too and counting the blessings I do have. Doesn't help that ex is getting remarried tomorrow..! Woe is me yadayadayada.

MrsExcited Fri 03-May-13 18:16:17

New thread! I might manage to stay upto date with this one.

Still no sign of af or bfp 7 weeks since erpc now and getting a tad bored of waiting for some sign that am still fertile!!

Thunder, you have todo what is right for you! I have found myself increasingly lurking here than actively posting as it is hard to stay positive. Good luck on your jouney.

Thanks for the congrats ladies - think its sinking in!

I really hope I haven't upset anyone by putting my BFP news on - I honestly didn't expect to fall pregnant so soon after my miscarriage in Feb. I was hoping to stay on the thread for a bit if that's okay - I'm just so scared after last time.

I hope everyone is enjoying the lovely weather - sunshine on a bank holiday weekend - unheard of normally!!

alyant79 Fri 03-May-13 21:18:08

mummy you have to post bfp news. What else are we here for afterall?

chips I don't stop drinking entirely after ov but I do try and cut down a bit.

Emki Fri 03-May-13 21:47:25

What about coffee? Do people stop drinking coffee when ttc? I carry on with wine and coffee but keep it to a minimum

mrsexciited I just for AF 10 weeks after erpc - got tell you what a relief it is - I went for a scan 10 days ago and that was a great help as they could tell I just ovulated so if you're going crazy waiting see if you can book in for a scan at the epau x

mummy it's fab news and gives everyone hope - huge congrats xxx

So now that ill be ready to ttc soon I'm going to get a massage and reflexology and try and be as calm as possible grin eek!!!!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 22:09:25

The thing is, this thread IMO is here for the good and the bad. This is, in my world, the only place I can say what I feel for better or worse. When someone posts about their BFP, I do feel jealous, gutted but I also feel like that's one more down and a step nearer to my turn. I don't know how I would cope without you lot to witter at. When I mention babies out here in real life, people get a kind of "here she goes again" look in their eyes. Apparently it's ok to be PG by accident, but to try for a baby when you are 38 is daft and you need to get a grip and enjoy what you already have! Please don't anybody stop posting about anything, even BFPs. You keep me sane! grin

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 22:11:30

Emki until 4 weeks?? The embryo is independent from the mother. Afaik what you eat has minimal cross over to the baby.

Topslou Fri 03-May-13 22:29:25

Evening ladies. Thanks for setting up the new thread saggy.

Congrats on the BFP mummy, great news.

Thunder - dont leave us. Why don't you take a few days/weeks away? I did this at the beginning of April as really needed to sort my head out and think of something other than babies for a while and it really worked and I'm feeling much more positive. I did miss everyone tho.

My planned sexfest this week has not worked out quite to plan. I was thinking twice a day while we were away and once a day when we got back and we must have only managed 5 times all week. Hoping that one of them was at the right time. I will be poas on 17th May. Just the horrible 2 ww to endure now. Thinking lots of positive thoughts and using my nervous energy to boost my get bikini ready fitness campaign.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 22:32:21

only managed 5 times all week
Fecking hell! grin

Topslou Fri 03-May-13 22:51:32

That's more times in a week than we do for the rest of the month do think I've worn him out!

Oh my days - 5 times in a week is an immense effort!! We managed 4 times (and that was a stretch) and after that DH almost looked almost scared / worried if I came towards him!!

X

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 04-May-13 00:00:58

We managed 5 times last cycle! DP accused me of being sex crazed! confused

CamomileHoneyVanilla Sat 04-May-13 07:26:52

I read somewhere that every other day is optimum as it gives sperm a chance to save up. No idea if that's true but it might be worth looking into if only to rescue DHs!

CamomileHoneyVanilla Sat 04-May-13 07:30:03

Quick google search later...

Though other research says every day!

Ariel21 Sat 04-May-13 08:51:51

Wow - all these BFPs! Well done mummy and kat and anyone else I have forgotten!

Hope everyone has a lovely bank holiday weekend.

I still can't wait for AF. Am currently googling stats to see if you really have to wait or whether we should just get shagging...

Hi everyone,

Firstly thank you for the lovely messages and you are all right about this being a great place to be.

Secondly, I really really don't want anyone to feel bad about getting a bfp here- I really am genuinely thrilled for my friends here to graduate and hopefully to have successful healthy pregnancies. It's not your good news that makes me feel bad, it's my situation!

I won't disappear then, I might go quiet for a bit but I'll be here in the background waiting for the good news and butting in when I can't not

On that note- iron supplements, use SPATONE! It's great- natural iron-rich water in sachets so you don't get the side effects. I think you can get it prescribed in some places too.

And in my news, my thyroxine dose has now been increased a bit. The doc said if I wasn't ttc she would happily leave it as it is, so I'm pleased she and I both have the same goal.

thanks to you all lovely ladies.

(ps give up coffee/wine in 2ww?! I don't think so!)

BirdsDoIt Sat 04-May-13 09:47:33

Congrats mummy!

thunder do stay - or come back once you've had a bit of time off as topslou says - myself I'm settling in for a long stay, as it took me 9 months to get first BFP.

ariel we've thrown caution to the winds and got going before first AF - though we're taking more of a 'when we feel like it' approach than before, when we were ttc - will be going back to every other day once I had first AF as have better idea of what my body's doing. Though I have v irregular periods so never really know!

Right, off for the weekend now - hope you all have a lovely bank hol and see you Tuesday! X

BirdsDoIt Sat 04-May-13 09:49:02

Sorry crossed posts, thunder glad to see you're still going to be lurking!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 04-May-13 10:07:28

There was talk a couple of threads back about the sperm meets egg plan. It's supposed to optimise your chances. It's easy to find if you google.

katerinaemalina Sat 04-May-13 10:12:30

Thunder your post has just made cry. I hate all this. It's so unfair. Why has this happened to us all? I was so naive before started trying, didn't even think stuff could go wrong, and that desperate feeling of wanting a baby so much. Even though I don't post much mn has been lifeline for me, and still is. I'm v relieved to have bfp of course but I'm now absolutely rigid with fear about it all happening again. And there is nothing we can do about it other than keep trying. I KNOW we will all have healthy babies. The evidence out there is weighed in our favour. And in the meantime we can help each other not go as mad as we would without mn! I cant and dont want to talk to anyone in rl about it, they all say the wrong things, so this thread has really reassured me and made me feel far less alone. I hope you all have lovely bh and the sun spreads some baby dust magic xx

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 04-May-13 10:13:29

here do and I did it the first month. It nearly killed him! and me!

Ariel21 Sat 04-May-13 10:23:33

Just read the SMEP. Sounds complicated. Might just attempt every two/three days as we did before. Even that was a challenge! We managed it the first month and I didn't all pregnant. Second month we only DTD four times all month as we were really busy and I got a BFP. I don't understand it!

JBrd Sat 04-May-13 15:53:37

Hello everyone, and congrats to all of those with the recent BFPs! Can't believe how quickly some of you have gotten pg again, am quite envy, but nonetheless very happy for you! Wishing you all very sticky beans flowers

thunder please continue to lurk! I can understand completely how you are feeling! Do take a break from it all, if you feel that you need to, but don't forget that we're here if you need us.

I'm waiting for the first af since my mc... but it actually looks as if I'm about to ovulate - nice watery ewcm in the last few days, and had a positive OPK today, which I'm rather pleased about! I had started to loose confidence in my body a bit... But it seems as if everything is starting to fall back into place.
Doubly pleased because we dtd first time since the mc this morning, without any thought about ttc, but now it looks as if the timing is just right! I might just continue like that over the next couple of days wink

Chipschipschips Sun 05-May-13 09:21:53

Interesting reading that SMEP, it says even if you get everything timed perfectly you still only have a 1/4 chance of getting pregnant. Is that true? Or is that 1/4 chance of a successful pregnancy?

Sal1977 Sun 05-May-13 17:24:53

I think it's a 25% chance of actually getting pregnant chips. You then have about a 50/50 chance of getting to a BFP point and then once you have a BFP (ie a confirmed pregnancy) you then have an 80% chance of a successful pregnancy.

It's any wonder anyone was ever born!!

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