I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 11:25:35

I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods... grin

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 11:34:35

The threa rules cut and pasted from the last one:
For all of the newbies, here are the thread rules courtesy of Santa:
POAS Rules
<<usurps thunder's dictatorship complex>>

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night. <<glares at Janie>> <<feels bad in case Janie lives in Australia>>
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative <<refuses to admit that's what I'll do>>
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

By the way, welcome (not that that's quite the right word, but you know what I mean) to all the other ladies who so sadly find themselves here. Its great fun, everyone is lovely and not at all psychotic!

GuffSmuggler Fri 03-May-13 11:36:08

Thanks saggy here's to a BIG BFP thread!

Congrat mummy that's great news grin Feels like the thread has picked up some good positive vibes again after a bit of bad patch for everyone.

sal I think there are a few of us in AF sync so the next couple of weeks are going to be sore blush Although I'm trying to kick the evil witch out the building still so still limbering up for the big push ha ha.

GuffSmuggler Fri 03-May-13 11:37:26

Anymore POASers today??

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 11:37:31

Old thread here
There! I think that's everything. smile
<<gets out knitting>>
<<settles in to wait for everyone else>>

Well done saggy,

Actually I'm thinking the time may have come for me to leave this thread. You are all a lovely bunch and the support here is fantastic, but I think there comes a time when being the only one left from when I joined in November is telling me something!

So I wish you all the very best luck and hugs for support now and for the pregnancies to come. If you look at our stats there must be an average of only a couple of months max ttc before graduating so I know you'll all be moving on very soon.

Thank you for all your kind words and support over the months. thanks thanks

alyant79 Fri 03-May-13 11:51:38

mummy that's great news! wowee....

thunder it will be sad to see you go. you're always full of so much support. But I can see your point, it is hard to see everyone else sailing off into the sunset with bfps. I'll miss you!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 12:41:01

I'm still here Thunder! Don't leave! We will ALL get there in the end!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 12:42:33

We are just the people who take a bit longer. You need those to make an average!

katerinaemalina Fri 03-May-13 13:00:13

Well done mummy lets hold hands together. I am still pregnant today. That's my mantra. But every little crampy or back ache feeling sends me to the loo to check.

Thunder don't go! You are lovely hmm

Lieslvontrapp Fri 03-May-13 13:01:52

Stay thunder! I miscarried in december so not long after u. And i reckon at this rate ill be here for a while yet. Your time to graduate will come soon!

Emki Fri 03-May-13 13:23:37

Thanks for new thread! Congrats to mummy - don't leave thunder - I'm still here -AF arrived today finally after 101/2 weeks since erpc - have nt even started ttc yet - please don't go - it is hard but our time will come!! Patience is one of the hardest things!!! Xxxxx

Bakingtins Fri 03-May-13 13:31:34

Thanks Saggy.

Thunder don't go! I've been here since September, there are still some of the old guard around. I'll be keeping my seat warm here though hoping this time I won't need it again. If you leave we will have to stalk you to see how you are doing, and you are so close to having your thyroid sorted and being back in the game. Take a break if you must, but promise you'll come back and report in. I TTC for 12 cycles for the baby I lost in September, then 5 cycles for the one I lost in March, so my BFP was a surprise this time, and if it has in any way made you feel worse I am so sorry sad. It is really hard to see people "jump the queue" but we are reserving a massive cheer for when you get your BFP.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 13:56:08

I know how you feel Thunder when I see newbies or people I was on the antenatal thread get BFP it really twists my gut. If you leave us, who will you have to hold your hand? I can't think of anything worse than being MNless through this! Nobody out here gets it!

Floweroct Fri 03-May-13 14:06:23

Thunder I've been here since December too! I know what you mean though I was on another thread on another forum for ttc and its so hard to see people come on and get a bfp in no time. I don't really go on it anymore, 20 months in and nothing to show for it sad But we'll be thinking of you if you do disappear.

Liking the new thread congrats to any bfps that I've missed at the end of the old thread. Here's hoping for a few more over the next month smile

OneLittleToddleTerror Fri 03-May-13 15:10:56

Checking in. I think we ended the last thread with lots of good news. Thunder I hope the bfp fairy dust will give you the good luck you needed.

I am not on the ttc buses anymore either. I've been trying since september. I know it's not long compared to others. I have two MCs to show for my efforts. I think DH and I haven't got problems getting bfp. But we have major problems with getting it to stick.

I went to the doctor surgery to talk about my haemoglobin levels today. I'm still anemic from all the blood loss I had from the mc. So I got more iron tablets. Have any of you been prescribed iron tablets? They make you constipated and give black stools. The constipation is even worse than the 1st trimester angry.

Anyway at the surger, I actually picked up a card for the fertility clinic sad. I know DH won't agree with me to go to seek help. But I'm actually feeling this low.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 15:18:43

OLTT apparently Berocca? Is good for an iron level boost.

OneLittleToddleTerror Fri 03-May-13 15:27:40

Saggy my red blood cell count was down to 90 (not sure what unit), from nearly 140 when took my bloods at 11 weeks. I'm on some heavy duty stuff prescribed by the doctors. It's 200mg ferrous sulphate, twice a day. The GP said I probably lost 3-4 pints of blood. I am thinking it must be more. I remember clots the size of sea breams coming out. (Sorry if it's TMI). The doctors and my DH thought it's funny I described the clots like fish. But they haven't seen how they bounce off the toilet bowl or pan when they came out! It's just like fish out of water.

However, the doctor did mention vitamin C can help with the absorption of iron. I bought some chewable vitamin C tablets on the way back to work. Now you mentioned it, I probably should have got berocca. It looks like it's got all the extra vitamins that I really should be having. And also a nice amount of folic acid. 366ug is nearly the amount we should be taking for ttc isn't it? I've stopped taking the pregnacare because it contains iron. I really don't want more of it.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 03-May-13 15:41:41

Lol@ sea bream! <<in a sympathetic way>> is it wrong to want to have seen that? confused
Sounds like you need all the help you can get!

Emki Fri 03-May-13 15:48:27

Floradix is good iron absorption too - I'm a veggie and have been advised to take it x

OneLittleToddleTerror Fri 03-May-13 16:02:57

It was really scary seeing how much blood I was losing. It was like a leaky tap, with occasion huge fish sized clots. I was given an IV drip because of the blood loss before my (emergency) ERPC. I never thought an MC could be so dangerous. My first MC was just like a bad period. I can't help thinking if I wasn't in a place like the UK (with good medical facilities), I could have died. I felt even stronger about the Indian who died in Ireland after a 4 day miscarrage. I know it wouldn't happen to me over there because my scan showed only an empty sac. But before this I couldn't have imagined how scary and serious this is.

Sorry for that rant. It's only 2 weeks since the ERPC so I still feel sad about it.

Looking on the bright side, it's a long weekend and I don't have work on Monday wine. And yes I could have some wine grin

Chipschipschips Fri 03-May-13 16:24:40

Hi, I MCd 11/04 so not sure when to POAS but I reckon if I don't come on by Fri 17/5 I'll do a test - what do you think?

Chipschipschips Fri 03-May-13 16:26:31

Also, what are people's views on drinking? Do you all stop around ovulation time?

OneLittleToddleTerror Fri 03-May-13 16:54:20

chips are you charting? Like bbt or ewcm? I learned from this thread anything is possible on cycle 0. Though myself was only 1 week late on my first mc. If you are charting then you could work on the principle that AF is due 14 days after ov.

I didn't stop drinking until bfp for DD. but after my first mc I stopped at ovulation because I got paranoid about it. I don't want to jinx anything. Didn't do me any good though as I had a second mc.

Sapphireday Fri 03-May-13 17:23:03

Do stay with us, Thunder, you'll be sorely missed otherwise.

OLTT when we first started ttc my DP was anti-infertility treatment - he's very 'Darwinian' and assumed that the genes weren't good enough to continue into the next generation if you couldn't conceive naturally. However the months passed with absolutely no sign of pregnancy and those initial somewhat superior thoughts were no longer voiced!

Anyway, we had to ttc for two years before a referral to the infertility clinic. It took a while to get treated, but after 3 years I finally got a bfp from my first cycle. Unfortunately the little one lost its stickiness in March, but were already on to our next cycle and full of hope. At least we know we can conceive now, which we had our doubts about.

Anyway, I guess what I'm trying to say is don't make assumptions about the response from your DH without talking to him, and there is help out there for all types of infertility problems. I appreciate that we have different problems but infertility specialists can work wonders - I work with a woman who has repeated miscarriages but managed to have a baby three years ago with lots of monitoring and injections (as well as having a son who is 10). You just need to put yourself in front of the specialists and get them to consider your specific fact pattern. Please don't give up hope yet!

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