The Elderberry Pavlovas, sausage bouquets, one giant sofa and the Gü pots of destiny! (thread 9)(994 Posts)
Come on ladies, this is the one! Time for some BFPs!
The smallprint- Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers)
would you like to snuggle under a quilt? I'm making one that I can't work out what to use it for, so maybe it should be for the sofa of pity... www.soliloquilt.blogspot.com
thunder chocolate? Really? I can't smell anything <wipes whipped cream moustache off surreptitiously>
I guess they'd just have to do the bloods every week and then refer back when a period starts. If they were sensible. Obviously they don't actually do that.
yorkie I shall put my super-duper-multi-coloured crib sheet up and then if anything on it is helpful for you pinch away!
Just phoned the gynae clinic
again They still haven't sent me an appointment to discuss blood results, and still don't know who I am or what I want when I phone up to see if they've chased it. It's only been 5 weeks after all <does the angry ANGRY dance>
Oooh tally LOVE it. It's a perfect pity sofa quilt/eclair-munching disguise!
Your quilts are lovely tally you are v creative. Yes yes I'll gladly snuggle under one as I'm cold!
Thanks v much peanut my appt have been moved to later on this afternoon now so am now sat on my sofa twiddling my thumbs
working very hard
That is just beautiful tally. I have been pondering whether to take up knitting or something as I spend a lot of time travelling on trains now & whilst I pretend I'm working I'm more likely just playing on my phone. It seems wrong to spend an hour & a half a day (at least) reading when I could be creating something.
yorkie I put the crib sheet up as a picture on my profile, it's not great quality but just about readable
Just had a phonecall back from the clinic. It was very snotty, Yes Mrs Nut we HAVE written to your doctor (they haven't) and Yes your results were normal (errr no they weren't) and Yes we WILL book you that scan we promised you of course we were going to do that
not and Yes we HAVE discharged you back to GP care but if you still aren't pregnant a year from NOW then the doctor will happily see you again.
Couldn't argue with her on the medical points because she's just the secretary. But still practically in tears on the phone. A year from now? I have to keep trying for another year before any bugger will give me a break??
Excuse me while I curl up and cry under tally's pity quilt...
Grrrr v annoyed for you peanut you must be so frustrated. Can you not ask to speak to the consultant directly about the results if you're not happy or have you already tried that one? I would still keep on phoning them about the scan until they are fed up of you asking and book it. Poor service...stoopid snotty secretary.
Err how do I view someone's profile as I have never done that before? I tried clicking on peanuts name but it won't let me do anything. Thanks!
Aww Peanut <<<hugs>>> Anyone would be upset by that. A flipping year?? All I can think is that these people who are so blase about TTC must not ever have experienced it first-, or second-hand. They just can't know the stranglehold TTC can take on a woman's life, relationship, career, friendships, familial relationships... hell we're only on thread 9 and have seen the angst caused in these areas, and there are maybe only 25 of us? No way could the receptionist be one of our tribe. If so she'd know the idea of another year of this is unthinkable.
Any chance she was just plain wrong? If she said your results were normal when they weren't, maybe she was giving you the wrong spiel?
thank you guys. I always curl up under a quilt now I make them. it makes everything just that bit cozier.
I don't do any fact hand stuff like knitting or crochet, but I suppose I could take a drop spindle with me to places if I really wanted to spin on the go. can't recommend anything for travelling really!
hugs peanut. that woman sounds like she needs a bit of time here on the thread for a bit of perspective. Here, have this Cadbury caramel bunny that the ladies in the office were eating and I sneaked out while they weren't looking.
peanut hope you're okay and thanks for your help earlier.
I went to my appt and I really can't fault the doctor. She was v young but so lovely and as soon as I explained everything she just said that she wanted to get some blood tests done for me and sa on DH. I asked her if thyroid was included as my mum has an underactive thyroid and she just added it to the blood test request no problem. She said that she would refer me in June if no luck before then or sooner if I wanted to come back before June. She said they are normally told 18 months ttc before referral but that she wasn't going to count the months.
peanut that is shite. Firstly that kind of rudeness is just not neccessary and is totally out of whack, particularly considering the subject matter. Secondly a year is just not acceptable. So what- they look harder if you go back in a year's time or something? Look harder now you idiots.
tally if she came on this thread she would get her arse kicked!
yorkie hooray! A helpful real person doctor! So when are the tests? Normally bloods come back pretty quick.
I know! I went in ready to argue my points and she was just so nice. I'm not used to it either as have had some truly hideous doctors that just make me cry and feel like a naughty teenager.
I'm on cd 4 at the mo so will be going in a few weeks as having a progesterone test. she said that because my cycles can be shorter I should go earlier so cd18 I guess. I'm really pleased she understood that as I know some people here have had a hard time persuading their doctors that a cd21 test is not necessarily suitable for their cycle length.
hi everyone. marking my place for this months trial!
cd 10 here. so far dtd 7,8 and will do 10,11 then eod after that
til we can't be bothered cd 21!
my update- cycle 16, fertility checks in progress, next appointment June...
on the plus side I have signed up for race for life 10k again this yr so am upping my running which will give me something else to think about for a while!
bunny thanks for new thread!
boombastic lol at your 'crib'. I tend to have notes on my iphone. Each time I see the FC, she roles her eyes when I take out my phone as she knows whats coming grrr
ttc 23 months, no real reason other than dh morph slightly low. iui hopefully starting June. Ironic pre IUI BFP due as a result of hol to Thailand next month!
Aw hugs peanut. I think there is some special training course where they teach medical receptionists & secretaries to be absolutely vile. At my drs you have to cry on the phone to get the heartless cows to let you see the doctor.
<leaves the sofa humming Shaggy lyrics & showing her age after blinds interpretation of peanut's name>
Thanks for the sympathy everyone (and for the choc bunny tally - it has been snaffled!) I think I was just upset because basically she said everything I didn't want to hear. Have GP appt in the morning so will raise all my concerns then and see if I can't get something moving. A new FB pregnancy announcement from a coursemate just made the whole thing even worse so had a breakdown. Off to the gym now to punch something.
yorkie glad your doctor is not an evil robot! x
frog ref reflex, I started mapping my cycles about a year ago, they were pretty varied as you can see - 30, 33, 36, 35, 28, 31, 31, started reflex 29, 29, 29, 28 - it also helps with my IBS and I just feel more relaxed. I found mine via a recommendation from a friend when I asked saying it was for IBS, it was only after I booked that I realised she specialised in fertility!
Peanut Nope i didn't, I'm too scared!
Thunder I recommend reflexology for regulating cycles too!
frog tbf 'bombastic' is waaaaay better than 'peanut'. It even has its own theme tune!!!!!
peanut Sorry to hear your fc was shit! The same thing happened to my friend who has ended up going private. I slag my fc off but I know I should be grateful that she hasn't discharged me
Quiet in here tonight (stretches out on sofa and puts feet up) has everyone gone to watch the fab Broadchurch?!?
Oh I see. I go off to put everything I own in boxes and you all nick off to a new thread.
IVF appointment tomorrow but I think AF will be here too. Moving out of our house on Thursday and into the new on Saturday.
Haven't read the end of the last thread, how is Merk?
Have you got clothes on, bunny? <peeks through fingers>
Gosh busy week pip, how's the packing going? merk is quiet at the mo so you didnt miss owt I don't think.
Evening all bunch up for a very elder berry (38)
TTC cycle 6 although haven't really been counting, married 4 years. CD11 temping and OPK no sign of Ov this cycle yet. Hoping to try reflexology. Words of wisdom from doctor "get on with it and come back see me in 6 months"
Busy day at work, spent all lunchtime trying to ignore/cajole/assist a child in my class who was screaming and wailing at me. I've got the water-off-a-duck's-back response down to a tee now..... Would have been more helpful to actually have managed to mark some of the literacy books rather than merely attempting to while studiously ignoring the two-year-old temper tantrum from the eight year old girl. Oh well. Fingers crossed tomorrow morning is better and I have lunchtime to get work done rather than tend to more tantrums.
mrs bombastic Peanut I think you deserved a tantrum today, I know I would have had one after that phone call
Off to have a bath. Still in running kit having returned home from my run and immediately had dinner followed by long conversation with friend who has been ttc longer than me (she of the 6 week non-stop period that has thankfully stopped now) then emailing photos of my mate's kids to her that I took at the weekend. Bath now then bed. Apologies for skim reading but still not recovered from the 5am wake up yesterday morning followed by another day on the beach + long drive home + planning!!
<starts up the stairs knowing what song is going to be going round and round her head as she lies in the bath..... mr lover lover, oooo..... >
Evening! I feel a lot better now that I've spent an hour beating stuff up. Going to take all my 'evidence' to the GP tomorrow and possibly also take DH as he's meaner than me
and isn't constantly dissolving into puddles of sissy tears and might get a better result. FX that I can get some sort of explanation as to what the hell is going on.
Frog nothing like a bit of Shaggy to inspire a NC...
Cate docs are rubbish. They need a 5 yr degree to dispense this advice? Really?
Blind sadly it wasn't even the fc, it was gynae clinic, FC is just a distant dream still - at this rate I won't be referred until 2020!
Just rescued a lady who'd run out of petrol on the way back from the gym. Feeling like a good samaritan for driving her to the petrol station and back and pushing her car off the road
Bunny feeling hopeful at all?
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