From egg to egghausted. The journey part one!(243 Posts)
I thought I'd start a Fred here documenting the first part of the eggs movements. Now, before I actually start I'll just say I'm not even yet pregnant so I'll babble on about every wasted egg too! I'm not obsessed but find writing things down easier than telling my already bored with a glazed over look on his face, husband. Im not asking you to reply but it would be fab if anyone would and welcome added input from everyone, whether you're TTC, already pregnant, or interested in reading about someone else's current efforts to get up duffed!
Right, are we all sitting comfortably? Then I'll begin.
A little about me. 30, married for 5 years, been together longer than a decade and came off pill jan 1st in anticipation. Taking folic acid amongst other vits and generally doing my very best to entice the swimmers into signing a 9 month tenency agreement. Husband is also 30 and trying not to get too excited as he knows as soon as he does, I'll be! Then it all goes to pot.
Ok, so as I've said jan 1st came off pill expecting to a)either fall pg straight away or b) take a good few months to really get back into the swing of things. I've been on the pill since I was 15 so was pleasantly surprised I went straight back into a 28 day cycle. Thought it may be a fluke, but no, feb saw the same activity! Then came march!! March bloody madness more like.
This month I'm a baby making looney tune! My body has led me down every emotional pathway, tricking me into thinking I'm pg. 2 tests later, both BFN I now imagine its getting me back for 15 years of no PMS symptoms! I've had them all.
It started with a
kiss being so bloated that I resembled aunt petunia after Harry blew her up, working its way to wind that would rival the saharan summer nights, boobs are wonky, massive hard and itchy nips. I've felt the ovaries release, the ( in my imagination) implantation pain which was awful, the spotting, could be cataracts and seeing things, the nausea... Cooking mistakes and the crying at the smallest things, thousand hint OBEM last night was not helpful.
I've got the blue veins showing in the boob and so much CM I feel like I'm on a slip'n'slide (tmi)!
I've even got the stuffy nose and (grasping at straws here) its apparently a pg sign...albeit a small one. Who knew?
So AF is due to visit tomorrow should my 28 day cycle carry on, she's coming for 4 days making herself a general PITA but no pain, no gain eh? So for the next 4 days I'll be a sweaty, crampy, moaning harpie and after that expect OH to fancy me again.
Sorry if you've lost interested or I've killed a thread before even starting, but I'll keep at it and hopefully it'll pick up, turn into something more exciting or provide a place for others to say 'hey that happened to me too'.
See you on t'uther side.
A bit overemotional today as I was at a hospital (for a routine appointment, nothing exciting!) and suddenly thought, will I ever be here on the maternity ward?! I try to keep positive and busy but really all I want to know is if/ when I will fall PG. OH and I managed to DTD 3 times this month on the right days, not that he knows that of course as he is a man and oblivious to these things!, but now I'm symptom spotting like mad despite trying not to...... had period-like cramps for the past couple of days but I'm only at CD21 and usually AF is 25 to 28 days, so it's a bit early even for me. I can only imagine that I've done myself a mischief with the running or AF is going to arrive early this month
Soooooo, whilst logically I know I PROBABLY will be able to have kids - and if there's a problem with either me or OH then again, something can PROBABLY be done to help - emotionally I am just fed up and stressed about the whole thing.
Aaarrrgghhh. My head is far too busy, think my brain is working overtime!!
Sorry all for the little rant, just needed to let off some steam xx
Hey ruby! Sorry to hear you are feeling low. FX for you this month. We only managed twice at the relevant time and predictably af arrived today. Crappity.
I do hope your DH does NOT go to india with Eeevil cow! Jesus i would go ballistic!! Total deal breaker for me.
trying to put more effort into dtd this month. Can't believe i am on cycle 4 already! All been a bit half hearted though so far.
My DH is also oblivious to the workings of the female body. He actually said 'can you try to have twins?' errrrr??? Wtf? My friend did so he asked how she managed it .....6 yrs of trying naturally, injecting herself with hormones ivf......doh.
Other friend is due in 3 weeks. Babies everywhere!
Ah thanks Notta, and good luck for you this time too. I still have the crampy pains, but will just have to wait till next week to find out, far too early for any tests to be worthwhile. Is it horrible to say I'd also like to be PG so I get a year off work?! I really, really hate it at the moment but don't feel that it's worth leaving as we do get a good maternity leave package - bugger.
LOL men eh, oblivious to the workings of the female body AND mind...... your OH did make me chuckle with his twins request!! And as for mine, he has NO IDEA how ballistic I will go if he goes ahead with his plans for happy hols with Evil Cow. Luckily I think his mum will be on my side as I don't think she likes EC either and definitely doesn't like her nightmare children - heh heh.
I'm trying to make myself a 'countdown to 2014' plan which involves losing a stone - needs to be done as (hopefully) next year the GP would refer us for more tests if nothing's happened on the PG front, and at that point they'd tell me to lose some lard anyway. Been for a run tonight and will be joining the gym on Monday. Wish me luck!!
AF arrived today CD25 for me this time - it's been between 25 and 28 days for a while now, but I'm still sad as I was really hopeful this month - timing was right, odd pains etc. I know we've only been TTC for 6 months really, and not 'properly' for a couple of those (OH not understanding about correct timing of these things!) but it feels like bloody forever. If I hear one more 'it happened first time for us' smug story from any friends/ people at work I think I will blub in front of them.....
Sorry af got you ruby it doesn't normally happen first go as all those people seem to suggest. I think most of us know that by now! They think they are being helpful along with the 'it will happen soon enough' comments, and the 'are you not thinking of having one/another one?' They aren't helping and I have to admit I was probably one of those people until I actually started ttc and know just how it feels! I was lucky in that dh understood there was only a small window in which to catch it
after I'd explained to him how us ladies bodies work , although that didnt always make things any easier. It still took us 4 months of properly trying before it happened.
How long is your luetal phase on a 25 day cycle?
Thanks Bart and thank you for the advice. Do you know, I have been wondering about the short LP, as the CBFM gives me a peak around day 15/16 and then I only have 10 days or so until AF arrives. Don't entirely understand it though so will have to do some more MN research - ie how do I know if I do have it and if I do, what can be done?! OPKs never work for me as I drink lots of water but maybe I will try temping.....
Today I plucked up the courage to make a doctor's appointment, only to find out that I can't get one till Friday morning anyway!! It was really getting me down today as AF is dragging on and on without properly starting (sorry if TMI!) - just spotting since Friday, which probably means it will go on for a few days yet. At least last month was only 4 days even if it was very heavy at one point
I did go to my gym induction, which was useful if painful, and have bought some proper pregnancy vitamins rather than the Superdrug multivitamins I've been having. Did notice that the pregnancy care ones have a high level of vitamin B6 which reading up on the luteal phase issue, may make a difference? But who knows really - am hoping the GP can help on Friday. Even rang NHS Direct for advice only to find they don't exist any more, I'm obviously behind the times!
I hope the doctor has some answers for you on Friday. I've read that a luetal phase of less than 10 days isn't good. So 10 or more should be ok. I know there is a vitamin I've heard some of the other ladies mention, possibly the b6, but I'm not totally sure. If you have a look on the conception board there is normally plenty on there about it.
Well done on making a start on the gym though. You will feel lots better when you start making some progress with that. At least it is one aspect of our lives that we have some control over. I've been getting out of breath just going up our 2 flights of stairs!
I had my scan today and baby seems all ok. Just the one in there. And been put forward a day to 13 weeks today which is what I expected based on ovulation.
I really hope the doctor can help you on Friday
Any luck at the doctors ruby ? How are you doing?
Hey bart! Sorry for the long absence, nothing serious found at the doctors, have just had a stinky cold and lack of brainpower the doctor was lovely actually, it was a young Asian lady - listened to all my grumbles and has arranged some more blood tests for me - I told her about my short luteal phase worries and she confirmed that the day 21 blood tests are 7 days dpo and not day 21 as such. So now I just have to trust that my CBFM will show me when I OV and I can quickly book an afternoon off a week later to go for blood tests. Sod's law says it's at the weekend though!
The doctor did think it was also stress-related, hence why I keep coming down with bugs; work is bloody awful at the moment, I would think about moving but then obviously I wouldn't get as much maternity pay, so am a bit stuck. OH has been stressed too which probably doesn't help. Work eh, where's a lottery win when we need it?! I have a reflexology appointment tomorrow which hopefully will help.....
Hope all is ok with you! xx
I hope you enjoyed your reflexology session I've never done anything like that. Just had the odd massage and that's about it. I'd love to try hypnotherapy to de with my ridiculous spider phobia. I have lots of family in Australia and the spider thing alone puts me off going. Apart from the lack of money obviously
I'm glad the doctor was nice for you aswell. It really does make a difference if you get someone that actually listens to you. I went to see an Asian lady doctor about my short af's, then fell pg the month after! Hopefully your bloods will come back ok aswell.
The work thing really is a tricky one. I get what you mean about wanting to stay there for the extra maternity. Do you get a good package where you are now? I left my job the month before they decided they were closing the site and were offering redundancies. Although I would have had to stay working an extra 6 months or so to actuall get it, and I hated it that much it wouldn't have been worth staying for the extra money anyway! So I'm glad I left when I did.
Things are ok here with me. Although I decided to stop my sickness tablets this week, I've managed to stop them, but felt pretty awful all week and been sick probably 4 out of 6 days! I don't think it was helped by the fact that dh has been away in London working all week so I've been home alone with ds, and I've had nasty cold aswell. So in hindsight probably not the best week to stop! But at least I've done it!
We've got a private scan booked for 2 weeks time to find out the gender I really can't wait! And it was only £79, and ds can come with us aswell as it's on a weekend. I also saw the consultant aswell and she said they want to do extra scans aswell at 26 and 30 weeks to check the baby's growth, as ds was quite small for full term. He we 6lb 8oz which I didn't realise was that small but I'm happy with the extra scans anyway!
Hope you have a good weekend
Hi Bart! How are things going with you - are you feeling any better now?
I'm due to go for the blood tests on Monday (which I think will be 8 days DPO, but otherwise I'd wait another month without being able to do anything!) - to be honest I haven't given it much thought over the past few days, as work has been hellish and it's consumed all my time. Wednesday was particularly bad - had the MD (my line manager) on the phone having a go at me for issues which weren't my fault - and I suddenly thought, why am I doing this?! Went to the doctors, blood pressure was high again, went back yesterday morning and have been signed off for a week. Did a big handover to the HR manager this morning but pointed out that one of the issues is that there IS no-one to take over work for me or cover when I'm off! So I'm using the time constructively, have updated my CV, visited a few agencies today and applied for some jobs online.
Phew..... Wednesday was a really bad day, sobbed for hours, but am feeling more positive now. The maternity pay is quite decent where I am but I just don't feel like I can be there any more, and maybe that's a factor which isn't helping when I'm TTC, the nice Asian doctor suggested as much and also the doctor did yesterday.
I think OH is worried too that his sperm count may be low; he hasn't said as much but as my tests have come back normal, the next step would be for him to have a test. He did have one a few years ago and everything was ok but since then he's put on weight, does less exercise etc. My next plan is to persuade him to go for another test, as if there IS something wrong, then we can go back to the GP and go from there - once we know what the issue is (or if there even is an issue!) there might be more help they can offer.
Sorry, I have rambled on, been meaning to email for a while but have been a sobbing mess!! I hope everything is good with you! xx
Hi ruby I am finally starting to feel better now thanks. Still not great, but only feel sick a few times throughout the day. Much better than all day long! I find if I get hungry it's worse. So I have to try not to get too hungry.
How is the job hunting going? I hope you are enjoying your time off and I hope you are feeling a bit better now.
I can understand your dh being concerned about the sperm test. Naturally if things with you are ok, he would assume the problem must lie with him. But I agree the sooner you can find out, the sooner you can start doing something about it. They can do all sorts these days so it doesn't have to be a massive problem. And there might not even be anything wrong with him. Sometimes life is just shit and these things take longer than normal. But at least you will know xx
Hi Bart! Week off was lovely thank you, going back to deal with my manager less so - oh, that man makes me so unmotivated and fed up. BUT, I may have an interview for a new job soon, so fingers crossed! Realistically I would only be staying where I am for the maternity pay, and as it doesn't look like that will be needed any time soon, I'm keen to pack up and go.....
How are things with you?
Haven't spoken to OH yet about sperm test, but on the bright side, we did see eye to eye (for once!!) about Evil Cow..... showed me his receipt for paying for her kids' school dinners - £180 until the end of term!! To which I said, that's very nice of you do that, but why are YOU paying for HER kids to have school dinners..... turns out that she did have the money, but chose to spend it on booze, fags and coke rather than her own kids' food. Disgusting. Anyhow, it's given me a great reason for saying she's a horrible person, and he can't disagree with that one!
Blimey I'm tired, have Friday off work and can't wait for a lie in. How sad..... hope all is good with you xx
ruby so glad you enjoyed your week off. And fingers crossed or that interview
What a horrible mother the Evil Cow is! Really shocking that she is expecting you and your dh to pay for their school meals while she wastes her money. Some people just don't deserve kids. Hopefully your dh is starting to see her for what she really is!
Things are good with me thanks. Sickness still comes and goes but it's lots better than it has been as long as I don't get hungry. We also had our gender scan at the weekend, and it's a girl!! The little monkey had her legs crossed pretty much the whole time though so it took a walk round and some good looking to find what we needed. But we got there in the end and the bloke doing the scan said he wouldn't have told us if he wasn't sure. Can't quite believe it
Congratulations on your little girl!! Have you picked out any names yet?
No news on my interview yet, but my MD is being nice as pie - makes me wonder if someone from HR had a word with him. He keeps asking to have a 'catch up' with me, but quite frankly I'd rather never speak to him again; thankfully he's not often in the office.
OH has taken Evil Cow and her nightmare children out swimming this afternoon - think he's feeling guilty that he doesn't see as much of the kids as he used to - he was saying the other day that at least he bought them all Merlin passes so Evil Cow can take them for cheap days out, until I pointed out that she doesn't take them out at all, she'd rather HE took them so HE can drive and HE can pay for everything. The choice this afternoon was between swimming with them or going into town to buy OH some athlete's foot powder - I chose the trip to Boots
Must remember to phone my GP actually about my CD21 blood test results (I actually had it on CD23 in the end as the nice doctor said to go 7 days DPO). Didn't get to go for the CD3/4 test as of course that fell on a weekend, how irritating! Been looking into the short luteal phase issue and have bought some vitamin B50 from Holland & Barrett, but not sure when to take it as yet, have posted on another thread for some advice.....
Oh, and I haven't pushed the issue about the sperm test again - TBH I still think he doesn't want to think that that might be an issue - but I will try to. Spent yesterday with my friend and her 4 year old DS and was constantly asked when I would be having a baby!! Aaarggghhhh
How are you doing ruby ?
Things are ok with me. Pretty much the same. Sickness lots better if I eat lots but still very tired all the time. Luckily ds is at full time school so can nap sometimes during the day if I need to
which is most days at the minute
We've had a think about names but not decided yet. We were set on Holly for a while but both changed our minds. We also liked Abigail and went of that aswell! Dh has suggested a few that he likes - Alexandra (but I don't like the shortened versions), Sasha, Nina, Anna and Alyssa. I'm not keen on some of them but so far the front runner is Elena with Ellie as the nickname. I like cuter names for when they are kids but also something that is good as an older persons name aswell. It's so hard!