Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 5

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Hoping the new thread brings a plethora of BFPs and lots of healthy arrivals!

Bunnytheeggrobat Thu 17-Apr-14 07:48:09

Pixie - are you there?!!!

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 03-Jan-14 06:38:49

It's a shame this thread has gone quiet I have been on it for two years and all posters helped me through 3 mc's - hope everyone comes back soon .....

Tadpole2013 Sat 21-Dec-13 21:22:56

Hayley. Sorry for your loss. And still, congratulations on the little one doing so well.
Congratulations Pixie!
(I come back every now and then to remind me that life goes on).

But now I would just like to hide here, please?
I'm back on the forums after having 'timed-out' to just chill.
Mc back in June and was beginning to feel like I was losing it.
So I relaxed. Enjoyed life a little.
Then it caught me off guard. AF late.
After waiting since Wednesday I finally bought a test today thinking to test tomorrow morning. A 10euro test!
Now very light bleeding.
Seriously?! Just before Christmas?!

Redbird12 Wed 18-Dec-13 00:27:24

So sorry to hear of your loss Hayley. Do give yourself some time to grieve for your baby, i know you're still pregnant but being told you're expecting twins means you start making plans (even if just in your head) for 2. I guess you have very mixed emotions now - happy to know one's doing well but so sad that the other didnt make it.

Like pixie you're now past the riskiest period so here's hoping for a healthy pregnancy now with a happy outcome.

justhayley Tue 17-Dec-13 22:25:52

Hiya,
I went for a 2nd private scan yesterday & unfortunately twin 2 wasn't strong enough and didn't make it. Twin 1 is doing really well and we got to hear the heartbeat.
Its a really strange feeling because I don't feel the same as my MC in September because I'm still pregnant but have still lost 1. I'm really upset but am trying to focus on the fact that I still have 1 healthy baby and that in itself is a blessing.
In a way I wish I hadn't gone for an early scan, as if I hadn't and would have just waited for my 12 week one I would have never have known I had 2 to start with.

Where I am a private scan costs £75 during the week or £90 at weekends, I had a voucher so got it for £60 smile

Good luck to everyone ttc or pregnant.
I'm slightly starting to calm Down now uv passed 8 weeks but it's been really emotional & harder than I thought being pregnant so soon after MC

Redbird12 Tue 17-Dec-13 21:52:38

Sorry i havent been on here much recently, 12 week old DS now keeping me busy fsmile

Pixie so happy to hear your news, many congratulations and keeping everything crossed for you. Getting past 8 weeks is a really good sign.
Also congrats to hayley and mabel, fingers crossed for you as well. I lost twins last year so hoping you have a better outcome hayley, mine were identical and sharing a sac i believe which makes them high risk as one cant survive without the other. You mentioned that yours are in separate sacs so i dont think you have this risk. Really hope everything is ok with both little ones.

Ruth, a private scan can cost between £50 and £100, either at a clinic or by paying a private consultant. As well as being able to get an earlier scan, i found it more comforting as they will spend longer with you and you can also generally get an appointment at short notice and at more convenient times eg evenings and weekends.

Even after 2 MMC's, i couldnt get an early scan on the NHS although i think this may vary dependent on what area you are living in. With DS, i had 2 private scans, one at 6 weeks and one at 9 weeks as i needed that reassurance. I saw the consultant who had done both my ERPC's as he did private appointments at the NHS hospital in the evenings.

ruth1104 Fri 13-Dec-13 23:34:45

Thanks pixie and fingers crossed for you!! Hopefully everything works out for you this time. How much does a scan cost if you are paying for it privately?

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 13-Dec-13 20:41:04

Hi ladies sorry you find yourself here and as much as you try not to worry it will never go away sad

mabel one day at a time .... Today you are pregnant x

ruth I had my first mc at 6 weeks - light bleeding that got progressively worse on a Wednesday - I was booked for a scan at the local EPU on the Friday - by that time I had lost all the baby, the scan confirmed this. I fell pg with my 2nd mc I called the EPU and was booked in for a 6 week scan straightaway (luckily my local EPU offers early reassurance scans that you can self refer to) my third was an mmc again picked up at an early scan - each time I have had no midwife involvement.

Four weeks ago I got another bfp and have been worried about going for a scan as they always give me bad news sad but this time there was a heartbeat and she confirmed 8+2 smile I was told I will have another dating scan at 12 wks but if I feel anxious I can give them a call at any time and go in for another scan - unfortunately other ladies on here will tell you they are not so lucky but most places will give you a private scan.

Hope that helps smile

ruth1104 Fri 13-Dec-13 14:49:13

Hello ladies, I'm new to this thread. Congrats to everyone just finding out they're pregnant! Fingers crossed for your twins hayley

I am definitely not ready to start ttc yet - MC at 5 weeks a week ago. But I have some questions for those of you who are about what happens... I didn't go to hospital, only saw a triage nurse when the bleeding started and afterwards - everything happened very very quickly so I knew the little bean was gone.

But when you are pregnant after a miscarriage, will they give you an early scan? If not, can you pay for one? Can you book in early with the midwife so you've got someone to phone? The thought of being pregnant again is quite scary, I think I'd need some extra hand holding but since this was my first pregnancy and I didn't get to the stage of seeing a midwife, I'd like to know what to expect. Thank you! xx

Mabelandrose Thu 12-Dec-13 19:42:34

Can I join please. I'm pregnant again, straight after mmc in September. I don't want to tempt fate by contacting a midwife for a while. I think I will see how things go. It's so early. I feel silly even saying I'm pregnant out loud.

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 11-Dec-13 21:46:50

Sorry witches welcome I'm sorry you find yourself here - I too was hoping to see more on here as I'm really shit at giving advice blush hazchem how are you getting on?

hayley two babies OMG fingers crossed for you smile

Afm we gave in and had a reassurance scan this morning and we have a heatbeat smile smile smile we haven't got this far before

Witchesbrewandbiscuits Wed 11-Dec-13 17:18:24

hmm have I killed this thread?

Witchesbrewandbiscuits Thu 05-Dec-13 18:40:15

hi can I join? ive had 2 mmc's and have recently been diagnosed with fibroids. got a follow up with gp soon and hoping it is treatable and I can start ttc again.

justhayley Tue 03-Dec-13 21:33:29

Ooo pixie that will have to be my daily mantra Today I AM pregnant smile
Got more news since last post, I went for an early scan & 2sacs were visible! Twin 2 wasn't as developed as twin 1 so there is a chance that I will MC one, however It could also equally develop & be fine. FX! I have to wait a week (it's already been a week) and get another scan to see if there are 0,1, or hopefully 2 heartbeats!
Iv been freaking out a bit, I'm so scared of loosing 1. This sounds odd but if I have twins it's as though my MC was meant to be as I was supposed to be having 2 next year. Don't want to go through another loss. The wait is literally driving me insane!

hazchem Mon 02-Dec-13 00:51:52

Can I join in here please?

I had a D&C on the 20th of November. Dr has said to wait for 2 periods but OH and I decided to start TTC straight away. I feel a bit mad about doing that but am hoping it will help give me some perspective to stop punishing my body by over eating!

I've got one DS and fell pregnant quickly both times. I guess I'm nervous this time because I think I'll find those first few week really anxious.

When would I test if I had a D&C should I just add 28 days? Which is pretty much my cycle.

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 26-Nov-13 20:59:14

Oh forgot to say my EDD is my first wedding anniversary smile hope it's a good sign

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 26-Nov-13 20:42:51

Hi hessy welcome and I'm sorry you have found yourself here sad unfortunately on here we have all been in the same boat so you are in great company x

hayley I have been checking in waiting to hear from you smile smile today you ARE pregnant!!

AFM I'm 5+2 and worrying everyday. After my first mc I have had an early reassurance scan for the last 2 pgs but both have ended badly - DH and I have decided to let nature take its course. I haven't managed to get past 10 weeks so will contact the GP once I get (fx) past that point shock I know I must be mad but I don't think I can go through through the dildo cam again and be told 'I'm sorry your pregnancy is not progressing' am I utterly crazy?

justhayley Mon 25-Nov-13 22:32:01

smilesmilesmile hi all just wanted to update you - I got a BFP on Friday. So happy but feel as though I can't get excited yet. I'm so frightened of having another MC. Really want to enjoy my pregnancy even at this early stage but finding it harder than I thought I would. By LMP I'm 6 weeks today although by conception date I'm more likely 5+2/3.
When I had my MC GP said the nx time I conceive I should get an early scan at 6 weeks. Called straight away on Friday and can't get an appointment until December 5th which seems forever away.

Hessy Sun 24-Nov-13 15:52:20

Just to say hello. My mmc was in October. I was desperate to conceive before my first AF after mc as I couldn't bear the finality of knowing I definitely wasn't pregnant anymore (stupid as the mc was horrific and clearly there was no doubt).

That's all. Just saying hello.smile

oo00PIXIE00oo Thu 21-Nov-13 23:56:45

Thanks jolly fingers crossed for tomorrow hayley

justhayley Thu 21-Nov-13 23:55:48

So today I found out my friend is pregnant with twins, & my very best friend is currently in labour - not effecting me at all obviously been insanely jealous & in a bad mood totally excited all daysmile.
Testing in the morning & am crazy nervous

Jollyb Thu 21-Nov-13 21:07:50

Good luck for tomorrow

Jollyb Thu 21-Nov-13 21:07:15

Pixie yay!!!!!!!!

Welcome Hayley too.

justhayley Thu 21-Nov-13 00:06:34

Thanks for the welcome and CONGRATULATIONS pixie grin hope this baby is the one you get to cuddle. You must be so excited/nervous/petrified!
Hope your doing ok keep us updated xxx

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 20-Nov-13 19:58:13

Thanks jass smile

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