Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 5

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Hoping the new thread brings a plethora of BFPs and lots of healthy arrivals!

justhayley Tue 03-Dec-13 21:33:29

Ooo pixie that will have to be my daily mantra Today I AM pregnant smile
Got more news since last post, I went for an early scan & 2sacs were visible! Twin 2 wasn't as developed as twin 1 so there is a chance that I will MC one, however It could also equally develop & be fine. FX! I have to wait a week (it's already been a week) and get another scan to see if there are 0,1, or hopefully 2 heartbeats!
Iv been freaking out a bit, I'm so scared of loosing 1. This sounds odd but if I have twins it's as though my MC was meant to be as I was supposed to be having 2 next year. Don't want to go through another loss. The wait is literally driving me insane!

Witchesbrewandbiscuits Thu 05-Dec-13 18:40:15

hi can I join? ive had 2 mmc's and have recently been diagnosed with fibroids. got a follow up with gp soon and hoping it is treatable and I can start ttc again.

Witchesbrewandbiscuits Wed 11-Dec-13 17:18:24

hmm have I killed this thread?

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 11-Dec-13 21:46:50

Sorry witches welcome I'm sorry you find yourself here - I too was hoping to see more on here as I'm really shit at giving advice blush hazchem how are you getting on?

hayley two babies OMG fingers crossed for you smile

Afm we gave in and had a reassurance scan this morning and we have a heatbeat smile smile smile we haven't got this far before

Mabelandrose Thu 12-Dec-13 19:42:34

Can I join please. I'm pregnant again, straight after mmc in September. I don't want to tempt fate by contacting a midwife for a while. I think I will see how things go. It's so early. I feel silly even saying I'm pregnant out loud.

ruth1104 Fri 13-Dec-13 14:49:13

Hello ladies, I'm new to this thread. Congrats to everyone just finding out they're pregnant! Fingers crossed for your twins hayley

I am definitely not ready to start ttc yet - MC at 5 weeks a week ago. But I have some questions for those of you who are about what happens... I didn't go to hospital, only saw a triage nurse when the bleeding started and afterwards - everything happened very very quickly so I knew the little bean was gone.

But when you are pregnant after a miscarriage, will they give you an early scan? If not, can you pay for one? Can you book in early with the midwife so you've got someone to phone? The thought of being pregnant again is quite scary, I think I'd need some extra hand holding but since this was my first pregnancy and I didn't get to the stage of seeing a midwife, I'd like to know what to expect. Thank you! xx

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 13-Dec-13 20:41:04

Hi ladies sorry you find yourself here and as much as you try not to worry it will never go away sad

mabel one day at a time .... Today you are pregnant x

ruth I had my first mc at 6 weeks - light bleeding that got progressively worse on a Wednesday - I was booked for a scan at the local EPU on the Friday - by that time I had lost all the baby, the scan confirmed this. I fell pg with my 2nd mc I called the EPU and was booked in for a 6 week scan straightaway (luckily my local EPU offers early reassurance scans that you can self refer to) my third was an mmc again picked up at an early scan - each time I have had no midwife involvement.

Four weeks ago I got another bfp and have been worried about going for a scan as they always give me bad news sad but this time there was a heartbeat and she confirmed 8+2 smile I was told I will have another dating scan at 12 wks but if I feel anxious I can give them a call at any time and go in for another scan - unfortunately other ladies on here will tell you they are not so lucky but most places will give you a private scan.

Hope that helps smile

ruth1104 Fri 13-Dec-13 23:34:45

Thanks pixie and fingers crossed for you!! Hopefully everything works out for you this time. How much does a scan cost if you are paying for it privately?

Redbird12 Tue 17-Dec-13 21:52:38

Sorry i havent been on here much recently, 12 week old DS now keeping me busy fsmile

Pixie so happy to hear your news, many congratulations and keeping everything crossed for you. Getting past 8 weeks is a really good sign.
Also congrats to hayley and mabel, fingers crossed for you as well. I lost twins last year so hoping you have a better outcome hayley, mine were identical and sharing a sac i believe which makes them high risk as one cant survive without the other. You mentioned that yours are in separate sacs so i dont think you have this risk. Really hope everything is ok with both little ones.

Ruth, a private scan can cost between £50 and £100, either at a clinic or by paying a private consultant. As well as being able to get an earlier scan, i found it more comforting as they will spend longer with you and you can also generally get an appointment at short notice and at more convenient times eg evenings and weekends.

Even after 2 MMC's, i couldnt get an early scan on the NHS although i think this may vary dependent on what area you are living in. With DS, i had 2 private scans, one at 6 weeks and one at 9 weeks as i needed that reassurance. I saw the consultant who had done both my ERPC's as he did private appointments at the NHS hospital in the evenings.

justhayley Tue 17-Dec-13 22:25:52

Hiya,
I went for a 2nd private scan yesterday & unfortunately twin 2 wasn't strong enough and didn't make it. Twin 1 is doing really well and we got to hear the heartbeat.
Its a really strange feeling because I don't feel the same as my MC in September because I'm still pregnant but have still lost 1. I'm really upset but am trying to focus on the fact that I still have 1 healthy baby and that in itself is a blessing.
In a way I wish I hadn't gone for an early scan, as if I hadn't and would have just waited for my 12 week one I would have never have known I had 2 to start with.

Where I am a private scan costs £75 during the week or £90 at weekends, I had a voucher so got it for £60 smile

Good luck to everyone ttc or pregnant.
I'm slightly starting to calm Down now uv passed 8 weeks but it's been really emotional & harder than I thought being pregnant so soon after MC

Redbird12 Wed 18-Dec-13 00:27:24

So sorry to hear of your loss Hayley. Do give yourself some time to grieve for your baby, i know you're still pregnant but being told you're expecting twins means you start making plans (even if just in your head) for 2. I guess you have very mixed emotions now - happy to know one's doing well but so sad that the other didnt make it.

Like pixie you're now past the riskiest period so here's hoping for a healthy pregnancy now with a happy outcome.

Tadpole2013 Sat 21-Dec-13 21:22:56

Hayley. Sorry for your loss. And still, congratulations on the little one doing so well.
Congratulations Pixie!
(I come back every now and then to remind me that life goes on).

But now I would just like to hide here, please?
I'm back on the forums after having 'timed-out' to just chill.
Mc back in June and was beginning to feel like I was losing it.
So I relaxed. Enjoyed life a little.
Then it caught me off guard. AF late.
After waiting since Wednesday I finally bought a test today thinking to test tomorrow morning. A 10euro test!
Now very light bleeding.
Seriously?! Just before Christmas?!

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 03-Jan-14 06:38:49

It's a shame this thread has gone quiet I have been on it for two years and all posters helped me through 3 mc's - hope everyone comes back soon .....

Bunnytheeggrobat Thu 17-Apr-14 07:48:09

Pixie - are you there?!!!

oo00PIXIE00oo Thu 01-May-14 19:40:28

Hi bunny I check in occasionally smile

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