Right, that's it! Fabulous Forty Somethings ttc want our bfp's and we want them now! We have waited long enough!

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hopefulgum Tue 05-Mar-13 09:51:11

Here's our shiney new thread. The one where I finally get upduffed with everyone else! smile

Irishmammybread Wed 15-May-13 22:54:51

Green that's fantastic news, you must feel so relieved.
I was wondering how you'd got on today.
How many weeks are you now? It's so positive that baby is measuring big for your dates! Take it easy and look after yourself. x

hopefulgum Wed 15-May-13 23:36:04

Green, that is wonderful news! I am so glad your little one is growing in there.smile

Mozzamama I am really not sure about whether the fertility drugs make a lot difference to older women. I think they are helpful if you are not ovulating regularly, and releasing more than one egg at a time gives the sperm more targets to aim for, however, I've heard that clomid isn't great for the over forties, because if may affect your fertile mucus and make the lining thin. But the other drugs, I don't know. The biggest problem for the over forties is egg quality, and no fertility drug can sort that out (otherwise we'd all be taking it), unfortunately. At least if you are being monitored whilst taking the drugs, you may have good timing.

notsoold, sorry to hear that you DS has been ill. I hope he's better soon.

Sparkly, I'm glad to hear things are going well, feeling tired is natural, but I am a bit cross with your DH that he can't be more caring about it.

Morien, I hope your sleep programme works. Insomnia (especially chronic) must be terrible. I think it makes sense to wait til its completed until starting the iui. Perhaps you will be upduffed before then wink

Littlepink - nice to hear from you. I have also conceived a few times around April/May, so I have everything crossed that I will be pregnant this time. However, I realise how unlikely it is for me. As I hurtle towards my 47th birthday in November, I am going to have to face giving up ttc. The reality is that I am still actively ttc (charting, opks,timing sex - otherwise I wouldn't be bothering with much sex TBH), so it will be a lifestyle change when I do stop ttc. And I think after doing it for so long, it will be difficult (as well as all the emotional shit I'll go through having to give up my dream of one last baby, and deal with the grief of 3 losses and no chance of a little baby to help heal the hurt)sad

But, for now, I just have to get on with life. I really would love another baby, but I can't so much about it,other than what I am doing. I suppose there's always the internet clomid in my cupboard. Maybe I'll do it as a last hurrah for my 47th birthday?confused

fatfloosie Thu 16-May-13 00:14:56

Fantastic news greenlizard!

I had a haematoma with DD. Big clotty bleed at 8 weeks, didn't think I could possibly still be pregnant. I rather shamelessly used it to have sick leave until I was safely past 12 weeks. It's great that they're going to keep scanning you. That'll be so reassuring.

CaliBee Thu 16-May-13 08:36:35

Thrilled to bits to hear your news green...fingers crossed that little one holds on x

It does indeed look like I ov'd on cd14. I guess that puts me in with a slight chance (bd'd 2 days before) ....I'm actually more inclined to look positively at the fact that af should have come nd gone (just about) by my wedding day.

sparklysapphire Thu 16-May-13 09:09:30

Green, I'm so pleased for you, what a relief your LO is there & growing. I know the haematoma is a worry, but at least you know why you're bleeding & it can be monitored. Hopefully it'll just go away.

Isabeller Thu 16-May-13 09:18:46

A heartbeat green, wow! grin

The inner turmoil has started and somehow I feel a bit different this time, mind you (talking self down here) the first time I had an awful experience with the down regulating drugs. Thankfully the FET was timed to my natural cycle. No, I really do feel physically different. It could be my imagination.

It seems I am arguing with myself hmm

Reading and sending loving thoughts to all

jass43 Thu 16-May-13 11:02:45

Green, huge hugs and good to hear everything is going on schedule. Keep yourself as sedentary as possible!

Isabeller, good to hear FET went well.

Jbrd, I usually have a cycle "as normal" immediately after mc. Ovulate as soon as hcg is below 100 roughly pus 10 days. Am also already in two ww.

I feel as well that at 43 and half I should start accepting my misery and move on . I an trying to interest myself in other things in life but not with big luck....
Hugs to everyone

mumalah Thu 16-May-13 11:32:28

Fantastic news green
I have just seen on tv, Tina Malone is pregnant after having ivf at 50, lucky lady. envy

mozzarellamummy Thu 16-May-13 14:00:27

Green ..I'm so relieved for you! Hope the haemathoma won't disturb your pregancy too much, it's good to be monitored!

notsoold Thu 16-May-13 17:05:26

Green wonderful news!!!

hopefulgum Thu 16-May-13 23:51:07

isabeller - very exciting that you feel physically different. It sounds promising. The waiting will be hard.

Mumalah - I am very jealous of Tina Malone being pregnant at 50, thanks to ivf. Donor eggs?? I don't even know who she is, but will google. Still terribly jealous though! If my DH wasn't part of the equation, I'd be finding the money for donor egg ivf. But, he is part of the equation, so it won't be happeninghmm I think he feels a bit old for it all, at 52. Worries about having to work into his old age to keep the money flowing for all these kids. It isn't something I think about, I always think it will "be ok" and that we can do without luxuries, but I guess it is fair enough that his idea of the future is different to mine and he looks forward to a child free time, with money to spend on ourselves...I wish I could see it that way too, but having another child is a matter of the heart, and I know it sounds cliche, but having children in your life is worth more than what money can buy.

Sorry...running off on a tangent theregrin

I had a temp of 36.9 this morning! Cue full orchestra and fireworks. I haven't had one that high since I was last pregnant I think(I must check my charts so I don't get ahead of myself...) grin

hopefulgum Thu 16-May-13 23:54:59

Just checked, and actually did have a 36.9 last October and wasn't pregnant. However the time before was this time last year and I was pregnant! Fingers crossed it stays nice and high. I am only 6 DPO, so a few more days of waiting.

littlepinkfizz Fri 17-May-13 09:00:11

Fingers crossed gum sounds v hopeful!x

fatfloosie Fri 17-May-13 12:47:46

ooh fingers crossed Isabeller and hopefulgum <<goes off to find thread with fertility statue on>>

diege Fri 17-May-13 16:34:17

Very exciting isabeller and gum - anxiously await your next temp report gum. I do like my morning cuppa with a read of your latest report!

jass43 Fri 17-May-13 17:57:30

Thingers crossed from here too, Isabeller and Hopeful.

Am 8DPO, bought myself 2 hpt tests as well. Feel really not interested in testing, cause am weirdly afraid of positive. Just do not want the meds. Progesterone pessaries, heparin injections, prednisolone and its oh so nice side effects. But I trod on towards my future baby, just can not give up.

hopefulgum Sat 18-May-13 02:24:40

Morning ladies. Internet is dowm again so am using my phone so please excuse errors.

I got an amazing high temp this morning but it cannot be trusted because i had gotten up for DS at 5 and then took my temp at 7. It was 36.97. I havent had a temp that high for a long time. But i also seem to have a headcold so that could be why. I do feel a bit hopeful as i had a distinct feeling of nausea last night...
Typing on this crappy screen is doing my head in so i will check back in when my internet works.

hopefulgum Sat 18-May-13 05:34:49

Hello again, have tethered my phone (thanks to IT savvy children) so back again.
I haven't had a temperature that high since I was pregnant, but we all know that it probably means nothing. Maybe its a sign of impending menopause. Fingers crossed it is something else. Also the headcold thing is something marked on my previous pregnancy charts, or it could just be a headcoldconfused

I don't know why I said I was 6 DPO yesterday as I am 8 dpo today. Still got a week of obsessing over every little thing.

At least the sun is shining and I've had a bit of time pulling weeds in the garden. There's a bit more to get on with. Might be time to harvest the pumpkins and get rid of the vines which are chocking everything in its path.

jass43, I know the idea of all the meds etc is very unappealing, but just think about how worthwhile it will be if there's a baby at the endbear ((hugs)) When will you test?

jass43 Sat 18-May-13 06:51:03

Hopeful, even more hopeful then:-) it looks good.
Luckily I do not temp, so one less symptom to spot. I will test 10 and 11 DPO. Have to start pred and seek whether local hospital is able to give me IVIG early enough, before my betas dip. I know they would propose one week waiting and then I have to get the message through that I would by that time already managed to kill anything attempting to grow inside me. I think that part I am dreading the most. Getting what your own doctor has prescribed should not be so damn difficult, but it is here.

JBrd Sat 18-May-13 19:53:54

gum I wish you more luck than me, my temp went up to 36.97 last week, but then plunged down, and af arrived on Friday confused

But although I had been harbouring the slight hope I might be one of those lucky ones that get pg immediately after a mc, I'm not too sad about it. So much is going on at the moment, I started my new job 3 weeks ago, and it's keeping me very very busy - but in a good way. So far, it's really looking as if I have made the right choice, I'm really enjoying it. So much in fact, it almost reconciles me with the fact that I'm working full time and had to take a hefty salary cut. But the fact that I'm no longer dreading to leave the house in the morning is priceless.

I've decided to give acupuncture a try. A lady in my village specialises in fertility, pregnancy and miscarriages, I spoke to her earlier and have booked a consultation for Monday. She will go over my charts with me, take a detailed history and all that, and I'm hoping that it will do good. I feel that at this point, I need to take some initiative beyond 'just' ttc. And I know that acupuncture can help, I did it years ago for my migraine, which completely disappeared after the treatment.

green How are you doing? I hope you'll pop on here once in a while to let us know how you're getting on.

Hello, everyone else, hope you are all doing well!

hopefulgum Sat 18-May-13 23:13:16

Morning ladies. Jbrd, I am so pleased to hear that your job is going well. It makes such a difference to your life if you enjoy your job. Sorry this month wasn't it for you, but I like the sound of the fertility acupuncture. You are so lucky to have someone in your village who specialises. I have a wonderful acupuncturist, but she is a general one and doesn't specialise in fertility. I am often explaining fertility stuff to her. I'm looking forward to hearing what your lady says when you see her.

My temperature isn't as high this morning, but I was up much earlier than usual and it is still pretty high. I woke in the middle of the night feeling so nauseous I couldn't sleep. I finally did sleep and woke with a very vivid dream that I had just got the paperwork to say I was pregnant. Of course this was the perfect reason to do a test at 9 dpo. Sure enough it is bloody negative hmm I am not really surprised and not really bothered. It is early days, and maybe the symptoms are all coming to nothing, but I still feel hopeful. My biscuit biscuit's are so tender. If I have to endure cycles like this until menopause, then life is going to be a bit miserable. Why would I be feeling sick, having super sore boobs, stuffy nose etc if I am not pregnant? Is this what happens as we get older, with our hormones? I bloody hope not.

Time will tell...Jass43 are you having any symptoms?

littlepinkfizz Sun 19-May-13 08:16:01

Really hope this is your month gum.grin

Think I'm a day ahead of you but absolutely no symptoms of any kind.would doubt that I'll have any good news although think we timed the Dtd right,but as we know,that guarantees nothing.

Hope everyone is enjoying their w\end x

VortexOfDisaster Sun 19-May-13 08:32:19

Just wanted to say 'hi'. I am a long-term 'lurker' who has felt supported just by reading about you guys. I thought you should know!

Have 3 DCs, no problem at all conceiving. Now want one last one and a year of ttc hasn't got us anywhere. I wasn't bothered to start with, but am increasingly worried...

jass43 Sun 19-May-13 09:45:42

I have slightly itchy breasts, nothing special. But I am on low dose pred since OV and that is supposed to hide symptoms anyway. But I have a weakest possible bfp this morning. Tomorrow will confirm or prove me wrong. I have here available only blue-die tests and they are cursed by many for false lines. I did do an OPK test as well, they turn up lines in pregnancy too and since fo rme they do not turn up with lines at an end of a normal cycle, I tend to take it as slight confirmation. Now I have a nagging doubt that maybe my mc is still giving me ghost lines, but I know n reality this is no tpossible, since I had neg tests in between. Upped pred to 25mg per day and continue with progesterone, I should have used progesterone until Tuesday anyway. Dread the pred side effects and first time in the whole saga of serial mc not at all exited and positive. Not really negative neither, just .... Feeling nothing

hopefulgum Sun 19-May-13 11:36:06

jass43, I am excited about your bfp, but I can tell you are feeling ambivalent. I do understand why you wouldn't feel excited after everything you have been through.

VortexofDisaster (love your name), welcome. How old are you? I know how frustrating this business is when falling pregnant wasn't an issue in the past. It has been a huge eye-opener for me, as although I did feel sympathy for others who had trouble conceiving, I certainly couldn't feel empathy as I had no idea. Now I do, having had three losses along the way, and now, the longest time since a bfp - 12 months. Will you look into getting extra help?

I hope everyone else is ok?

I've had quite a nice Sunday, though it didn't end too well. My DH's parents and sister visited today and whilst they were here my ds (4yrs) disgraced himself, he got a bit cranky and hit his granddad with his ukalele. I wasn't there at the time (as I had gone to knitting club for a nice relax) and apparently granddad got very upset and wouldn't forgive my DS,even when he apologised. When the grandparents left, he wouldn't give my ds a hug goodbye sad. I think perhaps his grandad is being very childish, but he is old and frail now and I think losing it a bit. Poor DS finds it all difficult to understand.

Anyway, I enjoyed a small glass of bubbles at knitting club and a lovely berry friand and some toblerone choccie. Yum! I also heard a feel good story from one of our members. She had IVF to have her three children. The last two are twins. When she had the embryo transfer, she was told that only one embie looked good, and there was another that wasn't looking too good and probably wouldn't freeze well. So reluctantly she had both put in, and despite the odds, she feel pregnant with both! They were born 5 weeks early but have thrived and are healthy 5 year olds now. So even when things don't look good,there can be a happy ending. grin

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