Ha! "Just relax" is proved to be complete and utter BOLLOCKS!

(41 Posts)
MrsTittleMouse Wed 20-Feb-13 20:14:29

How did I not find this before?

The official scientific paper is here (it's actually loads of individual studies pulled together to get the definitive result) -
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21345903

So now as well as being insensitive and fucking annoying, it's now also proved to be complete nonsense, and we can officially tell anyone who comes out with this bollocks to bugger off.

Soph80 Wed 20-Feb-13 20:17:37

Hell yes!!!! I love how people think they're telling you something you'd not heard a million times before!!!! x

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn Wed 20-Feb-13 20:32:03

That phrase is surely grounds for a spot of ABH <only partially kidding>

It's always the couples that conceive at the drop of a hat that trot that one out as well.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Wed 20-Feb-13 21:23:32

"You're TRYING too hard!

"Just relax!"

"My mate's sister tried for a decade. They stopped worrying and guess what! They conceived!"u

"Get a referral to a fertility clinic. My cousin did and she fell while they were waiting. It's because they were relaxing."

"Oh do sod off."

Sunnywithshowers Wed 20-Feb-13 21:24:11

Thanks for posting this smile

bugoven Wed 20-Feb-13 21:43:44

Thank you smile

Minshu Wed 20-Feb-13 22:06:51

I luff you. I may be jailed soon as someone I stupidly confided in keeps spouting this at me!!!

twinklestar2 Wed 20-Feb-13 23:46:29

I went to a fertility specialist today and he said stress and relaxing were only important so that you could have sex. Stressing does not stop sperm meeting egg.

DioneTheDiabolist Wed 20-Feb-13 23:50:45

One of the most useless sentences in the English language. Up there with try not to worry about it.

MrsTittleMouse Thu 21-Feb-13 12:03:05

I know. I always felt that even if it was true, there's no point in telling anyone that, because no-one actually tries to be stressed FFS!

But it's not, so ner ner to those who spout this nonsense (including my old GP angry).

Bearface Thu 21-Feb-13 14:00:56

I had this comment just the other day. Had to bite my tongue and nearly chewed it off. Are we living in the dark ages or something? Why are GPs still trotting out this crap? If it actually worked why don't they just sedate us all and then we will obviously all get upduffed won't we? Utter bollocks. Yes, and people are uttering bollocks if they say that to you.

Right climbed down off my very high horse now but still clinging to my sword - thanks for posting this OP.

gillian1986 Thu 21-Feb-13 14:06:16

Starts reading

Blah blah

skips to conclusion

CONCLUSIONS: The findings of this meta-analysis should reassure women and doctors that emotional distress caused by fertility problems or other life events co-occurring with treatment will not compromise the chance of becoming pregnant.

AWESOME :-)

Sunnywithshowers Thu 21-Feb-13 14:24:45

I wish I could have had that on a little card when we were TTC.

With a big FUCK OFF at the end for those proffering the 'helpful' just relax comments.

Bearface Thu 21-Feb-13 14:27:31

You should make some Sunny - I'd buy them! grin Can you just make sure that FUCK OFF is in much bigger letters than the rest of the message? Ta.

Sunnywithshowers Thu 21-Feb-13 14:39:05

It would be my pleasure Bearface

highlove Thu 21-Feb-13 16:15:03

Can I order some too Sunny?

highlove Thu 21-Feb-13 16:17:23

And can you make the fuck off bit flash and stuff?

My second favourite bit of advice is "be sure to enjoy the trying!" Usually accompanied by a coy simper. Yes, we're having so much fun TTC we just can't stop! It's like we've been on honeymoon for TWO YEARS!

That and my best friend who actually asked me in all seriousness if I had tried lying down with my feet up after sex. Yeah, no need for IVF that's all it takes! Silly me!

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Thu 21-Feb-13 19:41:52

Genuine LOL there, Fairy. Albeit a bitter laugh...

Sonics Thu 21-Feb-13 20:09:27

YES!!! smilesmile Brilliant!! Amazing!!

Thank you grinsmilegrin

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn Thu 21-Feb-13 20:15:50

"And can you make the fuck off bit flash and stuff?"

^ Funniest thing I've read all day. Thank you grin

ariel thanks, I'll take my bitter LOLs where I can get them. smile

SomeDaySoon74 Thu 21-Feb-13 20:39:44

This is the best thread ever! I can honestly say I reached the grand old age of 37 before starting TTC and every single mother I spoke to about how difficult it might be trying to get pg said they got pg first month of trying. Since then, 12 months and two failed babies later, everyone churns out the "just relax" bollox. I feel very empowered with my new shiny flashing "fuck off" sign grin

Bearface Thu 21-Feb-13 20:46:39

Let's make some badges.

Bearface Thu 21-Feb-13 20:47:47

T-shirts and banners optional. I think you're onto a winner Sunny.

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