TTC #2 and turning into a nut job!

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gemmeg Mon 18-Feb-13 07:13:21

Ladies, bring me back down to Earth before it's too late! I'm TTC #2 and its only the 2nd cycle and I'm already doing my own head in not to mention my OH.....we're not the kind of couple to have regular sex when not TTC (much to my disappointment sad) so it's a real effort for DS to, erm, pull his finger out as it were and DTD every other day. With DS1 I had no idea about CM and OPKs and just used an ovulation calendar for timing but this time round I'm in danger of falling into the OPK trap! I'm aware of my constant whittling and DH even said that he hopes I get pregnant this month so he doesn't have to listen to me begging for him to do it just one more time! Anyone in the same boat?

gemmeg Tue 26-Feb-13 10:38:36

It does happen though nomore....I've read about so many women whose AF hasn't arrived, keep getting neg pregnancy tests then eventually get a positive weeks later. With DS I tested on day AF was due and got a BFN but fished it out the bin (yuk, I know) and looked at it after the time they tell you to and had the faintest of faint lines. Keep coming on here everyday in the hope of hearing some good news!

Thanks gemmeg.

Still no sign of AF today. Feeling quite sick but that's probably due to the chilling realisation that I've lost my mind! smile

2beornot Tue 26-Feb-13 14:10:04

I'm not surprised though, nomore! I don't think anyone could remain sane in your situation! I'd be POAS every morning and noon and night

Thanks 2be, it's good to be in sympathetic company! DH isn't the best for that kind of thing. I have some Internet cheapies kindly donated by a PG friend so might do another tonight in secret and will report back.

pegster Tue 26-Feb-13 17:42:42

No sign of AF (due today so not late yet). Being encouraged by DH to wait until Friday to test, going to be a struggle. Not been sick again but have a spotty chin (not usually a PMS thing with me) and sensitive nipples - the shower spray hurt them this morning - so feeling secretly hopeful wink

Another BFN angry

2beornot Wed 27-Feb-13 09:20:52

Pegster - do wait til DH is back. It'll be so much more exciting!!

Nomore - all you can do is keep testing and waiting.

I'm still hopeful for some BFPs this month - then the rest next month!!

gemmeg Wed 27-Feb-13 09:50:16

nomore, would it be possible for you to get a blood test? I don't know how easy it is in the UK to just walk into a drs and ask for one. I live in Austria and here you can make an appointment for a blood test whenever you feel you should have one for a general check-up but I don't know if it's like that back home. It must be so frustrating for you. Do you really feel as though you're pg?

winterpansy Wed 27-Feb-13 09:56:50

How frustrating nomore I do hope something shows up soon to put your mind at rest.

peg Ooh..don't forget to tell us straight after you and DH find out!

pegster Wed 27-Feb-13 12:25:57

Ok I caved & BFP!! smile

Not going to tell DH that have 'cheated' so will be doing another test in all innocence in 2 days time
Trying not to get excited yet as last month had a chemical pregnancy and was bleeding 4 days after my BFP so don't know if it'll be a sticky one yet. Please keep your fingers crossed for me ladies. And hopefully this is just the start of a run of BFP's on this thread...

Pegster that's brilliant news! I bet your DH wouldn't mind you cheating if the result is a good one? Keeping my fingers crossed for you smile

AF just arrived for me hmm but I'm just so relieved to stop wondering that I'm quite happy really. Today was 36 days I think!!

Hopefully now I know how I can feel and not be pregnant, it might mean I'm calmer next month <hopeful>

Hopes no-one remembers how confident I was before... blush

2beornot Wed 27-Feb-13 13:38:57

Woo hoo! Well done on the BFP peg. I couldn't fake it - I'd have to tell straight away!!

And no more, I know it's not the BFP you wanted, but it is the next best thing at least. Now you can start thinking about trying again!!!

gemmeg Wed 27-Feb-13 13:55:53

Congrats from me too pegster! And glad you now know either way nomore....will let you know my result on Fri. Honestly can't wait to get it over with. I'm sick of brooding over it!

winterpansy Wed 27-Feb-13 14:04:19

Oh wow! Brill news all round. Congrats peg!
Our first BFP on the thread. Love it!

nomoreAt least you know now. I was a bit like you last time I was waiting for AF. 37 days and many bfns (althought I knew in my heart of hearts I couldn't be pg). It really does your head in! Good luck for this cycle.

pegster Wed 27-Feb-13 14:39:46

I'm sorry about the arrival of AF nomore, depressing day but at least this is now day 1 of your next cycle & next chance for TTC....

Tinyflutterby Wed 27-Feb-13 15:49:58

Hi everyone, can I join? Trying VERY hard not to get over-obsessed this cycle as I have a tendency to do so! Been TTC#2 for about 6 months, DS1 took 2 years so really hoping it doesn't take that long again as I'm getting on a bit (36 in few weeks) which I think only makes me more obsessed.

I have very long irregular cycles (36-48 days) so difficult to track when I ov. Been tracking CM so far, but given in and am going to try OPK this time, although worried it might make me even more obsessed.

Not sure if herbal medicine helped first time round as I got pg a couple of weeks after starting it, but have just been to my first appointment and am going to try that again, if only to regulate things a bit, so we'll see!

gemmeg Wed 27-Feb-13 17:41:04

Hello tinyflutterby, you've come to the right place....we're all obsessed here, you shan't be judged! wink. Must be difficult with irregular cycles so perhaps OPKs would be good as well as checking CM. Wishing you the best of luck on your TTC journey!

2beornot Wed 27-Feb-13 17:58:11

The more the merrier!!! I think I'd be using OPKs in your case tiny! Although my cycle was 24 days this month, so DH and I will have to start dtd a lot earlier this month to make sure we don't miss it!!

Thanks everyone - it's so nice to have support from people who genuinely understand what it's like to be a TTC nutjob!

Welcome tiny! Let's hope Pegster's BFP is a good omen for us all grin

Can I ask a stupid question? This is going to sound like I'm clinging on to the idea a bit but I was thinking about why my cycle was so long this month when it's never been that long before.

I know all the BFNs would make it unlikely, but is it possible that it's a very early MC? I can deal with the idea if it is but I just wondered whether it could feel the same as a period? Sorry I don't know much about the subject.

Ferino Wed 27-Feb-13 21:16:18

Hi nomore, I've just found this thread and am in a similar position to you. I don't know the answer to your question but will watch for responses with interest. For background, I stopped taking the pill at the start of Jan and am now on day 42 from the start of my withdrawal bleed. No proper AF yet but BFN a few days ago so I'm similarly confused. Weird discharge and cramps today so have been wondering if it's an early miscarriage too. Hopefully somebody in the know gets back to you soon.

2beornot Wed 27-Feb-13 21:17:53

I don't really know, nomore. I presume it's possible. Are you usually very regular? Are you using OPKs? If you have another unusual length cycle then it might be worth using them?

I've been using OPKs just this month. I've been tracking my cycles since October and they've been mostly 27-29 days. One was 31 but I was spotting for a few days before that, just counted again and this was 33.

I ovulated on day 18 which is a few days later than MyCycles predicted. Would that indicate that my cycle would be longer?

Feel clueless about this!

pegster Wed 27-Feb-13 22:24:45

Nomore - my really early miscarriage last month at about 5 weeks was like a slightly heavier, crampier period with some small clots in (TMI sorry) - usually I don't suffer at all but I needed painkillers & a hot water bottle for the first 2 days. I had a positive test but not until 4 days after I'd expected AF and never had any pregnancy symptoms like increased CM & nausea that I've got this time

chocoloulou33 Wed 27-Feb-13 23:02:45

Can I join please!! Am ttc#2 have dd who is 5. Step-daughter who is 7 & step-son who is 4. So busy busy busy but me & OH would love a baby together. Am currently cycle 6, 10dpo. Trying not to stress who am I kidding x

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