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I have been TTC since a MC last summer. My DH would be ok with one more baby, but also talks of the perks of quitting TTC. He is happy with the family we have. We are both 40+, and would like to start to travel with the DC, now that they are no longer babies. But I really long for one more baby. I know the DC would be thrilled as well. So I have decided. I keep "moving the goalposts", trying one more bit of advice, one more vitamin/ supplement/ diet/ position. This is it. If I don't get pregnant this weekend, I am giving up. I may be putting too much pressure on, maybe this self imposed deadline will cause too much stress for any success. Or maybe the urgency will cause some happy conception surge. Thinking positively, trying to visualise being pregnant... I will let you know the outcome!

Blimey whims that is quite a lot of pressure on one weekend of DTD!! Maybe you could say, this is the last weekend of actively TTC - after that we will throw caution to the wind, travel where we want - shag when we feel like it and see what happens! You never know - might just do the trick!

You are right, but I keep trying new not-not-really-tips, more like bits-of-wisdom I have garnered from MN since the MC to get pregnant, and I just think I could keep trying forever, leading me to feel I just have to draw a stop-line. Yet I realise the chance of a BFP is nearly nil. Yet when I went out for a long contemplative stroll today, the entire time I was daydreaming about being able to happily update this thread in two weeks with highly- unlikely good news

Whims - you hear about people getting pregnant all the time when they stop 'trying' xxx

Yes, a friend of ours had 3 unsuccessful rounds of IVF, stopped TTC, told lots of people she had "accepted it wasn't to be", then became joyfully pregnant without medical intervention. But we have been fairly relaxed about it, I don't chart, or take temp, or use OPK. (But I do lots of other things people on the conception boards recommend!) It's just since the MC I know I have changed and would be a tense wreck if I was pregnant again, as it was physically and emotionally so draining. Throwing in the (TTC) towel would nearly be a relief. But I just love babies so much! So it's now or never. Although I think I will extend the stopline till Monday night...

Well, I do applause your honesty with yourself. Although you do already have some DC, if another doesn't happen then at least you can just put all your energies into them.

My friends (friend) tried for over 10 years inc a few rounds of IVF. She eventually left him after she found out he was having an affair. Then, a few months later, they met up to discuss finacial arrangements, etc, fell into bed and BAM she finally fell pregnant! Sad thing is, shes now a single mum and has a child with a complete loser of a dad! Moral of the story is, she fell as soon as she stopped trying!

Thanks! Although I am not that honest, as I have added Monday to "the weekend". Trying to drink this nasty tea that is suppoed to promote fertility- dying for a glass of wine. Also, as well as the long walk, went to the gym and sat in the sauna visualising BFP

What tea? Is this the raspberry leaf tea I've heard people drink? x

No, some nasty stuff I bought from a herbalist. Looks like seaweed, smells like mould, tastes like wet dust. Also shaved my legs and found my one sexy nightie

lol whats it called? Sounds delicious lol x

It was a special (possible rip off) mix. I don't even know what is in it! My DH went to this herbalist years ago for stress- related problems, so I thought I would give it a try. I am also going to put on some ylang ylang oil, and sandlewood

well sounds like you deserve to get preggers after forcing that down!!!!! x

Yes, I think so! If only the DC know all we go through for them...