TTC and under 23 am I the only one?

(101 Posts)
bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:46:09

Just want to know if there are any other younguns out there ttc aswell? I'm 18 and just come off the cerazette pill, which I've heard is hard to get pregnant after stopping, so I'm coming off early as I want a baby young, pref before 20. I'll be Nineteen by the time the baby is born if I conceive this month. Don't want criticism just want to see if there is anyone in a similar boat to me:D

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:48:35

Setayharas - not too long to wait, hope it happens this cycle for you! I also had that realisation - it's a weird one isn't it to wake up and be like, wellllll what am I doing!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:49:21

Not yet, he's still doing his carpentry college course, but he should be trained soon, he also gets a flat when he turns 18 from the government as he's a foster child, don't quite understand that, but can't complain haha! So by the time the baby comes we should have a place of our own in the city and I'll be able to get work as soon as I finish my exams and save up for the baby. I'm going to be very tight about this baby too. I'm not one for lavishing out the pounds over silly things. I have a budget of £300 for the pregnancy and the first few months. I'm planning to get the big things; cot, pushchair, bouncer, carseat etc. second hand off ebay and just basic, white clothes for first few months as I'm going to wait till the birth to find the sex out! I've thought about this a bit too much I think lol. But obviously at 18, you need to before you just land pregnant!!

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:49:31

Do you live at home atm? Do you think your parents know how maternal you are? My mum is desperate for a grandchild! We haven't started TTC just yet, as implanon is still in. I have an appointment for removal in 2 weeks. Not sure how long before ovulation etc is normal though.

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:49:58

And skinny 25 is not old hahahaha!

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:50:50

I definitely need to mature OP!! I am very embarrassed by the state of our house. Oh went away for a few days and has just spent the evening doing the washing up and cleaning up after me. Oops. I know these days of laziness are nearly all over.

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:51:03

Setayharas your BFP is due same time as mine!! FX's we get them!!!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:52:25

My mums thinks she's too young to be a grandmother - she said she doesn't need any more than a mirror at this point in her life to make her feel old... She is joking of course

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:53:40

Yeah I'm still at home at presentsmile Yes I knew EVERYTHING there was to know about pregnancy and childbirth by 14 my mother was shocked! She'll be a little disappointed, but both my mum and dad LOVE babies especially my dad, I know as soon as he gets over the shock of it he will be soo supportive, he always is with me, we're very close and he always has my back. I know he will love to have a littl bubba running around the house again.

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:54:15

Ah ok! Got it all sorted then!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:54:48

Why do you think they'll be disappointed?

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:55:58

I am also a bit worried about the cost. Some of my relatives have started knitting me the most gorgeous little baby cardigans and they don't even know I have decided to TTC! Oh is a bit suprised that I have changed my mind. He has be saying for the last few years he wants to have a baby and I've been telling him I'm not ready. Next thing he knows I've ordered folic acid and ovulation strips from amazon and am getting the implant out!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:56:29

haha yeah! I've had plenty of sleepless nights to think about it! But I done a pros and cons list the other day, the cons list was about 5 things, the pros list went on for 3 pages, so that says it all really

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:57:39

Oh yes fingers crossed, oh won't survive many more shagathons so that bfp better hurry lol!
Have u started taking frolic acid( don't wanna say the obvious but that's something I never realised(I am a bit thick at the best of times)

Haha skinny u sound like me! I'm using te excuse that I spend all my time tidying up after oh that now he's away I'm relaxing until he's bck. I nearly can't fit in my kitchen due to all the washing up... I'm quite shocked by my laziness this week haha

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:58:39

Skinny - that's good that your family is supportive! Aw that's nice - bet he's excited! I will be the first to have a baby so I know my family will be practically throwing unnecessary baby stuff at me - can't complain but not sure where I'd put it all ....

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:59:26

Well my older sister has always done things by the book, found her bf at 17, while doing her a-levels, they've been together 3 years, she done much better at gcses and a-levels than me. I kinda messed things up, suffered severe depression and self-harm during high school, got mixed up with a very manipulative using boy and me and my ma have never really seen eye to eye. In a way i'm hoping that once the baby is born and she gets involved we'll finally be able to find some common ground and build the relationship I've always wanted with her

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:59:43

I can't keep up! Everytime I write a post iv missed loads lol

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:59:47

Meant to mention - it will all be completely impractical for a baby too, bless them.

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:59:53

Are you telling them you are TTC? I suppose normally a lot of people wouldn't tell their parents at that stage, but if you are still living at home it might be better rather than being an enormous shock......

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:01:50

Grotbagz- yes I will be the first of my family to have a baby, so I imagine I'll be spoilt with stuff, especially from my OH's mum, but I really don't need it, I just want the bare minimum, babies don't notice what things they do and do not have at that age, they're like animals you buy all this expensive novelty stuff and they find joy with the silliest household items in the end haha

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 22:04:02

Yeah my family all know - I think they know I'm ready because they live my partner more than they love me secretly I'm sure! I don't live at home and we have a business etc, so I think they saw it coming because we now work at home and were moving in June to a house - currently we live in a place with fancy pointy fixtures etc and old original stone floors - oh and a massive stone staircase in our corridor going to nowhere... Not baby proof at all!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:04:31

I feel, and you may find this wrong, if I told them it was an accident, but that I'm just going to have the baby and sort it all out myself anyway, that they'd take it better. For ex if I'm struggling with something with the baby I don't want my mother to turn around and be like 'well I told you so, you should have listened' which is likely for her, instead of just being supportive when I need her. Every woman needs her own parent support for their first child and I just feel I wouldn't get it if I told them I was DELIBERATELY trying to get pregnant at 18, I just don't feel they'd understand.

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 22:05:10

Also, and I know I sound patronising, please forgive me - I am like this with everyone regardless of age! I can't leave any stone unturned!

But, do you know that your OH will definitely get a flat on turning 18?
I just read this link

http://www.tactcare.org.uk/pages/en/accommodation.html

And it suggests that although he will be given accommodation it may be shared lodgings etc, so not ideal for a baby and partner and they might not even be allowed. I don't know the ins and outs and it might be completely fine, but just something to consider in case you have to stay at parents with the new baby.

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:09:14

Well thankyou for researching this for me. No I am not certain, I have tried looking it up but got nowhere. He says he is certain and he also knew someone in care than when they got kicked out at 16 they were given a flat and made to get a job and just had to pay electrics and stuff. But I plan of living with my parents the first few months so they can guide me on things I don't know about and I'll pay them rent money if they ask, which will be unlikely. However if what he says is not possible he has also said he would just have to go to his social worker and say look my girlfriends pregnant, my foster mum says I can't live here anymore and he would be given a flat.

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 22:09:24

Sorry thought that was to me!

bebe - Personally I wouldn't do that but that's probably just because everyone's family's are different and I don't think I'd need to so have no reason to!

I'm happy to go mad with spending - I've accepted that no matter what I tell myself I will do it, and dp will be worse than me haha

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 22:10:10

I see what you mean bebe. And to be honest I probably wouldn't tell them either, given that you predict they won't be supportive to start with, it i think I would feel bad being deceptive about something so big.

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