TTC and under 23 am I the only one?

(101 Posts)
bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:46:09

Just want to know if there are any other younguns out there ttc aswell? I'm 18 and just come off the cerazette pill, which I've heard is hard to get pregnant after stopping, so I'm coming off early as I want a baby young, pref before 20. I'll be Nineteen by the time the baby is born if I conceive this month. Don't want criticism just want to see if there is anyone in a similar boat to me:D

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 20:59:09

I old now! Thought I was fairly young, but spose a lot of ppl do when TTC for the first time. Young in a not quite ready way. I'm 25 btw.

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 20:59:30

Oops. That should have said I feel old now.

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:00:37

Do you plan to have a big family bebe? I'm guessing perhaps you do, hence why starting young. Is your partner the same age as you?

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:06:11

No I only want two, I just feel that I would be closer and could play with them more now. Plus I want to really get into my career when my kids are at school and then go travel the world when they leave home and when i'm still young enough to really enjoy it. I've been crazy broody since I was 13, but I tried to stop thinking about it, from 15 onwards (got involved with boys) but I've been with my OH a year now and been best friends with him for many, many years. He is also the same age as me.

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:08:13

And I agree Skinnywhippet I found the more I've been thinking about every possible scenario of getting pregnant and having a baby the more I've got used to it and felt more ready. I don't think anyone feels completely ready until they've had their first. You just don't know what to expect

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:15:15

I want to become a Midwife you see, which takes 4 years training, including a degree. I've just done my a-levels and I won't get good enough grades to be able to do a midwifery degree at my local Uni (I don't want to go away for Uni) so I will have to do a year course at my local college and then my degree so that's another 4-5 years of education -.- which I'm sick to death of!! So I want to have a break from education, have a baby etc and then go back to it when I'm ready. I just feel this works out best for me.

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:18:41

Well I'm 25 and have only just come round to the idea of ttc. Iv always been a bit selfish and enjoyed the party life and caring about knowone otherthan myself and oh only been since gettig a dog iv appreciated what it's like to look after something else and have it rely on you and how rewarding it can be(cheesy I no)
What career are you planning? I can't wait to start a new time of our lives!

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:20:23

You are fortunate to have a young partner who feels the same. I know people who have been ready for years, but their partners want to wait till they are in their 30s. Training to be a midwife is hard slog and although you get a grant I think you have to pay fees. I suppose the thing about having a baby (this goes for any age) is you cannot predict what will happen after children. I plan to go back to work full time but no idea if I can manage this!

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:21:22

Can this be renamed 25 and under? I want to be an official member but am 2 years too old!

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:24:10

I agree skinny you don't know whats going to happen! I plan on going part time with oh is happy for me to do, but who knows of we could afford that with another mouth to feed!

Are you family behind you bebe?

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:25:31

I'm 22!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:29:12

Yeah well my OH is adopted and has had a very sad childhood, his mother was beaten to death when he was 3 by her bf, his real dad didn't want him and he was in fact adopted at 8 by his uncles wife at the time. So poor thing is more than happy at the thought of a gf AND a baby that will love him unconditionally, bless him. My parents don't know I'm trying and I probably won't tell them until the risk of miscarriage is reduced a lot. I'm quite alone in this, but determined it's what I want.

Haha I will try and rename it for you guys, it was originally 25 and under funnily enough.

Ah well hopefully we'll get our positives soon! I will pray for you guys!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:30:53

Oops posted too soon - how long have you been ttc? Exciting!

gillian88 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:32:27

I got pregnant at 20, sadly miscarried the baby and the reaction I got from people was ' your only 20, maybe it's a sign, you r too young, blah blah blah' but had my mind made up I wanted a baby. I started ttc straightaway, fell pregnant at 21 and had my beautiful son when I was 22. I'm now 24 and had another baby, a daughter this time, last August.
If its what you want then go for it! I've lost alot of friends the past 4 years, friends who don't have children and don't understand why I'm not out partying like they are but to be honest I have never been happier than I am with my family. smile

banterbus Tue 05-Feb-13 21:33:32

I'm 24, can I join? smile Been trying for 6 months so far and getting a bit fed up

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:34:01

not long haha! Came off cerazette two weeks ago, got af 3 days ago, waiting for it to stop to get trying! My predicted day to ovulate is between valentines day and our 1 year anniversary!! ROMANTIC! awh a love child. How long have you been trying grotbagz?

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:36:02

You are sooooo much more grown up than me when I was 18!! I only just cleared out my bedroom in my mum's house last year, despite being married for over 3 years!!!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:37:03

Awh gillian, sorry about the M/C I must say, I'm terrified of m/c myself, can't think of anything worse, especially when you're trying to conceive. Pleased you were luckier with your second try! Yes exactly how I feel I've been out clubbing once since I turned 18 and haven't been since, prefer to spend the night in watching you've been framed with my OH tbh ha! I can't wait for a little one! I've wanted to be a mother for so long! and I'm finally running out of reasons to wait!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:38:02

6 months, same as banterbus! Had two mc though, one was recent so hoping to be back in action in a month or so depending on when my body decides its ready! Are you planning on being a stay at home mum?

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:38:50

Ha, I'm actually hoping having a baby will make me more mature tbh. I'm planning on keeping my bedroom here at my parents, they have a big house and my sister still has her bedroom even though she's moved out. I was thinking Me, the baby and my OH could come stay here every other weekend, want my baby to be really close to their grandparents!!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:41:18

Ah banterbus and grot hopefully you'll get your bfp's soon!! I am, until they've gone to school then it's back studying, but no I've got lots of ideas of creative things I want to do while being a stay at home mum with my baby ha! I love sitting on the floor and making up games with little ones, such a healing experience! Can't wait to have that bond with a little baby of my own, so exciting!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:41:32

Banterbus - 6 months isn't too long, I hope it happens soon for ya!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:43:55

Don't hope too soon for me, I need a break haha - I'm kidding! Does your partner work then? That's good he's super happy about it, sounds like hell make a great dad!

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:45:06

Yeh you are much more grown up than me! If you asked me 18montha ago if I wanted a baby I would have laughed in your face! How things change ay. Feels like one day I just woke up and thought if had enough of being a child I'm ready to grow up!

Setayharas ttc1 cycle4 bfp due 4th march

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