Ladies, Fred title says it all; we are the ones who shag as much as our men can cope with in order to get upduffed without the stress of scientific whatnots!
Fred rules (copied from previous Fred)
1. Thou shalt shag as much as humanly possible in order to get upduffed. 2. Thou shalt not partake of OPKs, temping, or charting. 3. Thou shalt keep symptom spotting to a minimum. 4. Thou shalt share and with your fredmates where needed.
ERTD = Evil Red Tide of Dooooooommmmmmm. Or AF to most others.
Pant snot = Egg white cervical mucus.
Doing a kitten = Getting upduffed soon after joining (warning: may induce in other posters).
Viroid = This is you, dear poster. This is from the first JS thread when someone tried to type 'ladies' and it autocorrected to 'Viroids' - so there you go!
POAS = Pee On A Stick (of the pregnancy detecting kind, not from a tree). Also known as PIAR (Pee In A Ramekin - cos we're posh birds innit). Or PIATLH (Tea light holder) PIAWG (Wine glass) or anything else you care to pee in!
Shagging like something = JSing like a teenage nymphomaniac.
Giving a hooya = Giving a much needed slap to a fellow poster in danger of slipping into ttc obsession.
Contraband = Of COURSE none of us EVER partake of any silly opk's or temp charting. They are Contraband
That's sad Cookie, but at least he is going to the right place. I know a few people whose children have gone there and their treatment has been great, so fingers crossed for him.
I'll second *Quark', Red. I'm glad you felt comforted.
Tara - I don't know about anyone else on the fred, but I just can't be bothered/don't have time to chart temps! I can just about get out of bed in the morning let alone stick a thermo in my fanjo or wherever else it's supposed to go! Happy shagging and talking about shagging. <Hands over a shiny new cape>
I'm STILL having loads of work ishoos, but the upshot is that I may be starting my new job earlier than thought, which could mean that if BFP ever comes out of hiding, I'll be much better placed. Trying now to sort out old job before accepting new earlier-than-expected job, but it's proving a bit of a hassle. Really hoping I'll be able to swing it my way and I can't wait to get to new job.
STILL need to go and research phones too!
Not sure how to start a commotion here. We need some people to be testing soon. I'm on ERTD so don't look at me!
hi quack and bear. yeah the temping drove me mad as I kept waking in the night couldn't go back to sleep and just got stressed and after watching the this morning phone in stress needs to go. anyway I've banned myself from all tat.
Cookie sorry to hear about your friend, but like you say hopefully they will get answers soon. Must be scary though!
Red glad the memorial was comforting for you.
Bear fingers crossed for new job starting earlier! Any news on DH's tests or vein thingy?
I've got my 12 week scan on 8th April, feels ages away but having lovely pregnancy symptoms which I won't scare you withgross you out with share so am confident all is well. It was DS's birthday a few days ago so that was fun, think its going to take us all a few days to recover though as he has missed a lot of naps so isn't sleeping too well at night and is now overtired - means I don't get a good night's sleep either!!
Hello Rockchick glad to hear its all going well, 12 weeks yay, so you'll find out then when your due. So exciting
Bear such good news about the job it sounds complicated to me about sorting everything out, i wish you luck in your new adventure What phones have you been looking at?
Red glad everything went well with the memorial service. Graduation soon, yay for you.
Whitetara i'm with bear, i don't temp just shag but then i am very lazy
And yay it's spring today, i can feel a warm breeze on my skin and the sun is shining oh wait that was last year <looks out of window bitterly>
Quark good luck for cd35 fingers crossed for you
Ok i have lost count this month i think i am on cd 19, now ladies i am sure you remember my cd were usually 28 but now seem to be 40 so i am still right in the middle of my month, so will have to whip the cape out tonight and surprise DH
Oh yeah i forgot to say my luffly Dh did such a sweet thing for me i am uber surprised, his work colleague was recycling some baby books and Dh asked if he could take some of them, so i now own a baby naming book, and three pregnancy books. Dh usually isn't that thoughtful especially when it comes to ttc. And he has been researching all the vitamins i should be taking to.
Now of course the down side of that is his boss now knows we are ttc [meh]
Aww Cookie - how sweet of your DH! Annoying that boss man(?) knows, but it's easier his boss knowing than yours for sure! You can be naked if you wish Cookie! Do you have streaker tendencies? Still haven't looked at any phones - sorry - am goingto have to wait now because of work thing too. Back to the PC it is.
Work thing has just been driving me mad today. Can't go into details here obvs, but needless to say I am a bit and about it all. Oh well. Apart from anything else it has left me feeling quite knackered. Need a rest now.
Yes, Quark - good luck for CD 35 - let us know. . .
Rock - quick update. DH was referred to Urology who have now suggested he be referred him back to a fertility specialist, but GP has been off sick, so we now have to see a different GP before someone can then refer us to fertility clinic. Merry-go-round ahoy. Angry-go-round more like Just wish we could get on with it. Hmph. Glad to hear Baby Rock is developing nicely.
Tara - hope you don't mind me asking, but how long have you been TTC? Don't answer if you don't want though.
hi rock and huge congrats. bear not ttc long. actually was quite reluctant when Dhaka took a risk in December. the one time that month. was amazed to find out pregnant just from that but after shock was really happy. until I started bleeding on cd31 and that was that. decided to chart after that to see if it has messed my cycles but has 7 day lp. the last cycle just finished was 9 days with vitamin b6. ttc those last two months but now wondering if the lp was an issue with the chemical. so in answer actively ttc for the past two cycles. have 2 ddband got pregnant first try. but I'm forty next week and anticipate not so easy this time.
the charting stressed me too much so now trying to be ambivalent (which is why I'm hanging out on ttc forums )
Hey tara - my lp is short too (10 days and the B6 didn't help me, it actually made me ovulate later and later so I stopped taking it). I've read so many stories from women with short lps that conceive and have healthy pregnancies, so I'm hanging in there. It's been awhile though with no results. I am hoping some easy progesterone therapy is all I need. Hope you aren't waiting long!
red how short are the short lps when the women are conceiving?
I've also heard about the late ovation and wonder about that toops although I think I've always been later anyway - day 19 recently and before dc1 around day 17. don't know whether to carry on with the b6 or just take the pregnacare conception...
I've seen women post on message boards (not here, though) about conceiving with an lp as short as 5 days. Don't know how common/uncommon that is, though. Mine is usually about day 18, as late as day 24. This month it was a nice, normal day 15! But lp is always 10 days, no matter what. Unless this month is the exception. We shall see. 5 days post and counting....
Hi Tara - I think my LP is 12-14 days, but still no baby here . . . sorry, that's not of much use I know.
Someone else I know gave birth today. First baby had major problems and didn't leave hospital until 3 months, but this one is very healthy which is great. Another person moaning about being nearly due on evil FB. It's still really hard being completely pleased for other people though, when all I want is for it to be me.
On the plus side ERTD has been lighter and much less painful this month. Thought I was going to die last month! I wonder if it's the pregnacare vits, but I could get used to this!
Bear, interesting what you say about the prenatal vits and doing something to your cycle. Agreed that it is so hard to be totally pleased when hearing others' news, when they have the thing that you want the most in the whole world. It's just not fair.
On the other hand, I'm thinking that not getting pregnant this coming month might not be a bad thing since I would be due around xmas, which would be, well, awkward. Not that that blase'-ness is likely to last.
One thing that I saw Zita West say, really hit the nail on the head, though. She said that it's the not knowing that makes it so hard. If a woman were to know that in x months she will be pregnant, she would be totally relaxed right now. But not knowing is stressful and so it's hard not to be anxious because each month there is that anticipation/anxiety of not knowing whether this month will be the month. This is part of the reason why I've decided to avoid charting as the anticipation was killing me and I'd be on my ff app all the time...
ERTD got me yesterday. That means my average cycle is 34 days. I wonder what that means for my lp.
Who said they were going to give up trying this month because they didn't want a due date at Christmas? I was also thinking this too but DH thinks I am being stupid! So we are going to keep shagging and knowing my luck it will go and happen this month! [hopeful smile]
<wanders off to find more chocolate to help with ERTD pains> Bears pregnacare vits would probably be more helpful
Boo, sorry to hear about ERTD quark. Enjoy that chocolate guilt-free with some .
If I get pregnant this cycle, my dandy calendar app says my due date with be December 7. I am OK with that. I'll take whatever I can get, honestly! It would be nice to be off on maternity leave during the holidays, actually.
I had wondered at one point if the prenatal vits were doing something to my cycle. My pharmacy filled my script wrong last month and gave me 20 instead of 30 (they're a bit pricier than the over the counters, but I like the extra folic acid). I ran out at an inopportune time so missed a few days of vit taking before I could refill. And wouldn't you know, this is the first month I ovulated at a nice, normal day 15....
6 DPO here, and feeling absolutely, positively...normal.
1) I've been taking my folic acid <preens> but cause my and Dh are lets face it, broke i bought the cheap tesco's own for £1 a bottle so it really is just folic acid and nothing else although i have other vitamins that i could take to, is this ok or should i really be buying the main brand stuff?
2) Why is it so important to take folic acid at meal times?
I think the whole "take with food" thing is because it can cause upset stomach. Maybe the food also helps the body absorb it? I don't know, I am a rebel and take my vit before bed. It's the only way I remember to take it. Brush teeth, take vit, go to bed. It's better than not taking it at all!
Tara - we've been TTC 18 months now. Sigh. I guess it's been a bit on and off though as not all of that has been actively trying. We were 'not preventing' for quite a while, but as I've since worked out that there are really only 14-16 days a month when we can actively try anyway, and I've been using OPKs more recently it seems like we've always been on a losing streak, otherwise statistically it would have been more than likely to have happened by now. I know there's a lot more than luck involved though, before anyone says!
Ha ha Cookie - lucky DH! I think taking 'frolic' acid at meal times is important for absorption as Red said. I don't think you need to buy the main brand of stuff, but I am just trying to make sure I have the right balance of vits as I'm convinced I am deficient in some areas. I must be as I get things like cold sores easily, which is often caused by a deficiency in certain amino acids and a virus. I find if I take the amino acids in tablet form, I don't get the cold sores. There's other things I've observed about my health too which is orobably down to deficiencies, so I'm only taking the vits to make sure I have all bases covered really.
I'm with you Red - I'll take what I can get as well. BUT mine would be due 19th December if I conceived this month - yikes! Would still take it over nothing though!
Morning, ladies - what's on tap this weekend? We've declared "date night" for today but haven't quite figured out what we're doing. I'm ok with pizza delivery and watching college basketball, frankly. We'll see how things shape up
Today is 7 DPO and I still feel entirely normal. I would love this to be our month but I'm trying not to think about it too much. Been drinking, eating sushi and just generally misbehaving like I do every month - you aren't pregnant until you pee on the stick, that's my motto.
....and here comes the spotting . I won't sit here and pretend it's implantation bleeding. Annoyed, mostly because I am in a bit of denial about the fact that my body is betraying me month after month. Just told DH I want us to go to the specialist if this is still the story in June. Sigh.