Elderberry Pavlovas And The Eternal Sausage of Wang (Part 4): a frightfully good thread for the over-30s TTC their first baby.

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viviennewestwould Fri 25-Jan-13 18:58:59

Over here, sausage-wangers!

Bunnygirlie Sun 10-Feb-13 22:22:45

Evening all, good weekend?

News here, managed to DTD this morn, CD16 so missed 'it' but hoping this is heading in the right direction for DHs anxieties smile

twinklestar2 Sun 10-Feb-13 22:42:44

Yay well done bunny!

2cats222 Sun 10-Feb-13 22:45:38

Well done Mr and Mrs Bunny (the bunnies?!)

happylass Mon 11-Feb-13 07:47:58

Woohoo go Bunny!'

Cd17 here and absolutely no symptoms to report, neither real nor imaginary! Blood tests on Weds though so feel am doing something positive this week whilst trying not to think about hitting the dreaded 35 on Thursday

navis176 Mon 11-Feb-13 08:09:02

2cats - still bfn but also all signs of af have disappeared...I guess only time will reveal what's going on! Thanks for asking smile

Bunny - yay grin

Happy - I hit the dreaded 35 a couple of months ago - wasn't too bad!!

Bunnygirlie Mon 11-Feb-13 08:25:48

Yay for your yays, thanks.

But knowing we've 'wasted' another month is very depressing sad

is anybody else struggling to cope with raging emotions after coming off the pill?! i rarely cry and i've done practically nothing else!

2cats222 Mon 11-Feb-13 12:27:37

fairy my third and fourth months post pill were very emotional... Hormones all over the place! It took longer than I realises to get my normal cycles back (my first 2 cycles post pill appeared normal and then everything went haywire for a while). Did all settle in the end though

SidneyBristow Mon 11-Feb-13 14:35:36

Fairy i quit the pill 8 or 9 years ago, and I don't think it affected me all that much, sorry to not be of more help.

Pretty convinced that AF is on her way over here sad sad sad feeling twinges of cramps at the moment, and also last night, so just mentally preparing myself for it. I mentioned it to DH last night before bed, and he didn't even take his eyes off his book - kind of shocked me and TBH has made me feel that this is all old hat to him, as it's not his first child (is my first time at the rodeo, though). He probably thinks it's reassuring to not get as upset every month as I do, but it isn't sad

i quit using the pill for about 5 years some years back and never remember being like this! perhaps its just other things that are doing it then lol.

i think some men try to under-react thinking that it will draw less attention to the issue etc but for me it generally makes me worse (no matter what the issue) i do have a fantastic OH but sometimes i do think he tries to take the quiet way out of everything!

SidneyBristow Mon 11-Feb-13 15:20:51

That describes my DH pretty well - his main theory of life is that things work themselves out in the end, which may be true, but a word of encouragement along the way wouldn't be amiss... 99% of the time I admire (and need) his steadiness, but I don't like feeling like TTC is my project instead of our project.

I definitely think quitting the pill can make a person a bit wobbly emotionally - IMO it's a much more powerful drug than we are led to believe. Just give yourself some time thanks

navis176 Mon 11-Feb-13 17:25:09

Fairy - I've been really emotional since stopping taking the pill - on the pill I may have been irritable for a couple of days a month, but that was it. Now I seem to be on the verge of tears at entirely unpredictable times - had a complete meltdown a couple of days ago for no apparent reason....confused

Aquarius1 Mon 11-Feb-13 18:04:03

Evening ladies

Have been a bit absent whilst af had landed but think she's gone now so picking myself up, dusting off and getting ready for the next cycle.

Well well well- poor Gail / viv (hello if you're out there and reading this and i do hope it happens for you soon lass). will miss her sense of humour and hope she finds another source of support to help her through all this.

Hi there fairy and welcome. Sorry you're finding it so hard - you'll find it gets easier to bear with the support of these lovely ladies smile. I've been ttc for about 10/11 mths now and it's definitely helped to share it with others via MN.

It's so difficult to talk to people - not that it stopped me at my work do last week. Had a few glasses of wine and suddenly found myself offloading on a lady who recently had a baby through ivf. Quite embarrassed!

bunny well done you grin

2cats222 Mon 11-Feb-13 18:12:38

Sidney... IMO men don't get excited/upset until there's something tangible for them to get involved with emotionally... hence why he probably didn't respond. Useless bastards sometimes grin

captainmoll Mon 11-Feb-13 18:26:10

Fairy - I was an emotional wreck whilst on the pill! I've not been on it for ten years or more. On the plus side though, I remember reading that there's growing evidence for a fertility boost in the first few months when you stop taking it, so much so that I think some women are being prescribed the pill for a few months as an aid to conception (pretty sure I'm remembering this right but is a bit "citation needed"!)

Re DH's - even my lovely supportive exhausted DH is kind of oblivious to a lot of the TTC mentalness. I had a bit meltdown at around cycle 8 or 9 and he's been better since. I think it's partly that they feel a bit detached or powerless (once they've put in their 'performance') as we're the ones living the experience much more physically, and the ones feeling the 'failure' more keenly when confronted with our menstruation.

Also Hello newbies! Sorry, I've been lurking a bit of late as I'm just kicking my heels waiting for various test results. Forgot to wave hello properly!

(Yes, still waiting for results.... Grr)

Boodle9 Mon 11-Feb-13 18:33:58

Good evening, sausage-wanging Elderberries!

I'm like Sidney when it comes to the pill. I was on it for 3 years or so but came off it about 8 years ago. I really don't remember having any emotional side-effects as I came off it. Maybe my body was younger and coped with the hormonal turbulence better, but I think what is more likely is that I was just blissfully ignorant about my body and what is was doing and when!

Bunny, we've wasted this month too. Didn't ovulate until CD 22 and the last day we DTD was CD 18. I did spot EWCM on CD 21 and tried to persuade DH for some hanky-panky but he wasn't in the mood and I didn't pursue it. Let's face it, I've had 17 cycles of doing it on the right days - what difference would this month have made, really?!

STILL waiting for fertility specialist referral. Come on already, NHS!!!

Don't think I've said hi yet, so hi, Fairy!

Bunnygirlie Mon 11-Feb-13 18:34:34

Let's have an update for the newbies peeps -

Bunnygirlie, 33, married, TTC 9 months, first child for us both. AF coming around 26/02

happylass Mon 11-Feb-13 18:49:14

Fairy I was convinced that I've been an emotional wreck since coming off the pill. Before I probably had one day of feeling emotional just before AF once every couple of months.Now I have a melt down the whole week of AF every month - before, during and after! Anything and everything makes me blub. Starting to think it's not the pill though and just this whole TTC lark and being confronted with AF/BFNs every time is just turning me in to a wreck! Am fine the other 3 weeks of the month though!!

Bunny who was our other cycle buddy? Was it Thunder?? Also where is MotherofCleo?

Bunnygirlie, 33, married, TTC 9 months, first child for us both. AF coming around 26/02
Happylass, 34 (for 2 more days only sad) cycle 6 AF due 19-21/02 (not sure due to some weird temperature goins on around OV!)

It was me, happy! Just popped back on after a bit of time out- my ears must have been burning. Tbh been pretty down this last week, not being able to dtd due to poorly oh has suddenly made a lot if emotions surface about the mmc I had a few months ago and I lost the plot a bit there. Have picked myself up by the bootlaces now.

Hi to everyone <waves and offers jelly snakes round>

MotherOfCleo Mon 11-Feb-13 19:20:16

hi happy I'm lurking but actually have nowt to say first time for everything wink

Hope all you lovely ladies are ok. I'm cd11 today, due to OV in 3 or 4 days.....let the sex commence grin

happylass Mon 11-Feb-13 19:32:08

Glad you're still there ladies. Sorry you've been feeling blue Thunder look after yourself.
Perfect timing for shag week Mother! I'm being whisked off to a lovely country hotel on Wednesday for Birthday/Valentines treat but sadly is a week too late for OV. May have to DTD just for the hell of it grin

MotherOfCleo Mon 11-Feb-13 19:45:52

Didnt mean I have nowt to say in response to all the chat, I'm just trying to chill out about everything this month. I feel quite calm at the mo, only noticed today that I was so close to OV so got some opks. We've dtd every 2 or 3 days since cd4 and Yeah not bad huh happy, I'm planning to dtd every day this week plus something extra special on valentines day but it all feels a bit easier this month....at the moment. FX.

MotherOfCleo Mon 11-Feb-13 19:46:36

p.s have a fab time happy! That sounds lovely! smile

Soph80 Mon 11-Feb-13 20:34:01

Mother - you are good at thinking about valentines, think I've forgotten all about that kind of sex lol. Maybe I need to book my ideas up!

Hi back to all you peeps!

It's the DTD week for me tho got some cramping pain in my side which has kind of put me right off! Still getting to grips with what comes where and when - well from a conceiving point of view and not DTD side wink x

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