TTC and a teacher?! Join me!

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HopefulFairy Wed 16-Jan-13 20:58:35

Good morning (evening) Miss/Mrs MummyToBe!

I don't know about you, but I'm finding it hard to balance teaching+TTC. Too tired to DTD as often as I think I probably should be+so overwhelmed with the job that I'm filled with lots of negative thoughts+feelings all the time sad

Everyone keeps telling me that I need to be less stressed if I want to conceive but find that an impossibility.....unless I resign!!

Any other teachers out there feel like this?

marshmallowqueen Sat 02-Feb-13 11:56:57

Happy weekend!

ilovemycats you are so right, teaching does make you wish your life away and time has never gone so fast than when I became a teacher! About regulating your cycles I would recommend acupuncture but make sure you find a fertility specialist. It is pricey, mine is £42 per session but worth it if it results in a bfp. Hasn't happened for me yet but still hoping.

laurasmurf I have mad thoughts most weeks, I think it's par for the TTC course smile hope you do manage to keep the tradition up though!

SuffolkNWhat Sat 02-Feb-13 11:59:07

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delilahbelle Sat 02-Feb-13 13:27:22

Hey all. Just POAS, only gone and got my BFP!!!!

It's the equivalent of 10dpo for me, so I am cautiously excited. grin

ILoveMyCats Sat 02-Feb-13 15:20:01

Wow Delilah! Well done you! Wishing you all the best xx

marshmallowqueen Sat 02-Feb-13 15:39:49

Fantastic news Delilahbelle! Hope it all goes well and that we will all follow close behind! X x

delilahbelle Sat 02-Feb-13 16:27:47

I hope so too - a nice crop of autumn babies smile

Onesliceortwo Sat 02-Feb-13 17:30:46

Geat news Delilah!
We've decided to go for it again this month despite MC last. Figuring time is not on our side as I'm not getting any younger! FWIW I use the Clearblue Fertility Monitor - all three times I've been PG (2MC) I used it and it told me when the 'good' and when the 'excellent' days are to DTD. My husband eyes the monitor with some trepidation though ........ I'm not sure he has the energy for it again this month! We also used it (although it strictly says not to) as contraception after DD - didn't get pregnant so it worked for us!

Bearface Sat 02-Feb-13 17:31:00

Oh brilliant Delilah! Huge congrats! grin

BeQuicksieorBeDead Sat 02-Feb-13 23:18:07

Delilah yessssssssssssssssss! You little beauty!

ELA88 Sun 03-Feb-13 10:23:32

Hi HopefulFairy! Me and my dh are both teachers too so know exactly what you mean about tiredness and stress! We've only been TTC for 1 month but stupidly (hopefully maybe?!) did expect it to happen straight away! Xx

LauraSmurf Sun 03-Feb-13 14:06:43

Well done Delilah!! Giving us all hope!

I am continuing to try hard not to symptom spot. I am avidly no paying attention to my sore boobs, extreme hunger and spots! Honestly I'm barely even remembering its my 2ww. confused

On the school front I have an observation in Thursday. So have been so dictatorial about what makes a good lesson it is going to be brutal. I know I'm going to be hammered for it but in trying to keep my head up and remember its school politics at the moment, not an accurate reflection of my teaching ability.

Very scared.

delilahbelle Sun 03-Feb-13 14:55:06

Laura you have my sympathy, I hate lesson obs. They are so artificial. Just do your best and try not to over plan. What subject do you teach?

Fairygodmother1 Sun 03-Feb-13 15:51:00

I saw this & from the few I read I'm thinking I should join.

I'm a teacher & TTC 5 years!!!!!! I quit my job 16 months ago to do supply, took on a full time role, finally fell pg but miscarried. Not fallen pg since but have gone back to supply as my stress levels were def too high! Fingers crossed it works this time!

ILoveMyCats Sun 03-Feb-13 15:58:00

marshmallowqueen thanks for your reply. Can I ask how many acupuncture sessions have you had & how often? I'm researching local places & will speak to a few before I commit. Any particular things to ask/ring alarm bells?!

Good luck for lesson obs, laura. They're a necessary evil, but you're right that they're not a true reflection of your teaching.

Trying to fight the Sunday blues. Still no af - cd48. Ffs.

holls2000 Sun 03-Feb-13 16:16:59

Please can I join? Just started new job after my school closed last year - horrific. Had a mmc in Feb and then another in July (that, I'm sure, was stress induced) and now I am beginning to wonder if we'll ever DTD again! My OH leaves for work at 8.20 so doesn't have to get up till 7.45am! I'm up at 6.30 and out of the house before 7; home about 6-7pm. By the time I've cooked dinner and done marking etc, I'm zonked but himself (who gets home and relaxes infront of Sky Sports!) is raring to go till about midnight. Seriously, jobs really get in the way of this Deed malarky!!! xxxx

LauraSmurf Sun 03-Feb-13 17:39:53

Thanks for all the lesson observation support. I teach everything, as I am primary. But obs is on Maths, which I am good at teaching, but we have hugely prescriptive guidelines for each lesson now which I struggle with.

No mixed ability, must be some form of written evidence on 9 out of 10 lessons. Each lesson must have 4 levels of differentiation. We must prove every child has progressed in every lesson! Also because we have 4 classes we team plan and so I am teaching from someone else's plan and I am not allowed to alter it. This is so all 4 classes get the same uniform teaching experience. It's pure hell!

marshmallowqueen Sun 03-Feb-13 17:57:20

Ilovemycats I started acupuncture last summer and I only go every 3 weeks. I am not going to regulate my cycle but to try to reduce my levels of FSH which I was told were too high to get referral for NHS IVF. The lady I see is affiliated to Zita West who is a big fertility guru with own IVF clinic in London so this could be something to look out for. I would ask them directly about success stories, have they got any testimonials, how long they will think it will take to notice a change etc. I don't yet know whether my sessions have made a difference to my levels yet but it has certainly helped with relaxation and I have also found my lady fantastic to speak to about the whole situation so for those 2 things alone I have felt it has been worth the money. I have another friend who is convinced acupuncture helped her conceive so I decided to go for it based on her recommendation. I have been TTC for 3 years so at the stage where I would try anything!! Good luck with whatever you decide.

delilahbelle Sun 03-Feb-13 18:50:08

marshmallow have you thought about going gluten free? There's some though a sensitivity can affect FSH levels, I'm sure if you do a bit of googling you will find more info.

ILoveMyCats Sun 03-Feb-13 19:14:34

Thank you, marshmallow. Hope everything goes well for you.

Laura - your planning situation sounds awful! You can only do what you can do.

sparkle9 Sun 03-Feb-13 23:18:41

Congratulations to Delilah!

I would be due to take my pill again on Tuesday after a pill free week. But I can't find my new box of pills after our recent house move. The doctor won't give me an appointment until Friday so... it might just be be push I need to TTC! DP and I want to TTC but I've been worried about money seeing as all of our savings went on the house and new car. Does anyone else worry about finances and having a baby?! Should we wait to build up some savings before TTC?

marshmallowqueen Mon 04-Feb-13 18:18:31

Thanks for the tip Delilah, I have not heard about that so I will definitely do a bit of research.

Hope everyone's Monday was better than mine. Had to throw a massive wobbly at year 11 as half the class hadn't done their homework which they need to have done for an upcoming assessment. I am so sick of stressing over their grades when they don't seem to be bothered at all! I was awake at 2am worrying about GCSE results already... and we are supposed to reduce stress while TTC!!

Sorry, rant over

delilahbelle Mon 04-Feb-13 18:23:26

I think it's all over for me sad Having really bad cramps and spotting, feels very much like another chemical. All symptoms (sore boobs, tiredness, ickyness) gone.

Life is shit.

marshmallowqueen Mon 04-Feb-13 18:54:50

Oh delilah I am so sorry to hear that. This whole business is absolute shit. Be kind to yourself Xxx

delilahbelle Mon 04-Feb-13 20:01:32

I have emailed my line manager telling him I won't be in and left a message on the school answer phone saying the same thing. I no longer give a crap about my absence record or my exam classes, I just want to hibernate in bed. Going to go to the doctor first thing tomorrow and get signed off until the end if term if I can, I can't work or focus on planning lessons when I feel like this.

ILoveMyCats Mon 04-Feb-13 20:14:49

delilahbelle I'm so sorry that this is happening. Do take care of yourself and I feel that you're doing the right thing getting signed off. Thinking of you.

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