TTC and a teacher?! Join me!

(286 Posts)
HopefulFairy Wed 16-Jan-13 20:58:35

Good morning (evening) Miss/Mrs MummyToBe!

I don't know about you, but I'm finding it hard to balance teaching+TTC. Too tired to DTD as often as I think I probably should be+so overwhelmed with the job that I'm filled with lots of negative thoughts+feelings all the time sad

Everyone keeps telling me that I need to be less stressed if I want to conceive but find that an impossibility.....unless I resign!!

Any other teachers out there feel like this?

LauraSmurf Mon 28-Jan-13 10:25:33

Room for another?

Hi I am a primary teacher and we are on cycle 2 of ttc#2. It took us 2 years to get my DD due to severe endometriosis. I was starting off all the tests for IVF and suddenly I was pregnant.

I think I am setting myself up for heartache this time though. I really thought I couldn't concieve naturally and now they have said it should be easier this time I am expecting it to happen right away. It's really hard to keep perspective.

My school is falling apart around us. Head off sick, notice to improve, new head starting at easter. Zero trust in our judgements of professionalism, and a new initiative every week as management are panicking. I am only working 2 days a week but its in a very challenging year 6 and our results are very important for the next ofsted due before end of summer term.

I am so pleased to see some BFPs already and people being so supportive of each other. People think being pregnant or TTC in a school is easy because its all about kids already. They are sooo wrong!!!

BeQuicksieorBeDead Mon 28-Jan-13 11:23:02

laura you are so right... I work in a medium size primary and I know at least three other ladies who are trying to conceive and finding it difficult, in my school! Teaching is fab lots of the time but it eats the rest of your life while your back is turned!

I have been for blood tests today, got a feeling it might be thyroid as I have started temperature charting and my temp is never above 36.degrees! In fact last week I qualified as hypothermic twice! The doctor is rushing my results through after I laughingly told her this... Whoops. It might explain my stupid extending cycles.

Hope everyone else is okay and Monday hasn't hit too hard.

delilahbelle Mon 28-Jan-13 13:15:58

Well, I'm in work after all. Luckily I work in a very nice school with easy classes. Despite a lack of planning things have been good today too.
I'm having a few crampy feelings, I'm hoping this is a good thing. The 2WW is rubbish.

BeQuicksieorBeDead Mon 28-Jan-13 20:30:09

Delilah! You are such a teacher!
Glad things are feeling promising...cramping is good. Well if you do feel in the slightest bit tired or fed up, I demand that you ring in sick straight away. I will ring in for you if necessary.

ILoveMyCats Mon 28-Jan-13 20:53:57

I agree with beQuick! Glad you're ok & school is nice. Take care

Onesliceortwo Mon 28-Jan-13 21:00:56

Look after yourself Delilah! Cramping is a good thing ....... ooooooh, fingers firmly crossed for you.

Onesliceortwo Mon 28-Jan-13 21:02:39

Ohh, and welcome Laura! Lovely to have you join us.

LauraSmurf Tue 29-Jan-13 09:06:34

Thanks. As is always to way a teachers job is never done. My (hopeless) jobshare is declared that suddenly she can't do parents evening tomorrow (her working day) so I have been asked to come and do it. (Unpaid) and I am doing the second one on Thursday already. I am only a 40% teacher why am I doing 100% of the parents evenings!!!

Bearface Tue 29-Jan-13 16:49:00

Hi Laura - I would ask to be paid if that is what you normally get. It's not right to ask you to do it for nothing. I'd also make a point of saying to your line manager that you are only a 0.4 teacher and that your jobshare in future needs to take responsibility for their share of the parents' evenings.

Oh Delilah - you shouldn't have gone in! Obvs it's up to you, but put yourself first for once.

Hi to all the newbies. Nice to meet you!

delilahbelle Tue 29-Jan-13 20:45:55

I know bearface but it isn't totally selfless. I teach secondary so am spending a lot of time relaxing at my desk, and the students definitely help me take my mind off the 2ww.
Will definitely get signed off if I feel unwell in any way though.

BeQuicksieorBeDead Tue 29-Jan-13 20:54:16

Hi All, this week feels really long...tempted to ring Domino's and sabotage the new year diet!
Laura Job shares seem to get royally done over don't they. My team leader is a job share, she does 4 days a week but always works on her day off. She is expected to attend meetings and INSET on her days off...It really annoys me, it isn't fair on her, and it makes me look so bad as I work full time and can't keep up with her! At least I get paid for it though!
Delilah I do know what you mean - after the miscarriage I really wanted to go back to work. The kids made me feel useful, at a time when I felt like a huge biological failure! In hindsight though, I should have listened to all the people who said eat biscuits, watch entire series of tv shows in a sitting and forget about work for a while. My boss was the one who suggested tv show bingeing.
Any more symptoms to report?

Bearface Tue 29-Jan-13 20:55:02

Sorry Delilah - didn't mean to sound preachy. I'm sure you know what you are doing. smile Just trying to get you to look after yourself - teachers always out others before themselves. Wish I worked where you do - I'm a secondary teacher and never sit down when I'm in work!

Bearface Tue 29-Jan-13 20:55:46

*put, not 'out'

delilahbelle Wed 30-Jan-13 09:01:28

bequick I'm fighting the dominos advertising too. Half price pizza is not something I need right now.
Symptoms, hmm. Well I still have the slight crampyness, boobs are really sore, I'm very sweaty/hot, and if I walk up the stairs I get puffed our, much more than normal. Every single symptom can be caused by the progesterone I'm on though. 5dp2dt today, halfway through the 2ww.

BeQuicksieorBeDead Wed 30-Jan-13 10:47:49

delilah it is very hard to ignore the symptoms though isn't it... At least they are there, if you had none at all that would be worse! Well, I think it would be, but then I am fantastic at imagining symptoms! I have even made up some of my own in previous cycles. My internet search history is probably enough to get me sectioned.

I am currently enjoying my Ppa tea break, this is the fastest 10% of the week!

LauraSmurf Wed 30-Jan-13 12:26:05

Good grief I'd forgotten how much I hate the 2ww! It's just painful. This is my worst time, my DD is napping and I have a beautiful quiet home. I have the wonderful rosy pictures of my and the newborn sitting on the sofa feeding and being all snugly together. I know in all likelihood it wouldn't be like that. But a girl can dream!!

I know what you mean about job shares being shafted with the amount of duties, but I have a bit of a work/life balance soapbox! So I don't do any more than40% if I can help it and if I do I ensure it is acknowledged by management. It makes me a bit of a pain in the arse. But I have been in too many school where teachers leave on stress because they have never seen anyone say no!

I am totally with you on the symptom spotting, I have spots on my face (never normally happens) I am soo tired, I am really emotional (nothing to do with watching one born every minute reruns!!)

Roll on next Saturday!!!

BeQuicksieorBeDead Wed 30-Jan-13 22:00:43

Laura with those symptoms, I would be on the Mamas and Papas website picking out prams. Obviously, if I turned out to be actually up the duff, I would swiftly be rethinking that based on budget oh threatening to leave if I spent that much on some babay wheels and getting one from the free ads.
Good for you on sticking to your 40% by the way - everyone should do that! In my school we have lots of job shares, they all work the equivalent of full time hours. It must be sickening.
How is everyone doing? I think I might be about to ov, I am so excited as that would mean a normal length cycle! How far I have fallen, when I started TTC I fully expected a BFP immediately...now I would be thrilled with a period that wasn't 4 weeks late!

LauraSmurf Wed 30-Jan-13 23:14:47

Glad things are looking up 'be quick'. I am desperately trying to contain my preggie thoughts! I have had 2 dizzy spells and slightly odd bowels. But musnt get ahead of myself!!

delilahbelle Thu 31-Jan-13 15:42:51

Latest stress filled email from the head. I really hope this IVF cycle works and I get my exit strategy sorted. No real symptoms today other than slightly sore boobs, starting to think this isn't my cycle sad

Bearface Thu 31-Jan-13 19:48:19

That's great BeQuick. Fingers crossed for you. I'm just about to ov too, so we're DTD EOD. It's blummin' tiring though doing it before bed when you have to be up at 6 and you're shattered from the day before! I just decided I'd catch up on sleep at the weekend instead though! grin

Sorry about your stressy Head Delilah. Don't give up though - it's not over until AF appears! You never know . . .

I've just started in a new job and I am running round like a crazy person because the communcation is so bad that I keep finding out I was supposed to have done something, but no one told me. I know I could just plead ignorance, but I feel the students deserve better. I just wish the people in question would sort themselves out. It makes me a bit cross. It seems to be a school-wide problem though. angry Oh well, not in for a few days now so can just focus on TTC instead.

Hope everyone else is okay?

sparkle9 Thu 31-Jan-13 19:57:47

Delilah I feel your pain re the stress filled emails from the head. We seem to get a lot of directives by email to do things that are actually not very important and have little to do with learning. Drives me mad. I left school tonight feeling like I should look for a new job. To be honest the only thing putting me off applying for a new job is that I will be TTC soon. I don't think it would be a good idea to start at a new school and then immediately get pregnant.

I am intending to stop my pill now. I've taken the last one and have my pill free week now. Hoping I don't back out and take the pill again. I am mildly panicked about finances but have realised I might never feel ready financially!

BeQuicksieorBeDead Thu 31-Jan-13 22:31:57

Delilah imagine my delight if you rang in sick in the morning, I would quite literally punch the air if you did. Honestly, you don't need the stress right now. I know your head isn't fully in the picture but be nice to yourself! I would ring in sick, then re-read the email of crap and laugh then cry, and spend the day wracked with guilt
Laura sounds good!
bearface ooooooh I am pleased we are synchronised! Yes, mid week ttc is tricky. Do most teachers get BFP in August?! Trouble is, being a teacher, I want a September/October baby, who will astound their classmates with their year ahead skills. Actually, I don't give a monkeys anymore, but before I started TTC that was the sort of thing I actually thought was plannable. What a tit.
sparkle bin those pills! Look what fun you can have on this crazy ride! ha ha ha!

Bearface Fri 01-Feb-13 10:59:56

Ha ha -I thought that too BeQuick! I was totally naive!

Sparkle - I don't think anyone ever feels financially ready. Technically I'm not permanent, but I'm still TTC and still looking for a permanent job. I'm going to have to go with whatever comes up first. Time isn't on my side to be able to choose, so I have to put TTC first, but I also can't put my life on hold for TTC, so it will probably clash end in tears but there's not much I can do about it.

Fingers crossed for you Laura.

Hope today is better for you Delilah.

LauraSmurf Sat 02-Feb-13 08:55:09

Happy weekend everyone!!
I hope you all get the chance to rest and destress a bit. (well apart from DTD, not restful but all in a good cause.)

I am going slightly mad now. 1 week of 2 week wait to go. AF due next Saturday and I am getting so anxious already. I just wan it so much.
Besides, I am on a tight deadline. Every year for the last 7 years one of the 4 year 5 teachers has been pregnant when teaching sex ed! It was me 2 years ago, and it is scheduled for April! (joking obviously, it just seems a shame to break the streak now!)

Any other slightly mad thoughts or dreams or is it just me?

ILoveMyCats Sat 02-Feb-13 10:18:35

Laura, that's really funny about the sex ed. it hasn't happened in my current school, but have been in other schools where there has been a streak of it, but not as long as yours!

Hello everyone (should have said that first, whoops!). Hope you're enjoying the weekend so far and looking forward to half term. This job does make you wish your life away, doesn't it? Always looking for the next holiday!

Af is late, but bfn 3 times since it was due. According to tcoyf, I may have ov late, so the whole cycle is out. I'm hoping that means she will arrive next week. If not, I'll scream go to the GP. As much as I'm still hoping for bfp, I just want af to arrive so that I can get on with charting and trying again!

Has anyone else found anything useful for regulating cycles? Mine is taking tis time to settle after the pill. I've read about agnus cactus and acupuncture. Any thoughts? I think I need to get this bit sorted, as ttc will get even more frustrating.
Have also decided to apply for some teaching jobs. Had a really frustrating week with my inept class teacher ( I'm a TA at the mo, but experienced teacher in disguise). Went on a trip on Wednesday....total stressfest. May as well be the teacher myself and get paid for the stress!

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