I am also in a similar situation. I have two children already - DS, nearly 7, who we conceived with no trouble, and my DD who is nearly 4 and took a year of trying to conceive. We have been trying for a third since just after xmas and I totally agree with the "guilt" feeling of wanting a third but knowing how lucky you are to have 2 when others struggle for one.
I have a really short luteal phase (7 or 8 days) and my day 21 progesterone levels have come back at 12 and 22 in two consecutive cycles, so I have just spoken to my GP today who has spoken to a gynae registrar who said its unlikely that I'll concieve easily with those numbers. He is referring me to the subfertility clinic. I feel in status quo - if I knew a third child was never going to happen, I could cry and move on, but trying when it feels futile is driving me round the bend. I am at a stage with work where I should be increasing my hours, but I am unable to make decisions about thatbecause I can't let go of the idea that really I'd love a third child.
It's odd because I have days where the thought of going back to the beginning with a new baby seems crazy, and trying to deal with the expense of another child etc, but if I think about never holding another baby of my own again, I could cry.
Thanks for your reply ..as u say when you already have a child /children u feel so lucky but i know it could be upsetting for people on here that havnt been blessed with any children yet ..I still frustrated though. I always wanted 3 children. anyway thanks again and il let you know how i get on at fertility ..if you dont mind lol
We TTC for DD2 for one year before going to our GP for a referral.
DD1 took 9 months to conceive, where DD2 took 23 months and 6 cycles of Clomid.
I fount it horrible because I felt very alone - you've done the right thing, posting here. I also felt tremendous gut because we already had DD1: some people aren't even that lucky. I didn't know why I felt such an urge for another child. Why wasn't my beautiful little girl 'enough' for me?
If you're having feelings like that, just stop. Some people are lucky enough to conceive easily and don't give it a second thought about whethe their existing children are 'enough'.
Anyway, you'll probably be asked for a fertility/pregnancy/menstrual history at your appointment before they proceed with what tests to offer. Good luck, and I'm happy to talk more, if you want to.
Ive often looked at posts on here and decided to join as Im embarking on a scary journey of fertility tests and I havnt really told anyone and could do with some support and advice. I have two children already...7 and 4 ..both boys
I have had problems with PSOS and am so lucky to have the boys. First concieved quite easily and bit of a shock and second trying for a year. I have had a strong desire to have another one for about 3 yrs...I had a laporoscapy last yr because my periods were really heavy ...they lazered off some endometriosis and said it should improve...it hasnt !! I have got very frustrated and now have been reffered to fertility with my husband. We have our first app this week...I just dont really know what to expect...???
Thank you to anyone that can join me in this thread that is going through anything similar and can offer some more info