TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

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woody17 Mon 08-Oct-12 08:28:35

Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

scaredmummy2B Mon 08-Oct-12 21:13:35

Found you all again I def won't be ttc for a while but would like support after todays mc :-(

woody17 Mon 08-Oct-12 21:28:51

Really sorry it didn't work out scared

Lolcbcblemonlime Mon 08-Oct-12 21:33:52

Stick with us hun. Are u off work? I needed a week to lick my wounds before I went back.

littlepinkfizz Mon 08-Oct-12 21:44:30

So sorry scared so so sorry xxxx

MunchinMango Mon 08-Oct-12 21:53:26

Ah scared really sorry to hear about your mc. There are no words to comfort you. Life really sucks sometimes!!! Take care and be kind to yourself.

Welcome jelly, this is a great place to hang out.

Good to hear from you mrs aka Jessie. Sorry you have bad ms but its a good sign that all is well good luck at your scan.

Woody my af is due Wednesday but I think I will leave it til sat if af doesn't show. Snap to your symptom spotting I've sore boobs, salty taste in mouth and twinges as you describe. If I'm not pg I just want af to hurry the fc uk up!!!! I've had enough of this wtf madness. What about you?

Wow peanut you are a fountain of knowledge.

Hi to everyone else. Good luck with appoints, scans, testing or ttc.

YorkshirePeanut Mon 08-Oct-12 22:10:54

Aw so incredibly sorry to hear that scared. Hope you have plenty of support in the real world and manage to take a bit of time out to look after yourself. You've had such a rough ride. Sending virtual hugs.

jelly hello and sorry you're here, but welcome! I also have a well and truly messed up wtf cycle, have booked acupuncture on Thurs to try and bump-start it so will report back!

woody and munchin I'm vicariously symptom spotting through you, given the lack of any of my own. Mentally egging you both on for a BFP!

Ha munchin I take full advantage of uni access to online medical journals for my own personal benefit grin

woody17 Mon 08-Oct-12 22:26:15

Yes mango I'm fed up of trying to read my body and it playing tricks on me! I'm going to test on Thursday morning - I'm going to Rome for a long weekend on Thursday so want to know if I am. I think it'll be too early as ill probably be only 10/11dpo. And that's if the ewcm yesterday didn't mean anything. I do seem to have ov really early this cycle but it is a wtf one so I guess anything is possible!

messtins Mon 08-Oct-12 22:43:55

Scared I am so sorry it didn't work out. Many hugs. Life really is shit sometimes.

Welcome to * jelly*

Should point out that I am a vet so am allowed to stick needles in dogs! It's not something I am massively into but my dog has a brain tumour that gives her neuralgia (nerve pain) down one side of her face and acupuncture is the only thing that is helping. I think it's a very interesting area to explore (in all contexts!)

Lolcbcblemonlime Tue 09-Oct-12 00:13:06

Oh mess how lovely to be a vet <cries at thought with lovely dog with brain tumor>
Not a fan of needles but trained as a dentist so used to stick them on people's gums.

babyjamesblackberrycrumble Tue 09-Oct-12 07:42:07

Welcome Jelly

So sorry Scared such a terrible thing to have to go through again. sad

I'm still bleeding a small amount and am a bit worried about the pain in my left low abdomen. I don't remember this last month. Should I call the GP do you think? Don't want to cause a fuss for nothing! Also I don't feel ready to return to work yet but feel a right fraud. This 2nd MC has really affected me and keep randomly crying and wanting to sleep. My job involves families in crisis point with young children. It's very stressful and I cant afford to make mistakes. My Mum called in last night and she has urged me to get a Doctors note for a week but I feel terrible about it. If only things were different sad

scaredmummy2B Tue 09-Oct-12 08:10:29

Thanks everyone the bleeding has slowed but because of my history the gyny ward have told me to go in through a and e so just gonna take dd to school then go down there I have a bit of support at the moment the feeling of de ja vous is killing me the most just feel like all I've done since xmas is get pregnant and visit one unit or another at the hospital! Last mc I was off work for a long time they lost their temper said I'd lose my job if I have any more time off so Im pretty sure I'll be going to work at 3 today as I can't afford to lose my job :-/

woody17 Tue 09-Oct-12 08:48:48

Ah messtins that must be a brilliant job? I'd love to work with animals (I think). I hope that your dog is ok?

And lol do you still work as a dentist?

babyjames I think that you should definitely go to the GP if you are still bleeding and having pain. Are you still getting +ve tests? I think that it sounds like your mum is right - you shouldn't feel bad about having some time off - you've been through so much. After my 2nd mc last month, I have found that it's helped to feel like I'm doing something - hence the cutting out caffeine, seeing homeopath, acupuncturist, nutritionist. It's probably doing nothing but it has made me feel more positive about what has happened over the last few months. You are bound to be grieving - not just for the baby that has been lost but also for all the hopes and dreams that end with the mc. I really hope that you are ok and that you are getting support in RL.

scared hope you get on ok at the hospital. Thinking of you.

Well, I'm feeling really bleugh today - really nauseous - this is the worst that it's been. And the side of my boobs (almost under my arms) are really sore - tender to the touch.

messtins Tue 09-Oct-12 09:46:27

Scared thinking of you today. The can't count time off after a MC against you - same with all pregnancy related sick leave. Something to do with the sex discrimination act. www.workingfamilies.org.uk/articles/parents-and-carers/rights-during-pregnancy-and-maternity-leave/miscarriage
I went back pretty quickly this time and have found it helpful to be busy, but you need to at the very least get the horrid physical bit over with first.
baby james it must be very hard to go back to an environment full of young families. You need to take time off until you feel strong enough to deal with that.
woody really hoping this is a BFP on the way for you.

Thanks everyone for caring about my dog thanks She was diagnosed with a trigeminal nerve tumour at the base of her brain about a year ago, but is pretty happy really. She's lost all the muscle on one side of her face and has nerve pain on that side, but the acupuncture is really helping. When she had her scan I thought that was it for her but she has been very stable since, so hopefully we'll have her a while longer. On the plus side it has set me off on a new path as I'm now quite interested in training in veterinary acupuncture.

scaredmummy2B Tue 09-Oct-12 14:53:17

Thanks messtins just emailed that to my boss coz he's an arse am now sat at home with my feet up instead of no the way to work! There not convinced I had a mc sure they think it was just a bleed and I'm over acting but giving the bleeding pain and my history you can't blame me well dday is Friday got a scan at epu to see Wats going on

Hope your all ok

So sorry about your dog messtins
babyJames hope your ok know wat your going through I was terrible after my 2nd this one I'm just kinda num

Thanks everyone else for your kind wishe's can't list you all but you really help thanks and I hope your all ok going to rest now as my mum got dd and dh2b is at footy tonight so a nice sulky evening with chocolates for me x

posyplum Tue 09-Oct-12 16:10:25

Hello everyone. I can't believe our little thread made a second page - woo!

I have also been MIA as I have been trying to ignore ttc this month. I am with you Woody, feeling bit nauseous, bit crampy (not grampy!). I am 12dpo and have somehow managed to hold out til now. Planning on testing at the weekend as I am fed up of giving clearblue my money!

Hope everyone's well - jessie pleased to hear all those symptoms are so strong!

So sorry to read about the recent mcs and BFNs sad Big fingers crossed that this is our thread. xx

suzydelarosa Tue 09-Oct-12 16:55:05

scared so sorry about your mc. I don't know what to say except that it is rubbish and look after yourself.

After endless shagging from CD10 to CD18 I got a BFN on Monday and an early AF. Man - it really is not a good month! More trying in October...

Oversubscribed fertility services at hospital have cancelled my recurrent miscarriage appointment because they have no room - am going to be menopausal before I get to see a specialist about my angry uterus!

messtins Tue 09-Oct-12 17:07:39

scared will keep everything crossed it is good news on Friday, but can understand given your previous experiences why you think the worst. Hope you are wrong.

scaredmummy2B Tue 09-Oct-12 17:43:05

The only time in my life I ever want to be wrong but had more cramping since hospital so I'm not hopeful just want Friday to come so I can move on either way!

I'd like a heartbeat or nothing not something with no heartbeat on the screen as I could really do without another d&c

posyplum Tue 09-Oct-12 18:05:44

Sorry you're having such a rubbish time scared - big hugs.

Messtins hope your dog is OK - sounds like a fab career change is in order...

xx

babyjamesblackberrycrumble Tue 09-Oct-12 18:11:02

Messtins I also hope your dog is ok. Really miss having a dog around the place. Good to see you back Posy FX for testing at the weekend. I have spent a fortune on Clear Blue products! I found that when I MC last week that the Tesco Own brand had the line present for longest as hormones dropped. They cost £3 something for 2 I think.

Lolcbcblemonlime Tue 09-Oct-12 19:12:54

Mess that sounds very good. What breed is she? I love dogs and want to haw one almost as much as I want to have a baby. But working full time would mean leaving them alone and DH days its unfair.
Woody erm I hate blood blush so didn't make a good dentist lol! Am now a bank manager. Love that much more!
Scared I do hope u r wrong and there is a chance. I'd second what mess (or was it someone else?) said about being off. Like I said I work for a big bank and manage about 25 staff. I even have to give people time off for ivf with no questions asked! It is part of equal opportunities and your employer needs to respect that. Don't be bullied into going to work!!!

scaredmummy2B Tue 09-Oct-12 19:18:02

Thanks lol I'm gonna go back tomorrow my choice I need to. Keep busy before Friday and I don't get paid for sick as I haven't been there long enough but if I need to take it I will now thanks x

posyplum Tue 09-Oct-12 20:51:23

Ooh thanks for the tip baby. £3 for 2, what a bargain. There is a big Tesco on my way to work too [tempted].

I hope you are feeling ok now. Good to see you back too. I know what you mean about being surrounded by pregnant women - practically all my mum friends seem to have had their second this year. I agree about stupid doctor comments too - one day I'm going to write a big rant about my mc experience doctor-wise, I've been saving it up ;)

littlepinkfizz Tue 09-Oct-12 22:08:35

scared good luck for Friday and for managing to get yourself through every day until then. Don't be bullied by your boss but if it feels right, then certainly go back. We are all very different in how we cope with things.

This is a lovely thread of people. All so genuine and caring. It's like the big Lemsip chair!

messtins I'm currently attempting to train a v lively 6 mth old boxer! It's 3 steps forward and 2 back! V difficult to get her to walk to heel! She's adorable but so excitable,bless her.

Poor you suzy . How is it when you think have something signed and sealed,it goes tits up for no apparent reason? Fx for November x

posy AF due on sat but if she doesn't show by fri will test then. Have already a clearblue which came with the opk's so this should be sensitive enough? Really really praying it's good news for us x

Thought of you this evening baby when I made an apple crumble! Would pass some out but my lot made short work of it. Hope you are feeling more positive and ready for the action again!

Hi to all the other ladies!<waves and blows kisses>

Please let this be my month blush

BettyFlutterbly Tue 09-Oct-12 23:09:59

Hi ladies.
Have been a bit busy trying to organise flights etc for me and dd so we can get to uk for my Grandad's funeral. Everything seems c**p at the moment and even on here there are so many people with sad stories to tell. Life's tough!

Got another bfn on Sunday and then af about an hour later! I was so sure I was pg. I used my last test and I'm not going to buy any more untik I am at least 5 days late next month (you can remind me of this when I start poas at 6dpo!)

Lets hope that this thread is a lucky one.

Welcome to the newbies and sorry for your loss.
Hugs for anyone whi needs them.
Good luck to all the girls in the 2ww.
And fx for for bfps and sticky ones.
I'm so happy for those of you who are pg right now. X

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