The First Time Frolickers ride again - still trying to conceive their first child

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evilgiraffe Wed 18-Jul-12 19:43:21

A shiny new thread, seeing as the last one is now pretty much full.

There are a fair few of us old lags who have been in it for the long haul now, but new people are always welcome! Fingers crossed for BFPs for all!

evilgiraffe Wed 29-Aug-12 09:34:44

Hi Pickle, good to see you! Sorry about the PCOS, but diagnosis will hopefully be helpful?

It's day fourteen for me, but at least AF stopped a couple of days ago, unlike last month when it dragged on until day sixteen!?! I'm hoping that the drop in stress since stopping work will have a positive effect and with any luck I'll be pregnant before we get referred for IVF (which will be January).

raspberrytipple Sun 02-Sep-12 16:36:13

Hey Pickle! I remember you. I know what you mean about getting obsessive - happens to all of us. Sorry to hear about PCO. Your next steps all sound very routine and although it's a bit daunting it's good that they are looking into it all.

How are you Ratata? Have the headaches gone or has this been a symptom?

How did your appointment go Frankel?

Blimey Evil a 14 day period? Really feel for you, its horrible having them for a few days let alone two weeks sad Mine are usually very painful but gone in 2/3 days. It's great being a woman isn't it!

No news from me, I've given up now and am beyond caring so just shagging when we want to which to be honest seems to be quite often {boast emoticon} (although I shouldn't be too big headed because it doesn't seem to have got us updiffed to date!). However, that said, for the last week although it's going off now, I have had (TMI alert) loads and loads of CM although not massively fertile in appearance. I had to change my pants three times yesterday and its been horrible at work being in the same pants all day! panty liners don't help really. It hasn't been too bad today but I've never been this bad before. Very weird. I'm also massively bloated and constipated confused and doing really stinky farts and I still have the odd pain on my right side which hasn't really gone away at all so it definitely wasn't ovulation pains Lovely. Only six weeks to go until apt with the consultant again though smile Hopefully will get some movement towards IVF smile

raspberrytipple Sun 02-Sep-12 22:12:31

God, perhaps I am obsessing, I just watched OBEM and cried. I also watched an episode earlier on 4oD and cried :/ deary me.

Ratata Mon 03-Sep-12 13:22:24

Hi again pickle sorry to hear about the diagnosis sad Totally with you on the jealousy of pregnant people.

With you on the CM raspberry I had loads a few days ago and now not as much. Watching OBEM is so emotional isn't it? I hope it's us soon.

Well after obsessing all month I really don't think I am pg. I honestly thought I was as I had so many symptoms but they have gone now and I'm waiting AF any day now. Not 100% when she will arrive but should be by Wednesday. Back to hating seeing pregnant women at the moment. Into our 10th month now.

Ratata Thu 06-Sep-12 13:08:13

Currently a day late for AF, very mild symptoms. Slight breast tenderness and mild nausea. But negative tests. A bit worried that it's another chemical pregnancy and I didn't test on the day I would have got a positive. Or it could be an abnormally long cycle and I'm not pregnant at all. Either way feeling quite down again about this whole TTC malarky. Also, seeing that Snooki from Jersey Shore managed to have a baby makes me feel even more rubbish!!

33PinkLadyApple Thu 06-Sep-12 16:41:47

hi ratata I'm in the same boat. Day late and BFN. Thinking my 'implantation' bleed must have been another little AF sad

Will we get there lady, just keep shagging!

Ratata Thu 06-Sep-12 19:56:36

Fingers crossed for us both then! Will keep you updated x

FrankelSaysRelax Thu 06-Sep-12 20:09:20

Oh, good luck Ratata grin

Appointment went ok thanks raspberry. I've got my drugs but can't start until there is room in the treatment programme. I get 3 cycles, but if I have to stop due to under/over stimulation that cycle won't count. I got emotional again and cried at the nurse. She was lovely about it and said there is counselling available if I feel I need it.

I've also told my work colleagues - small office, just me, my boss and 2 others. I wouldn't be able to hide all the appointments from them and rather than them jump to conclusions I thought I'd tell them. I cried at them too!

Ratata Thu 06-Sep-12 23:15:07

Arghhhh AF you can get to buggery. Pardon my French. 11pm and AF decided to arrive. I guess that's me out. Hate how each month I seem to have different symptoms before AF. Sometimes sore boobs and sometimes not. Ah. Oh well. DH has said we need to properly get on the shag wagon next month. Sounds good grin

Frankel I'm glad you are making progress, and it's totally normal to be emotional about it all. You will probably find that it's the best thing to tell folk in your office especially if it's a small place. It's nice to have some support x

raspberrytipple Sat 08-Sep-12 07:24:34

Glad your appt. went well Frankel. Three cyclesis brilliant. So if it works first time do you get to keep the other two for future? I'm only allowed one which I think stinks, postcode lottery really sucks but i suppose it's not just ivf it applies to, I seem to remember stuff in the news about certain cancer drugs working the same way. Still sucks either way though. Ate you going to have the counselling session? A girl ivf spoken to on another forum has just had one and said it was really really helpful.

Sorry to hear AF got you Ratata but I'm loving your DH's enthusiasm for the new cycle. It's so nice when they are behind you for all of this, it can be quite difficult for them to understand what we feel and why I think, especially when they know the problem isn't with them. I don't know what I'd do without DH, he's just been amazing now, particularly with my next appointment at the consultants creeping up.

I've got a genetics appointment on Monday because I have a rare condition affecting my lungs so apparently they are going to explore whether it will be passed on. My understanding is that the chances are it won't because both parents have to carry the gene but I suppose I dont know if DH is a carrier or not. Then in 5 weeks I see the consultant and hopefully after that I'll have a referral for IVF smile so until then we are just going to have a jolly nice time on the shag waggon smile

evilgiraffe Fri 14-Sep-12 19:24:56

Hey everyone. Today is day thirty, AF is due tomorrow. This is my first cycle since ditching work, and the difference it's made to how I feel is immense - I had no idea I was as stressed as I was until it all stopped, if you see what I mean. I'm trying not to get my hopes up though - the first stress-free cycle is probably asking a bit much, isn't it? All the same, I can't help that little flicker of "maybe"...

raspberrytipple Sat 15-Sep-12 11:09:25

Hey Evil, fingers crossed for you! I'm on CD31 and AF arrived yesterday/today so back to 30 day cycle for me this month. On the 4 week count down for next consultant appointment. I don't know whether to be excited or scared. Think I'm going to us OPKs this month and give it a really good shot, see if we can get a bun in the oven before the appointment! Giving up coffee from Monday! Wish me luck.........

evilgiraffe Sat 15-Sep-12 12:09:21

Alas, AF arrived bang on time sad It's just so wearing, all this.

Fingers crossed, Raspberry!

raspberrytipple Sat 15-Sep-12 21:17:40

Sorry to hear that Evil, onwards we plod :/

Ratata Sun 23-Sep-12 11:24:53

raspberry good luck with the shagging this month and the appointment when it comes.

evil sorry to hear about AF x

I think I'm ovulating this weekend, not totally sure. DH have been doing copious amounts of shagging since end of AF though so giving it a good try. Had a dream last night that I had a stillborn. WTF brain!!! Was pretty sad when I woke up!

Ratata Sun 23-Sep-12 11:25:52

Meant to say "DH and I have been doing copious amounts of shagging" not DH on his own lol

raspberrytipple Wed 26-Sep-12 07:23:31

Thank god for that Ratata, DH shagging on his own won't get you anywhere!

I didn't give up coffee, I just don't seem to get out of the habit of wanting one! I have cut down and now just have 1 cup of coffee and 2 teas a day. The rest is fruit tea so I think I'm within what they say are sensible limits smile

evilgiraffe Thu 27-Sep-12 09:31:21

CD13 and AF is still here. I am getting really rather fed up. TTC for years is one thing, but bleeding forever is taking the piss. This is the third cycle with AF being about 12-14 days and it's doing my head in.

I feel like a bad person too. Lots of friends have newborns or are pregnant right now (which is fine and lovely, obviously), but one friend recently announced a pregnancy and they're the first people I don't feel happy for. They're the couple who I could never see as parents, and still can't even though they're expecting. I feel no pleasure for them, just jealousy, and then that makes me feel really horrid.

Ratata - lol at the thought of your DH shagging on his own grin

Fingers crossed for everyone this month!

Ratata Sat 29-Sep-12 12:31:39

raspberry I can't give up caffeine fully either. Love my tea too much smile

evilgiraffe sorry to hear about the crazy cycles. That sucks. Do you know if there is any reason for it? I too feel jealous of pregnant people. Someone I don't like just had her baby. She's not a nice person. How does she get her "accident" baby and I don't get my planned one? Ugh don't get me started.

Ratata Sat 29-Sep-12 12:36:45

This week hasn't been too easy for me. Been down again about pregnancy losses. Old school friend got back in touch recently, she's due her baby in a week. I'm happy but also sad. She is due a month before I would have been due with my first pregnancy. DH and I are concentrating on home improvements while we have the money so trying to keep my mind on that, though its hard.

This cycle is feeling exactly like last month's, same pains and increased cm. I think it's just another normal AF month. What I would have considered symptoms before just seem to be what my body does after ovulation and before AF. About 7 or 8dpo so still early I guess but not getting my hopes up.

raspberrytipple Sat 29-Sep-12 17:29:06

Sorry you've been feeling rubbish Ratata, don't beat yourself up for it though, you are bound to have good days/bad days no matter how long ago it was you miscarried. You are still allowed to grieve just like you would any other personal loss.

you are taking the same approach as us actually with getting on with home improvements. We've been updating our furniture and buying some nice new things while we don't have anything to eat up our wages baby wise!

AF sounds a nightmare Evil, it's so frustrating as its just one more thing to worry about or wonder about why it's happening sad My cycles went a bit odd the last few months but last month was 30/31 days and i think I may have ovulated today or yesterday so have done the evil deed yesterday after work and again this morning. Just as well as DH has come down with a bug and is now asleep in bed :/

Lolcbcblemonlime Sun 30-Sep-12 08:59:02

Hi girls wonder if I can join you?
Been feeling pretty shite after af showed up last week but its over now and I'm getting ready for shag week!
Recognise some names from other threads so hope I can squeeze in smile

raspberrytipple Sun 30-Sep-12 12:25:33

Course you can lol more the merrier smile enjoy shag week! Mines just about finished I think but was fun while it lasted.... Just hoping we have some success this time smile

Ratata Sun 30-Sep-12 14:35:25

Thanks raspberry I have good days and bad days. It's good you are concentrating on home improvements as well smile Probably the best time to do it before the putter patter of tiny feet take up all our money! And it will happen grin Fingers crossed that this is our month.

Welcome lol get shagging grin

Well my nipples are now sore which I don't think is normal for me before AF. It's the only symptom right now, all other symptoms are normal pre AF. Glimmer of hope... Damn this waiting!

Lolcbcblemonlime Mon 01-Oct-12 08:20:04

Morning ladies. I'm detoxing this week to take my mind off ttc and to shed holiday weight. Just drank first one. Hopefully I will stick to it!

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