The First Time Frolickers ride again - still trying to conceive their first child

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evilgiraffe Wed 18-Jul-12 19:43:21

A shiny new thread, seeing as the last one is now pretty much full.

There are a fair few of us old lags who have been in it for the long haul now, but new people are always welcome! Fingers crossed for BFPs for all!

evilgiraffe Wed 18-Jul-12 19:46:27

And as announced at the end of the old thread, congratulations Karstan for your BFP!

CaveMum Wed 18-Jul-12 20:16:00

Checking in for another thread grin

mrsmellow Thu 19-Jul-12 11:16:58

Hi there,
I was on the thread a few months ago and then had a break as it was all getting a bit much. My story in summary - I have PCOS, have been TTC 11 months, am on second cycle of ov stim - had one with clomid, good ovulation, but v thin uterine lining, so just near end of letrozole cycle - CD27 today.. trying not raise any hopes. A progesterone level on CD24 was 54, so have ovulated - am going to try to wait til next week to test if AF doesn't come first. Don't feel remotely pregnant! (Whatever that means - maybe it is a good thing grin !)

Last month was a complete roller coaster - don't know, but think it was the clomid, but I was an emotional wreck, crying, down, really blue for about a week around AF...hoping that more emotionally stable this time (although cried in the car on the way to work this morning when heard an ad for the olympics...seriously hmm )

cave I too looked at the TTC first baby thread and decided it wasn't for me... and not quite ready to go to any other long timers threads yet... it will have been a year in 2 weeks and I know that this is still within "normal limits" (not normal for any of my friends who all fell off the fertile tree and got pregnant within minutes! I am surrounded by pregnant subtle as sledgehammers people envy

Fingers crossed this is a lucky thread for all....

Ratata Thu 19-Jul-12 12:26:41

Hey again all. Not much good news here, I've been signed off work for a couple of weeks due to anxiety and low mood. Think it's because of the 2 pregnancy losses within the last 12 weeks. Just can't cope at work, I walked out yesterday because my anxiety was through the roof. So just gonna chill out for a few weeks and then me and DH are away on holiday. Not out of the country, going to a lodge to escape for a week then I'm going to see my folks for a week after that do won't be returning to work until mid August.

Hugs mrsmellow it really is an emotional roller coaster at times. I hope this is your month x

mrsmellow Thu 19-Jul-12 14:07:52

Hey Ratata sorry to hear that - but sounds like it is the right thing to do, I can only imagine the emotional roller coaster you've been on with the hormones going up and down with pregnancy and loss etc. Plenty of brew biscuit wine and time out. Hope it really helps. And, I think you have to grieve properly when you have a miscarriage, which is hard when others don't necessarily understand or know about it. DH's - as supportive as they may be, are unlikely to feel the same. Hugs.

CaveMum Thu 19-Jul-12 20:19:33

Hello mrsmellow, nice to "see" you again.

Ratata, I'm sorry you're having a tough time. Definitely take the time to be kind to yourself.

I've had some good-ish news, I spoke to the fertility clinic today and they've said I should have an appointment in early September and will start the treatment shortly after. I'm glad that the waiting list isn't too long.

Ratata Thu 19-Jul-12 22:01:33

Thanks mrsmellow and cavemum yeah just gonna take it easy and take time to grieve. I took time out last time to grieve but as this was a chemical pregnancy I didn't feel I had as much 'right' to grieve but I think it's all just got the better of me. I already feel better knowing I don't have to stress about work for a few weeks now.

That's good news cavemum I'm glad the waiting list wasn't too long. It will be good to get things going x

Fairygodmother1 Fri 20-Jul-12 06:30:41

I was also on thread a few months ago & as it's a shiny new thread I thought I'd pop back in & say hi! Still trying for the allusive #1!

Weight & exercise is my focus for the next 6 weeks!!!

How is everyone?
Sorry to hear your sad news Ratata
Good news Cave

mrsmellow Fri 20-Jul-12 11:10:09

That is good news cave - ultimately, I think it is the waiting and not knowing that gets to us all eventually! I think if someone could just say (and know!) that it will all be ok, none of this would be so bad! My DH always says, we will get pregnant and have our baby - and it will be the right baby - any earlier baby wouldn't be as perfect - where he gets his confidence from I just don't know, but fingers crossed he's right smile
CD27 today -just need to hang in here until next week - we're booked into a nice restaurant for dinner on Thursday, so I'm going to test then if AF hasn't arrived so we know whether to drive or book a cab wink wine !

Karstan Fri 20-Jul-12 16:49:40

Just looked back and it's taken 2 years to get a BFP. In the early days each 2ww seemed to take forever but right now it doesn't feel like we started trying all that long ago - weird.

Pipbin Sat 21-Jul-12 11:26:43

Hello ladies. I was wondering if I could join.
I'm 37 and a year into TTC number 1.
I've got my second fertility clinic appointment next Wednesday and I'm currently 2DPO.

I've come here to post for a bit as although I like all the ladies on other threads I feel I need to have the company of women who have not managed even one.

evilgiraffe Sat 21-Jul-12 14:14:54

Hello all, old and new! <waves>

I'm feeling quite cheerful today, perhaps because going for a bike ride this morning was quite invigorating. Hopefully I will do enough cycling to drop enough of my excess poundage to meet the IVF criteria in January (can you tell I've pretty much given up hope of a natural pregnancy happening before then?). Fortunately, the incredible Bradley Wiggins and the unnaturally fast (and rather gorgeous) Mark Cavendish are pretty good inspiration - I never realised the Tour de France could be so exciting! grin

raspberrytipple Sat 21-Jul-12 15:34:09

Hi gang! Good to see a new thread going and a BFP at the end of the last. I'd so hoped that it would be my lucky thread but it wasn't to be. I'm hols at the moment in bordeaux in the sunshine, currently sat outside in the sunshine smile

No news at all here, another friend announced her unexpected pregnancy, another has told me she has just started trying and a third has told me she started back in january and I've a feeling there will be another announcement made when I get home next week. My periods are more erratic now than they were before the lap & dye and it's another 10 weeks til my next fertility appt. if I was t in the sunshine drinking wine I'd probably be crying. As it happens I have another week off so I'm not feeling to bad smile

Fairygodmother1 Sat 21-Jul-12 21:35:50

Evil how much you gotta do? I need about a stone for bmi 29. I've pretty much given up on natural & very worried ivf won't work!!!

Pipbin Sat 21-Jul-12 22:46:47

My BMI is exactly 30 and I've been told that I can't put on a pound or it'll be no go. I've lost 20 pounds to get to that. I've been doing that through weight watchers and I've been running using an app called get running. I now run 3 miles 3 mornings a week.

evilgiraffe Sun 22-Jul-12 00:37:20

Fairy - similar to you, it's about a stone for me too. I'm just trying to up my miles on the bike, until I can manage to commute by cycling. 15 miles each way every day should do it, I would think! Just got to build up that sort of stamina first though...

mrsmellow Mon 23-Jul-12 17:42:45

Did the tour/will the olympics inspire you? Just had a debate on the Today programme on Radio4 about the legacy of the games and impact on the population regarding sport! (how middle aged am I listening to Radio 4 while I do the ironing...)

I caved and POAS yesterday - BFN.... but still have tender breasts and CD30 today...will try to hold out til Wednesday am if no AF I think - had some mild pelvic discomfort and back pain today - unsure if heralding AF confused where is my instruction manual?? grin

evilgiraffe Mon 23-Jul-12 17:56:10

No not really, mellow - more that I've been getting into cycling, so it was interesting to watch! However DH has been cycling to work for about 18 months (he has gorgeous legs these days) and I bought my road bike so we could do stuff together. After a while I remembered how much fun being on a bike is, so now we're all about zooming around in lycra.

Having said that, the Tour has been brilliant to watch so I'm feeling really keyed up and positive about cycling - my bike went back to the shop this morning to get proper cleat pedals put on... Mark Cavendish is my new hero and Wiggins is just fantastic. I may have cried a little bit yesterday when ITV4 were interviewing Cav while he was cuddling his baby daughter and generally looking adorable grin

Fingers crossed for your next POAS, though - there's still time!

Fairygodmother1 Mon 23-Jul-12 18:51:06

Tomorrow I go back to running again. Need to get this weight down!

Am taking Agnus Castus to see if that helps too.

Pipbin Mon 23-Jul-12 18:57:34

I will confess that I haven't been this week as I find that running in the TWW causes me to spot.

evilgiraffe Mon 23-Jul-12 19:28:31

Running and I do not get on. I shall stick to the bike!

CaveMum Mon 23-Jul-12 19:52:30

I do the Shred [glutton for punishment]. I've been off it for a month or so so am a bit wobbly round the edges! I'm on a 2 week project to lose a couple of inches and generally feel better about myself.

Still haven't had an appointment through from the clinic [impatient] so I'll give them a call next week if nothing comes through.

Sorry about the BFN mellow

mrsmellow Wed 25-Jul-12 12:17:16

And AF arrived today with serious pains... feel like that is just unnecessary - it is disappointing enough without being painful? sad angry I'm so pissed off and fed up. And that makes it a complete year of trying...which I know in the grand scheme isn't that long, but it feels like forever.

Fairygodmother1 Wed 25-Jul-12 17:29:29

Aww Mrs yes I totally agree & think that every month. Could happen in the 2nd year. Not everyone takes so long, just unlucky few of us!

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