ZOMBIE THREAD ALERT: This thread hasn't been posted on for a while.

Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

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MarthasHarbour Mon 28-May-12 13:20:32

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

Dictionary:
<Metalling: the term 'metalling' was coined after a typo, ie the art of 'mentalling' in that one gets all mental and in a head fuck with the slightest of symptom of, well, anything.>

<Mosh pit: Metalling of course gave rise to the mosh pit, where we all dive into when we start, well, metalling>

So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

gothinrecovery Mon 28-May-12 22:23:39

Wow thanks so much for all the supportive messages - much appreciated.

I had heard about the enhanced fertility post mc thing, apparently this is genuine, must be all the hormones washing about or something. Going to see what happens anyhow and get on with things asap, the b vitamins must be worth a shot anyway. In the meantime just poured myself a big glass of wine. Going on holiday on Thursday so that can't hurt either. Work today was survivable, concentration not the best (and had a blub in the loo late on in the afternoon) but felt better to get on with things.

Good wishes to everyone on the thread.

kirrinIsland Mon 28-May-12 22:27:19

just checking quickly before diving in to bed - only a matter of time before DD wakes me up again.

Will catch up properly tomorrow....

InsomniaQueen Mon 28-May-12 22:48:26

Marking my place so I don't get left out!!! smile

Midgetm Mon 28-May-12 22:49:07

Sneaks in, eats a calipo and wees to mark my place.

MarthasHarbour Mon 28-May-12 22:58:34

ladies just jumping on to say hi. i am off to my hometown tomorrow on a sad trip. My best friend has terminal cancer and i am going to basically say goodbye, she is in hospital and all treatment has failed sad sad

sorry to bring the thread down but if i am out of sorts the next few days then that is why.

oh but i couldnt go without giving MissGiraffe a big <squeeze> congratulations my lovely, <tentatively asks> how do you pronounce your son's name? I love it, is it Irish? We have missed you soooooo much on here. Glad to hear you have a little porker too (i had one of those!) smile keep in touch would ya? x

so glad to hear you are all with me on the 'manipulated Due Date' it has to be done!!

Waves to everyone - sorry for not name checking but sure you will all understand i am all sixes and sevens at the mo but sending the hugs to you all

MarthasHarbour Mon 28-May-12 22:58:59

midget you are a dirty tramp hmm

there - i have said it

fatasbutter Mon 28-May-12 23:48:12

Er...hi!
<peeps in shyly and tentatively lays down a large bag of Munchies>

I've been lurking for ages, too shy to join as I'm so new to this Mumsnet thing - what a chatty bunch you all are! I hope you don't mind me butting in?! even though it's long past my bedtime

I'm currently on the 2ww (is agonising) and TTC #2 after a mmc in early march... It's so strange being so desperate for a BFP and yet so scared at the thought of it too!

I've realised that the only way to avoid repeatedly and inappropriately (ie 8 DPO!!!) POAS is to not have any sticks in the house at all!! There are two burning a hole in my bathroom cupboard and I don't know how long I can make them last!

Ps I love the name too missg - my baby has same but different spelling and it is the bestest name ever!

<yawns> goodnight all!

bonzo77 Mon 28-May-12 23:58:18

Marking my place. <quietly metalling in dark corner of mosh pit>.

Midgetm Tue 29-May-12 06:45:59

jeez marth that that is beyond shitty. I promise not to put any bodily fluids in the corner for a least a wee while see what I did there?. Such a difficult thing to even contemplate, let alone face. So so sorry. We are all here for you, in a virtual way but still a way that counts big time.

fats welcome to the mosh pit. Sorry you find yourself here but you are amongst fellow metallers who will look after you well. Personally I never resist. Well maybe till about 10 DPO if I can. I have got through more IC than I could count. Take the good advice of someone on here and hide them in the kitchen even I don't wee in the kitchen and wear white pyjamas.

ConfusedMumDotCom Tue 29-May-12 07:14:27

Hi Fats welcome to the thread, sorry you have found yourself here. In my head it's only worth testing with your first pee of the day. So as one of my many complex test avoidance techniques, see hiding tests around the house and wearing white, I go to the bathroom as soon as I wake up. That way I have to wait at least 24hrs until the next opportunity. I'm holding out from testing again until at least tomorrow, but may try and move that back once I get there as I'm in the WTF cycle so have no idea what's going on. grin

POAS update: No AF, No POAS

WhyAlwaysBoris Tue 29-May-12 07:56:09

Thanks Martha for the new thread. I'm so sorry about your friend. Good luck with your trip today, it sounds very upsetting. I'm thinking of you.

possom, 'every day a day closer to a new pregnancy', that has really helped keep my spirits up, thanks

Butter, welcome, I'm so sorry you find yourself here. Good luck with the POAS and holding out till sensible o'clock. We have a triumvirate of lovely ladies in the TWW at the moment.

Now look, everyone, here was i all excited about our shiny new thread (and being a thread away from knickergate) and now there has already been talk of weeing. blush. Ladies. Behave.

PieMistress Tue 29-May-12 08:33:35

Sorry to hear about your friend martha, I remember you telling us about her before and the care package you were putting together. Big <hugs>, so sorry the outcome wasn't better xxxx

Martha so sorry to hear about your friend sad
fatasbutter welcome. I MCd in early March too. And I'm a serial POASer too. You'll feel right at home here!

Well I've bitten the bullet and restarted Clomid (plus a high dose B vit complex) this morning. Have horrible AF cramps. To my happy surprise I found out I had miscalculated and I have enough Clomid for this cycle and the next if this one doesn't work. Fingers crossed I won't need the second lot though eh (ever the optimist!!)

martha I am so so sorry to hear about your friend, i went through the same with my Grandma in late 2010, all ill say is nothing you want to say to her is silly, say it all. Take care xxxx

My scans tomorrow morning and feel like I'm going to throw up I'm so scared, I couldn't even swallow my folic acid without gagging a lot sad I don't want to go, because today I'm pregnant.

tedmundo Tue 29-May-12 09:49:44

Hi ladies, I am unlurking and hope you don't mind me joining in your thread.

I am also in the same position as fats and twolittlemonkeys that I had a mc in early march and am currently on 8dpo and gagging to test! I am off on hols on Saturday so will likely test on Sat morning with a FRER to see if I can have a boozy blowout or not.

state good luck at the scan tomorrow. How many weeks will you be by then?

martha I wish you well for what must be a very tricky visit. All the best to you and your friend.

Every time I think about peeing on that stick and waiting the 3 mins my brain goes a bit fuzzy and I breathe faster. is this the classic symptom of metalling??

JaffaSnaffle Tue 29-May-12 10:54:51

Welcome to all the new ladies. Hope all of you on 2ww can hold your nerve, and then get lovely BFPs.

Martha, I am so sorry about your friend - it is terribly sad news. I hope you have a special time with her. X

Well, I am having my 16 week scan after lunch. This, for me, is my last 'extra' appointment, so really feels like I am on the edge of normality. I know things can happen later than this, but that is sad knowledge of background risk, not my own experience... And I am not totally terrified after hb on Thurs, just hoping that they don't find abnormalities after the terrible Down's screening result... The Cvs was clear, but keep wondering if the bloods meant something sinister.

kirrinIsland Tue 29-May-12 11:40:19

Morning allsmile

Welcome to fats and Ted

martha so sorry about your friend sad

Jaffa good luck with the scan.

fatasbutter Tue 29-May-12 12:10:21

Thank you all for the warm welcome!

I cracked again this morning and got another BFN but it is WAY too early and I should know better! blush

state massive good luck for scan - thanks to mmc I know I will never enjoy the thought of going for another scan again beforehand, so I can guess how you are feeling...

Will be desperately trying not to test again til Friday (which is only just 4 days before AF is due) and only have one test in the house now...

<ties hands together, and then realises she cannot get to mumsnet...> wink

fatasbutter Tue 29-May-12 12:11:30

Ooh and good luck Jaffa too!

wilderumpus Tue 29-May-12 12:12:26

hey ladies, can i come and hide here with you all please? You all seem so kind and supportive and so I think I should come out of lurkdom and join in smile

I found my baby hadn't developed in March but wasn't allowed to mc until April when blighted ovum was finally diagnosed. Has been bloody hideous and have been getting anxiety attacks and nearly dropped out of uni (finishing PhD thesis in two months) but think I am starting to get back together again... Would love to have another bubba (have a DS, 2), but DH thinks i am too stressed and should wait sad I think trying again would help me be happier and look to the future... ho hum.

Congrats on the new babies, hurrah! And so very sorry to hear about your friend martha. My dear friend has only recently been diagnosed with cancer but she is getting very ill, very quickly. I am really scared and sad about this so really, really feel for you.

so, hello everyone smile

ps ice am not stalking you honest, have left the June ttc thread!

I wrote a long reply then HQ fecked off to the pub so the site went offline.

martha I am so so sorry to hear about your friend, I lost my Grandma to terminal cancer late 2010. All ill say is nothing is too stupid to say, say everything you ever wanted to to her. Take care xxx

I'll be 11+5 tomorrow ted I actually thought I was going to faint each time I've POAS and this time was the worst, so I did it and then went and made all the beds so I didn't have to hover in suspence.

So glad its not just me fatas I just want to cry go to bed and forget all about it. I'm just so scared. There's NO reason for it to happen again, and my symptoms are stronger but I can't shake the "why would it be ok" and the fear.

ConfusedMumDotCom Tue 29-May-12 13:54:50

blooming iPhone I typed out a long post and it vanished. Grrr

Martha I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.

TMI ALERT
Right, this morning I went to the loo and there was a pink smear on the paper after I wiped. Oh I think, that's odd. However, since then, nothing. I have no idea what this means. If it is a prelude to AF, then it is one I have never had before. I don't think it is implantation as DH and I haven't DTD for 9 days - would that be too long ago? Aargh. This WTF cycle is berry well named.

(resigns myself to it being AF on its way)

ConfusedMumDotCom Tue 29-May-12 13:55:46

Ah. The site was down!

(apologises to lovely iPhone)

squeakymac Tue 29-May-12 14:04:55

Hi all can I join puh-leeeese?!

Got a BFP a week ago after a MC at 6 weeks back in March, so quite quick thankfully and I realise we're really lucky it happened for us so soon. But I'm realising that I need some serious handholding for the next few weeks, am soooo nervous that things are going to go belly-up again especially as I enter week 6. I'm finding things really difficult especially the fluctuation in symptoms (that I know is totally normal but still can't help worrying when I've got no MS at all today!!).

So much more difficult when we're not telling any family / friends etc about new BFP - I find I'm still meeting people who are being so lovely to me after the MC and I feel really guilty I can't tell them 'well actually I'm pregnant again' evil guilt!!

Anyway after skimming your earlier threads I've realised these are all issues that you ladies are intimately familiar with....any advice gratefully appreciated and will do my best to return the favour (along with hand-holding and brew and biscuits as needed!)

squeakymac Tue 29-May-12 14:10:03

Oh and BTW nice to see some familiar faces in here icequeenkate and ted from the May / June threads! smile

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