The All New TTC whilst Breastfeeding Support Thread

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haloflo Thu 17-May-12 12:52:09

Have a breastfed baby or toddler? Why not try for another one?! Who needs sleep anyway?

Come join us whether you are waiting for your first period in months or are are a few months into trying.

Hello all,
Just saw this thread and wanted to say I was on a ttc while bf thread a year ago. I dropped day feeds at 8.5 months, mostly as DD wouldn't feed if anything at all could possibly distract her, and latched really badly in the day so i ended up with mastitis twice (agony!) . It had the added bonus of restarting my periods. I concieved my twins when DD was 10 months after 2 periods. No idea when I ovulated etc, we went for The Shagathon approach and dtd every day for a million years it felt like 2.5 weeks, just in case. And ta dah!! I now have three beautiful children, fed DD morning, night and if she woke in the night until she was nearly 15 months and i was 16 weeks pg (too painful to continue).

So it can.be done!!! Go forth and reproduce while bf your Lo smile smile

Oh, and now.I'm ebf my 8 week old twins smile

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid Sat 02-Jun-12 09:34:07

Thanks for sharing dreaming. You must be so busy with a toddler and ebf twins [round of applause].

I ended up taking dd off the breast at 13 months old as I just wasn't getting my periods back even though she was down to just one feed a day at 4pm.

Am currently 7dpo and not too optimistic. My last period, also the first since giving birth, had a really short lp of just 11 days so I think my body still needs to reset itself.

Thinkingof4 Sat 02-Jun-12 15:07:33

Lots more new people on here since last time welcome all! And hats off to peaceful!!
haloflo yes I do work but this new job would be 2.5 days instead of 1.5. They have offered me a shortish contract which I will probably accept. However just to confuse me my current boss has now said I can stay on another 2 years there if I want so a tricky decision will have to be made. Current job gives me security but new job is more hours and money and maybe better prospects if they kept me on beyond the first 6 months, so very tricky. confused
So lucky to have the choice I suppose! grin

Anyway def no swi for me till I know what I'm doing, dh is away so I haven't been able to discuss with him

catdoctor Mon 04-Jun-12 08:22:24

Morning!

Just started using fertility friend - 11 days into first 'cycle' - no period to start things off. I'm very suspicious I have ovulated , how long does it take for the program to start 'noticing' things?

Any old hands out there?

Jakeyblueblue Tue 05-Jun-12 09:41:21

Hi everyone, has been two weeks since I last posted and since the one day of bleeding that I had and this morning I have ewcm! I am Hoping this means that the one day of bleeding was indeed AF and now I have ovulated on time. smile god knows lol!
Welcome to all the new posters since I was last here. Hope to see some positive tests before long grin

BR44 Tue 05-Jun-12 13:41:10

Dreamingofpeace that's brilliant! Congratulations on your twins. Isn't there some evidence that women who are bf when they conceive are more likely to have twins or have I made that up?

Catdoctor, what's Fertility Friend?

Good news Jakeyblueblue!

Nothing new to report from me. My last AF started 9 days ago so I'm waiting for my ov tests to arrive in the post so I can see what's going on this month!

Thinkingof4 Tue 05-Jun-12 18:21:28

catdoctor
I'm not sure tbh, it certainly picks things up if there is spotting or AF to help, but I'm not sure other than that. Are you temping? I'm pretty sure it would pick a pattern up from that. Let us know, it is an interesting question!!
I'm wondering whether I might disappear for a month or two actually. I've accepted a new job starting September so will probably hold off TTC for a wee while till I see how that goes. I might pop in from time to time to see how everyone is going. I want to see lots of BFP's ladies!!

catdoctor Tue 05-Jun-12 21:33:06

Dreaming I am in awe of your peacefulness! Aren't women fab.

Thinking I am temping - all over the place, which I suppose answers question since no thermal shift yet

Brrrr (it's cold enough for a fire tonite) Fertility Friend is free on-line gismo to help you identifty time of ovulation. Loads of useful info.

Any recommendations on which OPKs to try?

Any recommendations on gaining the will to DTD when DH being irritating arse?!

haloflo Wed 06-Jun-12 12:33:38

catdoctor No advice on irritating DHs, lol! I just got cheapie opks from eBay, but other people prefer the smilie face clear blue or supermarket own ones as there is no doubt to weather they are postive or not. I like the quality though, means I can poas every day even during long long cycles.

I think it's wont pin point ovulation until 3 higher temps have been recorded so you won't know until it's too late. I dallied with it when TTC #1 but am staying away this time as it was the route to madness for me.

BR44 I've heard the twin thing too, apparently due to our unpredictable broken bodies..

thinkingof4 Fab news about the Job, we will do our best to get BFPs! Hope to see you soon x

6/7 dpo now and no news, no symptoms but feeling less hormonal than last month which is a good thing. Hopefully things are settling down for me on that front.

DD is sleeping a little better, waking just twice last 3 nights. However she now wont go to bed til late and wants to take mammoth naps. She woke at 7 this morning so hopefully will go to bed about 8 as we were both having awesome lie ins over the jubilee weekend.

Thinkingof4 Mon 11-Jun-12 19:52:51

Blimey I only went away for a few days and everyone has disappeared!!
Anyway just popped back as my cycle has gone a bit weird and just wondering if same has happened to anyone else- I did have a few days at jubilee time where ds3 ended up in bed with me feeding a fair bit and wondering if maybe this has delayed ovulation? Was expecting AF today at the latest. Now slightly panicking about dtd at the weekend without contraception as I assumed it was 'safe'
Mind you if I am pregnant I'd assume it was fate and be delighted anyway. Not sure if my new employers would feel the same though confused

haloflo Mon 11-Jun-12 21:58:27

Guessing you have tested thinking? I think if bfn now then you might be best testing in a couple of weeks in no AF by then. These things happen, probably more likely when timing would be off!

No AF here, am 12 dpo ish. Either longest LP yet or...

Too scared to test, at least til I'm late.

newyearsday Tue 12-Jun-12 09:49:55

Hi again,

My 1st cycle pp ended up being 44 days. Now on CD17 of 2nd cycle and looks like I ov overnight, will have to wait and see if temp stays high. I use fertilityfriend too, my charts are here if anyone wants to see www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2fae6a I'm still having ewcm for ages before ov but it's an improvement on 1st cycle when I had 17days of ewcm. I use One Step ov sticks, really cheap from Amazon. I used them every 3hrs or so yesterday and could see the line getting darker through the day. Managed to time the bd better this time so fingers crossed...

Good luck to those testing soon!

catdoctor Tue 12-Jun-12 11:08:18

Hello all,

getting fed up here - DS 23months now, 1 scanty feed at night, I've had months of crampings, bloatings, random heavy EWCM at 2-3 week intervals, nausea, light headedness - preg test last week negative, still no AF. Getting bored waiting for things to kick into touch.

Perhaps I'm going to head straight into menopause (I'm44) - all other BFing mothers I know have started cycling now with younger DCs/more feeds. Now started getting anxious something sinister going on.

Supportive noises pleeaassee!

catdoctor Tue 12-Jun-12 11:09:21

Sorry, that was self-centered. Fingers crossed for everyone's plans/hopes!!

newyearsday Tue 12-Jun-12 13:26:20

Hi catdoctor it's only 23mths since your last pg so I'm sure you're not heading into menopause! But it's very confusing and frustrating not knowing what's going on inside. In my antenatal group I was also the only one not having periods while BFing. If your last ewcm was 2-3wks ago you may well be pg?

Thinkingof4 Tue 12-Jun-12 15:05:16

haloflo ooh exciting, fx! I haven't actually tested yet as I think chance of bfp is extremely low! Day 34 now but i have once had a 35 day cycle before (annoying when you are TTC as its another week 'lost' each cycle!

catdoctor how frustrating! Is your wee one showing any signs of wanting to wean?

newyearsday I'm not really that great on charts but you def have thermal shift I think so at least you are ovulating!!
I really ought to start temping again so I had a better idea what's going on! confused

I'll wait another few days and I'm sure AF will appear! If not I'll be back! grin

BR44 Tue 12-Jun-12 20:12:26

haloflo that is seriously exciting! I have numerous body parts crossed for you. When are you planning on testing?

Loud supportive noises in everyone else's direction too. I really want one of us to have some happy news soon! Catdoctor, I am sure NYD is right about the menopause - seems very unlikely to me.

I did my first opk today, day 17 in to my cycle. My last cycle was 35 days, so today was when the kit advised I start testing. Just got a very faint line, so we'll see what it looks like over the next few days. Now, on a scale of 1 to 10 how disgusting is it to keep them in my diary for highly scientific comparison purposes? I'm thinking 9.5 but sod it, I'm going to do it anyway...

BR44 Tue 12-Jun-12 20:17:02

newyearsday, just read your post properly - I'm using the same cheapy tests from Amazon! Good idea about testing throughout the day to confirm that you're ovulating - I hadn't thought of that. Fingers crossed for you!

haloflo Tue 12-Jun-12 20:46:40

Thanks - i'm so very nervous of early testing after a chemical pregnancy just before I conceived DD, I keep thinking my mum didn't have HPTs, she just had to wait! (In reality I might test at the weekend!)

BR44 That made me laugh! I literally got one darker, then a positive, otherwise really faint so you might be best DTD anyway! I tended to test after work, or late afternoon. Afternoon is the best time though I believe. I never tested more than once a day though!

newyearsday Hope that temp stays high and a BFP follows in a couple of weeks!

catdoctor We all need to vent sometimes. Have you been to the GP? And agree, do a test as you never know.

thinking Fx to you too!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid Tue 12-Jun-12 22:53:27

Hi haloflo I can definitely recommend waiting till the weekend till testing. I got a faint positive hpt on Saturday (was in France and only had one). Got all excited then when I tested again on Monday it was a bfn.

To rub salt into the wound af still hasn't arrived. I thought you were meant to get your period on time (or only a bit late) with a chemical pregnancy.

Sorry to sound so sad having a bit of a woe is me moment.

As of tomorrow I will be looking on the bright side, am releasing eggs, dh's swimmers are doing well, it just didn't stick but one will soon.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid Tue 12-Jun-12 22:57:47

newyear and BR44 I think I use the same cheap opks from amazon. grin

I also got a bit obsessed with them and was peeing on them every 5 hours. To be fair it worked the (faint) BFP just didn't stick around.

Hope you guys have better luck. Fx

BR44 Wed 13-Jun-12 08:50:18

Very sorry to hear that whenshewasbad. I sometimes think hpts turn us in to our own worst enemies in terms of raising expectations. Fingers crossed for next time. I predict I will also be sadly addicted to the opks by the end of the week!

haloflo - I was thinking the same thing. Seems a bit silly to wait for a little strip to tell me what to do when I could just HAVE SEX ALOT because SEX GETS YOU PREGNANT.

Thinkingof4 Wed 13-Jun-12 18:19:57

whenshewasbad is AF late? Maybe if it doesn't arrive then test again in a few days. I would have thought CP = bleeding so maybe if no bleeding there is still a chance. I hope things work out for you

Well I gave in and poas, but as I expected it was bfn. Still no AF so this cycle is now 35 days and counting. I did have weird pink spotting mid cycle which I thought was maybe due to ovulation but now I'm wondering if that was AF and I just had a really short cycle. confused. So more waititng for me to see what is going on

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid Wed 13-Jun-12 22:08:43

Hi thinking thanks for the message. I have been getting BFNs since Monday so def not pregnant. Am on another conception thread as well as this one and some of the ladies there had chem pregs and they were late for their period too. I think normally af arrives on time but sometimes it takes a while to start up.

On a much brighter note af has just arrived this evening. I feel tones better, am a bit of a control freak and hate not knowing where I am in my cycle.

Sorry your cycle is going a bit haywire it is so frustrating. It could be anything a light af, late ovulation (even a cp). Hope it settles down soon.

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