How to stop obsessing?

[pommedechocolat]

Any tips? With dd I fell pg quickly and never really even thought about ov-ing or anything. Just stopped taking the pill. This time round am on ff, here and am using OPKs. Still nowt so far.
Want to be zen and also enjoy dd rather than thinking about ttc all the time. Am obsessed that it won't happen, that it won't happen in time for a 2 yr age gap which is my ideal and that I am going to hate the whole process rather than enjoying it. Also have told people we're ttc which is really adding to the pressure.
How is everyone else not being weird about ttc and relaxing?!

[Fedupteach]

Bonjour pommedechocolat. What a great nickname (chocolate apple)!

I'm in a similar situation to you. I fell pg with my dd pretty much straight after stopping the pill. Stopped in the Dec. Had one AF in the Jan. and that was it! We have been "casually" ttc no. 2 since Jan. this year (so nearly 6 months) and we are looking at a 3 yr min. age gap now (which is what I was planning for) - max. 4 school years.

Thankfully, I haven't told anyone that we are ttc (although my Mum may have noticed the folic acid tablets in the kitchen!) and am still not at the stage of trying out OPKs (although have considered buying the Clearblue one). I have been tracking my cycles though, as had a fertility issue when dd was born which means that I have not been ovulating every month (but only just recently worked that out).

I'm also getting quite obssessed with the whole thing, as apart from the fertility issue, age is not on my side either. I will be 36 next month!

Can I ask how old you are and how long you have been ttc?

[pommedechocolat]

4 cycles and I am 30 and a half :)
I know 4 cycles isn't lots but I just didn't expect - like you have never actually ttc before. Now reading about it and learning I am coming to feel like it's such a lottery I don't know how anyone gets pregnant ever!

[Fedupteach]

I know exactly what u mean! I'm also starting 2 think what a miracle it was that we conceived our dd when we did.

The hardest part 4 me is that most of my friends have already had their 2nd dc and they keep asking when we will have another. I get so annoyed I just say "maybe never" and try to leave it at that!

I also wish I could focus more on my dd instead of getting sidetracked all the time. Afterall, we are lucky to have her.

[Davinaaddict]

I know the feeling - we've been trying for 3 months now & every month I've been convinced I've been pregnant right up until I come on :-( I know I need to stop stressing about it cos that really won't help, but it's so hard not to. DS is now 16 months & took just 4 months to conceive, so I guess I've been thinking it would be quicker second time around - the whole 'my body knows what to do now'. Any tips on how not to stress about it would be gratefully received!