why is it so hard to conceive 2nd baby?!

[cheekycurls]

having trouble second time round, i never knew it would be so hard after i conceived my first second month after stopping the pill!

i've now become obsessed (which is not helping things)

the ups and down are hard, i'm an emotional wreck with no one to talk to apart from DP who i think is getting sick of me going on about babies so try my hardest no to bring up babies every time i speak!!

tried everything and feel like i'll never have another beautiful baby made even harder by my DD who is now asking why she don't have a baby brother or sister in my head i'm screaming 'I'M TRYING!!!' but end up coming up with 'some people just don't have brothers or sisters' while holding the tears back

sorry for this 'woe is me' post but just needed to vent

[emmaloupolman]

I have been ttc number 2 for 19 months now i also feel quickly with first after coming of the pill but i founf out after a year of trying that i have pcos and am now taking clomid

Hope it happens for you soon

[ShowOfHands]

Funny old thing ttc. Happens the other way round too. Years ttc no 1 and falling pregnant first shag try with no 2.

How long have you been trying?

[cheekycurls]

thanks emma hope it happens soon for u :)

i've even considered going on the pill for a few months to come off it and fall pregnant again!! (how sad i know)

i have been trying for 2 half years, first year not trying trying but just having a good time but still nothing....
i've not use any contraception since i came off pill before my DD was born she is 4! i had a stillborn just over 3 years ago (fell pregnant very soon after DD) but not had 1 (confirmed) pregnancy since and i'm struggling to understand why/what's wrong!

i know i should be happy with what i have and trust me i AM my DD is the best thing that's ever happened to me and i could cry (happy tears) just looking at her!! and as selfish as it sounds i want to surround myself loads of amazing children, i've always dreamed of a big family!
just can't fight this feeling of failure that i can't do the one thing women are supposed to do!!

some days are just too hard to cope :(

[emmaloupolman]

I know how u fill cheekycurls. My friend started 2 take some of my contraceptive pills 2 come off them again and then found out she was already pregnant.
Have you not been and got checked out as you have been trying for so long?
When is af due?

[cheekycurls]

Af is due on 19th may and ovulating soon so have to get my sexy head on sigh

i have been to the doctors first appointment a year ago and have only had blood work done & everything is fine on that front

i do have hughes syndrome knew this after 2 early mc's years before my DD was born

after alot of pushing,appointments, phone calls & 11 weeks later i have finally got a date to see a acute gynae but i already know what she is going to say & pre warned by GP that they will say i need to lose a bit of weight (i'm not huge but my BMI is in the over weight mark) so i've not even looking forward to that or can get the slightest bit excited about moving forward on that front

just seems like i'm stuck in a never ending circle of AF,waiting for OV then the dreaded 2WW

from what i've read/seen on here clomid has worked for so many fingers crossed it works for u!!
is this ur first cycle on it?

[emmaloupolman]

I have taken 3 months 2 moths was 50mg and last month was 100mg a high chance of multiples i am also a twin and i am getting married june i am in 2ww af due 7th may x

[cheekycurls]

ooooh fingers doubled cross for u!!! :D
2ww is quite possibly the worst time ever (i'm very impatient!)

[emmaloupolman]

I'll second that seems like 2 months not weeks x