Hi, can you ladies give me some advice? I am due to have treatment in a couple of months at a clinic in Greece as I need egg donation due to POF (found out aged 16 and well adjusted to it), and we also need sperm donation as DH has a chromosome abnormality (which has taken him a fair few years to adjust to).
I am now 45 and he is 48 and over the last 10 years we have had: three attempts at IVF with egg-share in the UK, which ended in miscarriages as his chromosome abnormality wasn't diagnosed until after the third; one go at pre-implantation genetic diagnosis, but all embies were affected with unbalanced translocations so not viable; we tried adoption, but our match didn't work out (won't go into details here); then started to consider double-donor IVF.
So here we are! Basic problem is that DH is currently very against having a kid - says he's HAD ENOUGH, he's TOO OLD, it'll be TOO MUCH WORK, he wants to have a life now and that he's FED UP with this whole kid-treadmill which he feels has taken over the last 10 years. I do understand how he feels but I'm still keen to have this last go, although I also worry I might be to old to keep up with a small child, and from my time when we tried to adopt I know that having kids is exhausting, and quite a lot of it is very boring challenging. I like to lie in bed, read books, and need time on my own to think etc so sometimes I do feel like giving up with this quest for a child, but then I panic and think I really don't want to be "childfree". I also don't want to risk my relationship with DH. So,as you can see I am very confused as to what to do! Sorry to go on, but I feel like I'm going mad here - any words of wisdom?!
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Peona · 27/02/2011 19:17
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