Has anyone done this? Any regrets?

Dont know what to do really. Always spend with family/friends, but, this year I feel out of place and a bit lost. Long story, bereavements have been what has triggered all of this mainly.

Part of me wants to make the journey as I always do, to spend with family, but, the other part of me wants to curl up under the duvet and watch tv all day. I just think maybe on the day I will end up regretting this. I do have the car so last minute bookings for trains etc wont be an issue.

Just wondered if anyone has had this too and how it worked for them.

ive spent many xmasses alone when ive had to work a small part of xmas (eg xmas eve nightshift then come home to an empty house)
its fine if you have something planned to treat yourself like a nice breakfast, a good film on the telly and the phone off the hook (if you so wish)

ive spent many xmasses alone when ive had to work a small part of xmas (eg xmas eve nightshift then come home to an empty house)
its fine if you have something planned to treat yourself like a nice breakfast, a good film on the telly and the phone off the hook (if you so wish)

will you be totally alone, or would you have dc or even animnals for company?

I wonder if you are little low in mood....you mention bereavement. I find esp after bereavement it is best to be around family ...however much they annoy me

alone.
Come from big family so always big thing at christmas, but, both parents have passed and sibblings all have own families.
I suppose its the fear of the unknown.

PJ its true. I get like this sometimes especially around this time of year, mum died christmas eve and now with dad gone too the centre of the family unit has gone.

what do you feel you would like to do? I'm sorry about your bereavement magic, Am with pipin on the fact that some company is great and you could always leave again after lunch if you felt you would prefer to spend the rest of the day alone?

I would go for a compromise and just go for lunch/evening/ whichever part of the day you would prefer. Then you will also have plenty of time for yourself.

Sorry to hear about your bereavements too. It's particularly difficult when they fall at this time of the year, when most people are being festive and jolly.

Thanks for your messages of support.

There is a 7hr car journey involved tho.
Because I have the car there is an option to make mind up on christmas eve, then drive back that night. I'm probably being stupid.

there is nothing wrong with wanting to spend it alone
go for a lovely long walk
make yourself a nice meal and snuggle under the blankets at night
give yourself time to think
you can always phone your family

of course you are not being stupid.

Things are different this year and you feel differently about it all naturally.

As you say at least you have the option to drive yourself there if you feel like it.

How about driving up xmas eve, stayng for pressies,, lunch etc (longer if you are enjoying yourself of course ) and then you can take a leisurely drive back down in the afternoon.

Or do you have friends locally you could join for lunch if you fancied that?

Actually, maybe if you really ant to spend it at home on your own, then is there a local friend you could use for 'back-up' to pop and have lunch, tea or a drinky if you fancied?

Hi, sorry I had to log off.
BB There are a few friends around, most will be going away tho.

I reckon I will still be worrying about this come 24th.

Grief is a very strange thing. One minute your living in your little secure/routine bubble then it's all swept from under you.

where abouts are you magic?

South East

i am south west. near bristol. can you plan a day out or something you can do alone?

i am south west. near bristol. can you plan a day out or something you can do alone?

Kind of hoping the weather will be dry and maybe even snowing then if I feel like it I an go for a good walk. Nothing worse than feeling miserable and having miserable weather to match lol

Hi magic, I'm sorry about your parents. I lost my dad September and this will be my first christmas without him.

You mention you have brothers of sisters, are you close ??
I was wondering if you explained to them how you feel perhaps you could find a happy solution for you.

I will be with my family christmas day, just all together trying to get through it !! I feel sad that you might be on your own.

Sorry if thats not helpful, and to be on your own is what you want.

I wish you a nice christmas anywayxx

MofC sorry about your parents...I undersatnd lost my brother 5 years ago. It is hard at Xmas but you have the annivers as well.

My advice be with family and join in the celebrating of those memories that can never be taken away. Kife is to short to stay alone.

PJ x

Sorry but I agree with you PipinJo, life is much too short to be on your own. I would try to get through the day with your loved ones.

Good luck xx