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My 7 yr old is very short what to feed him to make him grow

(53 Posts)
TheSerene Fri 22-Mar-13 11:05:28

Compared to all the other in his class am worried I don't feed him enough looking to enrich his food what food do you tall children like to eat ? It is now affecting his confidence feel so sorry for him

lljkk Fri 22-Mar-13 11:08:28

lol, how tall are his parents?
There's a growth pattern in DH family of being very small until puberty & then sprouting past them. Any history like that?

SpringtimeForShatner Fri 22-Mar-13 11:09:40

Lots of boys do most of their growing when they're in their teens. Don't worry about it, I'm sure you're not doing anything wrong with his diet.

TheSerene Fri 22-Mar-13 11:09:58

Heis about a foot shorter than others we are about 5ft 2 and 5 ft 8 so average
No history of that growth pattern that I know of

I don't think diet is going to help.

You just have to wait for a growth spurt. Is he the youngest in his class?

I was always the smallest, it's fine.

defineme Fri 22-Mar-13 11:18:22

A foot shorter is a lot actually. I would measure his height and weight and put them into the nhs bmi calculator-that will tell you if he's underweight. I would also chat to the school nurse-every primary school should have an allocated one-they will have advice for you. I would also ask my gp too. Some kids do need injections to make them grow-there is a child having growth hormone in my kids year 3 class.
On the other hand, please don't be offended, but I would say you and your dh are quite small-I think both those heights are under the national average, are there other small people in the family?

lljkk Fri 22-Mar-13 11:22:38

What Defineme said.
That said, I don't think you & your DH are average at all, you're definitely short.
Nothing wrong with that, just don't be surprised if your DC are short, too.

Do you have the growth charts in the red book? Is he following a line, showing him going up to a height somewhere between you and DH once he's adult? If so, then I think he is just the height he'd be expected to be at his age.

His diet won't be stopping him from growing, unless he is either being really underfed (ie going hungry) or his diet is really poor (but you'd also see that in poor skin, lack of energy, being lethargic, etc).

TheSerene Fri 22-Mar-13 11:41:28

He's full of energy and so active off to find red book

forevergreek Fri 22-Mar-13 11:46:28

I would say he is average. If you are both 5'2, and 5'8 then he's unlikely to be taller than 5'8 as an adult ( poss a little more)

My dh on the other hand is 6'4, so I would expect our children to maybe be taller.

lljkk Fri 22-Mar-13 11:53:00

I've got a red book here, if you want a lookup.
If he is truly 12" shorter than peers than he is indeed very short.
However, 10cm shorter than class average, 4", would put him on about 9th percentile, reasonable considering his parents' heights.

DS was about 25th %tile for height at age 7 & now at 13yo is 75th %tile, I reckon he's only just started puberty, too.

BeaWheesht Fri 22-Mar-13 13:38:04

How tall is he? Ds for example is 6 but 128cm - he is very tall though. ALOT of his friends are probably around 110cm I would say

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 22-Mar-13 13:43:57

OP...you are small....your partner is average in the UK for an adult male. for women 5.5 is average. Your son may simply be short but he needs to be confident in himself no matter what...feeding him well will help him to be healthy but not affect his height.

puddock Fri 22-Mar-13 13:49:27

Me and DP are the same sort of height as you and your DP, and our DS1 is shortest in his (reception) class too. The school nurse gave us a call after they did weighing and measuring recently, he's between 2nd and 9th percentile for height - I get the impression that unless there's a hormone/thyroid issue to treat (and assuming they're eating and sleeping and all that) there's not a lot that can be done.
I do worry about it a bit, though I never minded being short myself - there's this received wisdom that it's tougher for boys to be short... but I'm sure not to let DS - or his brother, who I'd guess is going to be taller - know about that.

ClockWatchingLady Fri 22-Mar-13 16:32:42

My DS (6.5) is short (9th %ile), considering that I'm tallish (over 5'6'') and DP average (5'8''-5'9''). I've spent many an hour agonising over it, and have taken him to 3 different GPs, none of whom seemed to bat an eyelid. As long as they seem to be approximately following a centile line it seems no one worries

GreatUncleEddie Fri 22-Mar-13 16:34:47

That's right, it is if they start crossing the centile lines on their chart that you get referred

ClockWatchingLady Fri 22-Mar-13 16:37:00

By the way lljkk - I like this story smile

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Fri 22-Mar-13 16:38:38

Either he is short for a medical reason or he is just short naturally. Healthy diet can only help him reach his potential but if you have concerns you need to go to the GP.

Unless your DS is malnourished, I don't think feeding him anything different is going to make him grow taller, just weight more!

5'2" is short, no doubt about it so your DS may take after you. Unless your DS is off the scale small (a foot does sound an awful lot though when most of his age are getting to be around 4' ish ) he might well grow into be a short man.

Just as an example, my MIL is 5'2" and FIL is about 5'7" and their boys ended up at 5'5", 5'7" and 5'9"(DH). They aren't the tallest family but not so obviously short it is a massive disadvantage.

I would get him checked out by a GP if he is losing ground and not following his line in the red book. If he is then you just have to accept he is short and find ways of dealing with the confidence issue.

clam Fri 22-Mar-13 16:59:13

My ds was always somewhere between the 2nd and the 9th centile. I'm 5'8" and I've heard that boys always end up taller than their mothers, although dh is short. DS didn't really hit puberty until about 15 either - he looked very young compared to his peers, who were all deep voices, massive feet and bumfluff. If I'd had a pound for every person who told me he'd have a growth spurt soon, I'd be rich. But I was worried enough to talk to the doctor about it, in case there was some sort of growth hormone we could try - upshot was that you don't muck about with those drugs unless it's really serious.

Anyway, in the last year he has shot up, his voice has broken and he doesn't look out-of-place with his peers at all. In fact, one particular lad who was about 5'10 in Year 7, and looked huge then compared with ds, hasn't grown at all since, and he and ds are now only a couple of inches apart.

The good news for ds is that it's never dented his confidence - he's very articulate and into music and drama. He has never been bullied about his size although we primed him early on that the minute he let anyone see it might be an issue for him, then the floodgates could open. We gave him a few jokey retorts to use and he's been fine. He's very handsome <<boast>> and now the girls are flocking round him so I think he's going to do OK.

Try not to worry!

Startail Fri 22-Mar-13 17:11:22

Yes, smaller boys can be the last to grow.
DFs had parents about you and DPs hight, her little brother was always little. He was still little when I went to university.

Then one holiday I was in the pub and a familiar face looked down on me. Suddenly a good two years after his peers he'd shot up to being way taller than me and probably taller than his dad.

Booyhoo Fri 22-Mar-13 17:15:19

diet wont change his height unless you have barely been feeding him! check his height again at the end of october, they all shoot up over the summer.

clam Fri 22-Mar-13 17:28:14

"they all shoot up over the summer."
hmm Really?

chartreuse Fri 22-Mar-13 17:37:08

I don't think his diet will make much difference. If he is considerably smaller than his classmates, go to your GP. My ds is like this and was monitored over a couple of years, and had multiple tests to see if there was an underlying cause. Analysis of a bone xray showed that he won't have a growth spurt in his teens, and he will always be 'on the small side of average' according to his consultant. It is genetic, my grandfather was small and I'm only 5'3". However, there could be other causes for your ds, so I would investigate if I were you.

It's tough on ds, he's almost 13 but wears age 9-10 clothes. He has been bullied over it, and we are constantly working on his self-esteem.

Booyhoo Fri 22-Mar-13 17:37:55

what's with the hmm?

Serene, my DS is the same. I have a very nice GP who is very patient & reassuring with me & we are getting him regularly measured & checked in his red book. DS is 9, in year 4 & his peers are head & shoulders taller than him. He's baby- faced too, so he wouldn't look out of place in year 2!
Take him to see the doctor, even if it's just for reassurance. My DS IS growing- but very slowly. I feel better knowing that if there is a medical problem, it will be picked up.
I know how you feel, I was very worried & I hope you get some reassurance. smile

clam Fri 22-Mar-13 17:48:39

Is that based on scientific research?

Booyhoo Fri 22-Mar-13 17:50:57

yes

nocake Fri 22-Mar-13 17:55:34

Kids don't shoot up over the summer. If anything their growth is likely to be faster in spring.

OP, you're both below average height so your DS has a double dose of short genes. That means he is likely to end up pretty short. There's no harm in getting a doc to check him over but don't be surprised if the answer is that he's perfectly healthy.

spottyparrot Fri 22-Mar-13 17:58:38

Op, my ds is the tallest in his entire year group. It's because me and dh are too. Ds eats very little, he is fussy!

colditz Fri 22-Mar-13 18:01:42

You are both short, not average, so don't be surprised that your child is short. If he is genuinely the shortest seven year old by 30 centimetres, take him to the doctor, but I actually doubt it. What age trousers does he wear?

PointeShoes Fri 22-Mar-13 18:08:20

Bannanas

clam Fri 22-Mar-13 18:18:34

I'd love to see a link to that research.
I've only ever heard anecdotal 'evidence' re: the summer, mainly from teachers who haven't seen their classes for 6 weeks. It's similar to grandparents and elderly relatives who like to proclaim how much kids have grown.

Sadly, no one ever said that to my ds. Until recently.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Fri 22-Mar-13 18:18:39

diet won't help. To stunt a child's growth through diet would really be something! It's simply not likely in this country today.

you can't stimulate growth through diet either.

His genes will determine his height.

click here

and here

not sure how scientific they are, but they at least show that it is parents height that matters.

I did read something that you should double their height at 2 and that will be their adult height. Don't know if that's true or not. seems a bit odd to me.

Booyhoo Fri 22-Mar-13 18:21:16

i would love to show you but it's classified wink

clam Fri 22-Mar-13 18:24:21

Aha! It's as I thought. bollocks. grin

Booyhoo Fri 22-Mar-13 18:25:42

i can neither confirm or deny that. wink

nagynolonger Fri 22-Mar-13 18:53:32

I'm sure genes are responsible for height but something else must be involved.

DH is 5'10 and I'm 5'4. I thought that was about average.

DS 19 year old is 6'1
DS 17 year old is 6'4
DS 16 year old is 5'9.
They might still have more growing to do.

FWIW I have found that mine had their biggest growth spurt between school years 9 and 10.

nagynolonger Fri 22-Mar-13 18:55:54

All 3 are very active. Does doing sport make DC taller?

MousyMouse Fri 22-Mar-13 19:36:03

the 'measure at 2 & double' worked out pretty accurately with some of my male relatives.
but I guess it is just a good guide and not really acurate/scientifically proven.
there are a number of measurements that can be taken. like x-rays of wrists, blood tests.

clam Fri 22-Mar-13 19:50:16

So, we have theories of feeding them up to make them taller, a dose of "summer" and now signing them up for tennis lessons.

What is this, the "make it up as you go along" school of science? hmm

nagynolonger Fri 22-Mar-13 20:04:25

So if it's all genes how did DH and me produce a 6'4'' son. He wasn't a big baby and was only average height until he shot up at 13.

nagynolonger Fri 22-Mar-13 20:10:39

If the OP is worried she should talk to GP or the school nurse. I'm not sure what happens now but my DC all had their height and weight checked in primary school.

lljkk Fri 22-Mar-13 20:15:25

Actually, I am pretty sure that overfeeding does make them taller, I've known too many cases of very fat kids who also became very tall for age. I'm convinced the over-nourishment became a factor in their height.

But it's a risky strategy, could be lumbered with being fat for life.

clam Fri 22-Mar-13 20:18:50

A baby's genes will not just be from its two parents, but also from previous generations, surely?

chartreuse Fri 22-Mar-13 20:27:20

That's what we were told clam, my short GF passed on his height gene to ds

nagynolonger Fri 22-Mar-13 20:27:26

You would think so but if anything we have shorter to average grandparents and grt grandparents.

I'm sure sport/exercise does make a difference to a girls height. Girls who do lots of sport tend to start periods later.

Bunbaker Fri 22-Mar-13 20:48:39

"5ft 2 and 5 ft 8 so average"

The average height for a man in the UK is 5'9" and a woman is 5'4", so your son is unlikely to attain average height.

How tall is he?

If he really is 12" shorter than his peers I think a visit to the GP to rule out coeliacs or any other issues is needed.

colditz Fri 22-Mar-13 21:01:09

Being taller than their peers makes hidden better at sports tab. Their peers, and therefore more likely to continue playing and succeed

TicTacSir Fri 22-Mar-13 21:13:20

Just be thankful for a healthy and happy DS!!!!!! Ignore all the anecdotal nonsense about 'taller=better/fitter/sportier/happier/more attractive' etc. It's bollocks. It takes all sorts to make a world. Who wants to be average, anyway?

narmada Sat 23-Mar-13 22:23:11

OP have you kept a record of his height over the years? I don't think absolute height is an issue as long as he is somewhere on the chart and as long as he is not plunging through the centiles - e.g., was 50th as a baby, slowly gone down over time to 2nd percentile or something like that.

megandraper Mon 25-Mar-13 15:11:40

Haven't read whole thread so sorry if someone's mentioned it. But maybe consider a coeliac test? DS1 (age 5) grew only 1cm in the year before he was diagnosed, and 10 cm in the year after he went gluten-free...

zumm Thu 28-Mar-13 19:22:58

bed I'm slightly concerned my son may be coeliac - may I ask: what were your son's symptoms (aside from lack of growth) - thanks for any feedback!

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