Mumsnetters aren't necessarily qualified to help if your child is unwell. If you have any serious medical concerns, we would urge you to consult your GP.

So, Dd's op is almost certainly next week. Any hints or tips for our hospital stay would be great, as would some virtual wine LOL

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It was sprung on us yesterday lol. One minute the consultant was saying it would be about 6-8 weeks, and the next, the nurse was calling us back through the door and asking us if we'd like it done next week.

We find out for certain on Monday morning.

I'm making a list of things that me and dd both need to take in, and have got essentials covered, but I'm sure there are things that I have probably missed, so any ideas would be great smile

Dd is 15 btw if that helps.

Seeline Thu 14-Feb-13 12:38:12

Will she need to stay in for a while or be home fairly quickly?
Will she be mobile?
Childrens ward or adult ward? (I remember having my wisdon teeth out at that age and being thoroughly wrong-footed by the fact I was on an adult ward with loads of old ladies - I hadn't been prepared at all)

Sirzy Thu 14-Feb-13 12:40:53

How long is she likely to be in? Will she be mobile?

Depending what she is having done think about clothes which will maintain her dignity and be comfy.

Minatures of shampoo, handcream, shower gel etc

Plenty of books and magazines. Does she have a kindle?

Are you staying over with her?

She will be on a children's ward, and in for between 7-10 days. First 24 hours will be on HDU, and then the rest on a spinal ward. She's having spinal fusion surgery so mobility will be limited.

She has a kindle yes, so that will be really useful, and she's got some books art stuff.

I will be staying with her all the time.

Hello original. I had spinal fusion a couple of years ago. I was in no fit state to shower or wash my hair for the entire hospital stay tbh. Shower gel and sponge is good for bed baths. Dry shampoo definitely but it wont make any dent on the glue in herhair if she has neuro thingies on her head.

What is the fusion for? Mine was for scoliosis, i still have before and after pictures up on myprofile, you are more than welcome to show her.

Take some talc. It got very hot when i was on ward and i couldnt move very well without help so talc made it a bit more comfortable.
Take sanitary towels if she has her periods, the stress of the op brought mine on early.

Because of the high dosage painkillers i couldnt concentrate on reading at all a great comfort was some women on the ward doing crosswords , i was shouting out the answers to questions she'd asked 10 minutes before, i was that out of it onmorphine!
Prepare for a lot oftears original. It's a hard op i wish your dd every success.

Sirzy Thu 14-Feb-13 14:20:30

Dry shampoo!

Lots of snacks and drinks. What are you going to eat? Do they have a parents room with fridge and microwave?

momb Thu 14-Feb-13 14:30:05

When I was on morphine and not really up to reading I watched films. Someone lent me a portable dvd player but a tablet would do it these days. Fun simple programmes and films that she doesn't have to think about too deeply.
Hand cream (the air in hospitals is always really drying and she will appreciate having soft feet and hands) and maybe a manicure set so you can pamper her while she's laid up.

Startail Thu 14-Feb-13 14:38:28

Audio books would also need less concentration than reading.

Seeline Thu 14-Feb-13 14:42:06

lots of different drinks. It's always so hot in hospitals and water is very boring after a while.

Oh yes hand lotion and vaseline for lips and nose, i chewed through my lip during the op so my lips were particularly painful. Plus she'll be on oxygen so her nose will get very dry and painful.

Malteser bunnies keptme happy though!

Madsometimes Thu 14-Feb-13 14:56:04

I had major surgery, and also got my period in ICU. The nurses provided pads while I had my catheter in, but once I was mobile I needed my own.

I also couldn't concentrate on reading, but enjoyed trashy magazines that were not too taxing. I liked visitors, but also liked it when they went, so prearrange a signal with her, so that you can tell when she has had enough. She probably wont want to tell her friends to leave, so that will come down to you.

Madsometimes Thu 14-Feb-13 14:59:42

Most wards are fine about mobiles, apart from ICU. So bring in her mobile so she can text friends. I bought a cheap PAYG, and boy did I get through my credit. I didn't have much else to do apart from text.

I remeber thinking wooo lots of time to mumsnet but didnt even have the concentration to do that! Once i was back at my mums i watched a lot of most haunted... at the time i thought it was great! I must have been completely offmy rocker!

Will you be going down to theatre with her? If you are, you might want to be more prepared than I was when DS1 had a minor op a few years ago.

I was with him when they put him to sleep (just outside the operating theatre). I hadn't expected to be as shaken up as I was by seeing him go under and wheeled in for his procedure - it made me quite tearful. A kind nurse told me afterwards that most parents get upset, but nobody told me beforehand.

I hope it all goes well for your DD.

Thanks all, this is very helpful.

I will reactivate her love film account so she can watch some films, and have added sanitary towels and dry shamppo to the ever growing list.

ABF - Dd's op is for Scoliosis too smile Going to have a peek at your pics now.

Oh wow, that is a fab result grin

I shall show dd later.

Neithershredding - I am going down to theatre yes. I will probably be ok unless dd gets upset, and then I will be useless lol.

No idea what i'm gonna eat btw. There is a parents room, with fridge and microwave though so it will probably be pasta pots and things. Ive had no time to put any money up seeing as it has been sprung on us a bit, so using the canteen etc won't be an option.

If you or your dd have any questions then pleasd do not hesitate to pm me. It's such a scary thing to go through with.

Thank you ABF. Dd has so far been very laid back about the whole thing, but I am expecting her to fall apart a bit on the day.

I am not particularly worried about the op, but her recovery, as she really has no idea of the amount of pain she will be in.

Sirzy Thu 14-Feb-13 15:22:38

Do you have someone who can bring you in food to warm up? Some cup a soup type things will probably come in handy for dinner. Ready meals as crap as they taste do the job as something to eat.

The parents room at our hopsital has bread for toast which sorted breakfast and dinner and tea

nursingdreams Thu 14-Feb-13 15:24:04

Make sure before she goes to theatre she understands how to use what ever pain medication she will have afterwards normally a button she can press to get doses of morphine. We don't allow parents to stay overnight on our HDU so you may want to check with your specific hospital to see if that is an option.

Depending on how long the surgery is she may end up with pressure marks especially on her elbows and knees, ankles and forehead as they are often laying on the front for a long time nice smelling lotion is always good. In the longer term bring things she'll enjoy like an ipod or a DVD player and a wash bag and loose clothes like PJs or jogging bottoms the less you bring the better. In the short term bring healthy food, t-bags or coffee and perhaps powdered milk or fresh and keep it in a cool bag as other parents will 'help themselves' if its in a joint fridge. Get as much involvement with the school teacher as possible as soon as possible, it will be a great distraction and gives her something to do.

If you are staying all the time get someone to bring you in fresh fruit/vegetables every day and maybe frozen meals or home cooked and then brought in in a cool bag. It will be tough but you need to leave your daughters bedside for at least an hour a day and take a walk outside so you can clear your head and get fresh air. Make sure you bring a lot of stuff for you to do as there will be a school teacher and play specialists to entertain her but very little for you to do!

The worst pain ive ever experienced in my life. sad

But it's all worth it. Im 2 inches taller!

Sirzy Thu 14-Feb-13 15:26:12

On the milk front when DS is in my mum always brings me a small flask with milk in which keeps it cool enough to use.

Sirzy Thu 14-Feb-13 15:28:48

Painkillers for you

Ohh painkillers, yes, i will need those.

Have just had a minor wibble and cry about it all in the shower.

I feel like I want someone to hold my hand while i'm holding dd's lol.

Sirzy Thu 14-Feb-13 21:34:27

We can provide cyber handholding. Do you have much real life support?

If your worried while she is in then talk to the staff, they are used to parents panicing over little things I have had more than one nurse sit with me while i cry!

Hmm I do and I don't Sirzy.

I'm a single parent, but xp will be with me on the day of the op, and will be visiting daily. My mum is going to stay with my other two dc (although they aren't happy about that), and my brother and my dad will more than likely visit too.

We saw the Anesthetist today, so he could do his checks. All of that went fine, so all we can do now is wait for the call on Monday.

Hope all goes well for your DD and you Original.

Thank you ABF. I showed your pics to dd, and she was very impressed smile

steppemum Fri 15-Feb-13 23:06:42

when i was on children's ward with dd2, parents room was rubbish, tv and a drinks machine, with revolting tea.

But the lady bringing round the tea trolley got to know me pretty quickly. dd2 didn't drink tea obviously, and so she would pour me 2 mugs. And if I was in the playroom, she still left the mugs for me!

There were 2 different canteens. One was expensive coffee shop, but the other one had lots of good cheap food, and it really wasn't expensive to have a hot meal there. Ask the nurses what there is.

starfishmummy Fri 15-Feb-13 23:41:51

Original - you may end up sleeping on a camp bed on the ward so my tips are pyjama trousers/leggings with a long top for you to sleep in. Nurses won't always make sure the bed curtains are closed - one poor mum had her half bare bum on display to all and sundry! Likewise something warm to layer up in - wards tend to be over hot in the day but cold at night. Same applies for your dd - I have seen parents take in fleece blankets or even their kids duvet.

Ds is having fusion later this year too.

starfishmummy Fri 15-Feb-13 23:45:04

Oh and a cheap mug/teaspoon - some kids wards have facilities to make tea/coffee and mugs are always in short supply. Make sure you keep it in the locker or it will disappear!

HazeltheMcWitch Fri 15-Feb-13 23:55:51

Things I have really liked having in hospital are an eye mask and ear plugs - to help me sleep when lights were on and it was noisy.
Also - nail stuff - eg a nail file and scissors/clippers. I went nearly bonkers at having a snagged nail, and no way to sort it, when I was in hosp, and had nothing else to think about.
Also - a nice straw, or a few spare disposable ones, if she's immobile. They always seem to drop out drinks, onto the floor, and there are never any spares...
Maybe some puzzle books? After an op, my brain turns to mush. Even Heat mag seemed tricky; I'd read the same page over and over. But sudoku was just about my level.
Maybe also some eye drops/that optrex spay for stingy eyes?

hope it all goes well for you both. When people ask if they can do anything to help, could you ask them to bring in lunch or dinner? Hospital food is disheartening; you'll feel better with proper food in you.

Wolfiefan Fri 15-Feb-13 23:58:59

Hi. Remember your earlier thread about seeing consultant. Wow that was quick.
Wishing you and DD all the best. Hands to hold here always. X

Oh god yes straws I'd forgotten about those!

I was gutted when they started giving me proper cups and not the sealed spill proof beakers I was still really shaky and weak.

I'm glad she was impressed by the pictures, the after pic was taken about a week and a half after the operation.

Thanks for all of the tips. We should hear this afternoon if she is going in later today, for surgery tomorrow, so fingers crossed for that.

Got most things suggested on this thread, but have run out of money now so anything else will have to wait until wednesday when i get my tax credits. Dd has everything she needs, which is the main thing.

Have cleaned the house from top to bottom so we don't come home to a mess, and my mum is staying here anyway, so i'm sure she will keep on top of it for me.

Janey46 Mon 18-Feb-13 10:06:18

I'm sure you know this but just in case.... Lots of painkillers can make you very constipated (particularly codeine based ones) - if your dd is on these at any point please ask for lactulose to be given along side. Constipation while recovering from such a serious op could be very painful <remembers crying on the loo after c-section>
Good luck to your dd, AmazingBouncingferret's photos are amazing, I'm positive your dd's op will be just as successful.

Thanks Janey. The hospital have already mentioned that, but I will keep a check on it too.

I've had 3 sections, so I remember it well.

Had the call. Got to be there for between 2-4 today, and surgery first thing tomorrow xshock

I hope all goes well tomorrow.

LIZS Mon 18-Feb-13 13:26:15

Hope it goes well and that dd is ok.

Sirzy Mon 18-Feb-13 15:09:58

Good luck

Dd went down to theatre about 9am and should be taken to Hdu about 4pm.
Watching her go off to sleep talking gibberish wasn't the nicest thing but she was really really brave.

HazeltheMcWitch Tue 19-Feb-13 14:14:40

Nut - fingers crossed that all goes well and she's back up soon. Hope you are being kind to yourself while all this is going on.

WoollyEyedandWittering Tue 19-Feb-13 19:22:25

Hi Nut. Hope your dd is doing week and that the operation went smoothly.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Tue 19-Feb-13 19:29:39

Hope everything went well today

LIZS Tue 19-Feb-13 19:31:45

Thinking of you both.

She came out if the op at about 2pm yesterday, onto HDU. She was so brave and did really well. She had some morphine and an epidural and we had an hour if hilarious drugged up chat about unicorns and fairies lol.

Last night she was in quite a bit if pain so she's been given a morphine pump, and then she managed a few hours sleep.

She is doing so well though smile

I am ok, a bit tired and stressed but coping ok.

HazeltheMcWitch Wed 20-Feb-13 09:46:12

Good to hear that she is doing well! Make sure she stays on top of the pain.

ALso make sure that you get some sleep, and enough to eat and drink also.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Wed 20-Feb-13 22:03:24

Hope the pain has been under control today and that you both get some good sleep tonight.

Hi all, 3 days post op and she's walked up and down the corridor today smile
She's doing really really well and can't wait to get home x

LIZS Fri 22-Feb-13 12:23:59

Pleased she is doing so well, when might she go home ?

They've just said home sun/mon cos she's done so well smile

We're home grin

Dd had ticked all of the boxes, so we were set free today lol.

Sirzy Sat 23-Feb-13 21:26:53

Fantastic. Glad it all went well

IwishIwasmoreorganised Sun 24-Feb-13 13:21:30

That's great.

Tell her to take it easy though, and make sure she carries on with the exercises.

Thanks. She's not been given any exercises, just been told to make sure she doesn't sit in the same position for too long.

Had a good night last night, with her only waking once to go the loo, and that was it, no extra pain relief needed.

LIZS Sun 24-Feb-13 18:27:49

Sounds very positive smile and hope she continues tor recover well.

Back to the hospital tomorrow because the wound is bleeding at the bottom. Not sure what they will do, but glad it is being checked.

LIZS Sat 02-Mar-13 12:00:40

How's she doing now ?

I'm really glad it all went well, didnt want to go into too much detail before your DD's op but mine went a bit wrong! grin

Walking after 3 days was the scariest thing but she's done so well.

My wound went all dodgy and started bleeding at the top but it worked out fine, they redressed it. just that the scar is thicker there now.

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